I am DONE!!!
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brickhouse
Well-Known Member
Hi Armyqt, I know how you feel. My hair will not stop darn shedding.
Sometimes I feel like throwing the towel in but I think I just going to start focusing on having healthy instead of just gaining length. I just wish the shedding and breaking will stop. So these will be my goal and of course if my hair keeps growing that would be peachy. Your hair looks very healthy and I understand how you feel. I just enjoy your posts and you and all the other ladies have really stepped in and answer all the questions I have had. I don't want you to go either.
Take Care
brickhouse
Take Care
brickhouse
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Armyqt said:
Yall are making want to cry even more. I sooo love this board but I'm so sorry. Looking at my pictures just depresses me. I feel like a failure. I mean if you look at my hair a year ago , it's at the same length it is today. I just don't think I can do this anynmore. Believe me, I'm not trying to be dramatic or anything. I'm just sad right now. My hopes were really high. This seems so stupid as I'm typing, yet I can't help how I feel. I'm literally having a meltdown over this. Failure and quitting is not in ny vocab. <font color="blue"> However, there is no logical explanation for why my hair hasn't showed the progress. </font> If I can't idenitfy the problem, how can I fix it? OK, I'm in tears again. I just need to take a break from this whole hair thing and focus on something else.
Now I just need to figure out what the hell I'm gonna do at work all day
. I gotta laugh to keep from crying. Y'all are the best
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You can't leave! Nyambura stamping foot and pouting.
Ok, I mean, I know you can, but I'd miss "seeing" you on the board. Sometimes taking a break from the hair boards can be just what the doctor ordered. Concentrate on other things, then return when you feel like it. Nothing is written in stone - even if you throw in the towel now, there's nothing to stop you from picking it back up after you've had a breather.
As for your hair...I highlighted that part of your quote because I remember you writing in your pix album that the Dominican retouch you got did quite a number on your hair, breaking, shedding, and forcing you to get several trims within a short period of time. I'm thinking the overprocessing incident from last year (December, I think?) could be the reason your hair isn't where you expected it to be by now.
BUT - there are many folks (I've been one of them) who've suffered from overprocessing breakage to such an extent, it looked like a free haircut.
I'm not mentioning this to say 'you should feel lucky' or anything shaming. Rather, I'm pointing out that the results of your efforts are significant! Your hair has not only retained the length you had before the overprocessing, your skills have managed to *increase* the length! The difference in length between your Feb and March pix is *definitely* noticeable!
I agree with Beauty, maybe it's a bit hard right now to see the length you did retain because it's different from what you had hoped.
I understand that frustration perfectly...but it doesn't mean your hair didn't get longer, you know? Your hair looks *beautiful*!
Armyqt said:
Yall are making want to cry even more. I sooo love this board but I'm so sorry. Looking at my pictures just depresses me. I feel like a failure. I mean if you look at my hair a year ago , it's at the same length it is today. I just don't think I can do this anynmore. Believe me, I'm not trying to be dramatic or anything. I'm just sad right now. My hopes were really high. This seems so stupid as I'm typing, yet I can't help how I feel. I'm literally having a meltdown over this. Failure and quitting is not in ny vocab. <font color="blue"> However, there is no logical explanation for why my hair hasn't showed the progress. </font> If I can't idenitfy the problem, how can I fix it? OK, I'm in tears again. I just need to take a break from this whole hair thing and focus on something else.
Now I just need to figure out what the hell I'm gonna do at work all day
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You can't leave! Nyambura stamping foot and pouting.
Ok, I mean, I know you can, but I'd miss "seeing" you on the board. Sometimes taking a break from the hair boards can be just what the doctor ordered. Concentrate on other things, then return when you feel like it. Nothing is written in stone - even if you throw in the towel now, there's nothing to stop you from picking it back up after you've had a breather.
As for your hair...I highlighted that part of your quote because I remember you writing in your pix album that the Dominican retouch you got did quite a number on your hair, breaking, shedding, and forcing you to get several trims within a short period of time. I'm thinking the overprocessing incident from last year (December, I think?) could be the reason your hair isn't where you expected it to be by now.
BUT - there are many folks (I've been one of them) who've suffered from overprocessing breakage to such an extent, it looked like a free haircut.
I agree with Beauty, maybe it's a bit hard right now to see the length you did retain because it's different from what you had hoped.
miss_brown
New Member
AQT -
First of all, your hair looks absolutely WONDERFUL.
It's thick, lush, and very healthy looking.
Re this situation, I think that the other ladies have given you very plausible explanations:
1. You may have measured new growth incorrectly
2. You may have experienced more breakage than you anticipated from the overprocessing
3. You may have styled your hair differently this time, which makes the length difference look like less/more than it is
4. Since your new growth was so loose, you may have mistakenly already factored that length in
In any case, I want you to stick around so we can figure out what the prob is!
In the meantime, instead of leaving, just simplify your regimen. You once told me how much growth you got from just applying conditioner to your ends and pulling your hair back. Maybe you should revisit those days.
More importantly, no matter how your hair looks, you are a beautiful person inside and out (y'all she's even prettier in person
) and LHCF needs you.
DON'T YOU DARE LEAVE US!
First of all, your hair looks absolutely WONDERFUL.
1. You may have measured new growth incorrectly
2. You may have experienced more breakage than you anticipated from the overprocessing
3. You may have styled your hair differently this time, which makes the length difference look like less/more than it is
4. Since your new growth was so loose, you may have mistakenly already factored that length in
In any case, I want you to stick around so we can figure out what the prob is!
In the meantime, instead of leaving, just simplify your regimen. You once told me how much growth you got from just applying conditioner to your ends and pulling your hair back. Maybe you should revisit those days.
More importantly, no matter how your hair looks, you are a beautiful person inside and out (y'all she's even prettier in person
dontspeakdefeat
Hair Coach
ArmyQT you have beautiful hair! Please please please give up completely.
You may be at a point where a break is needed. You may be stressing over growing your hair longer and your hair is responding to that. Sometimes a break in what we need.
I tell you though once your break is over and you have rethought everything relating to your hair, come back fresh and renewed and ready to grow some hair! I now you can do it as long as you Don't Speak Defeat
You may be at a point where a break is needed. You may be stressing over growing your hair longer and your hair is responding to that. Sometimes a break in what we need.
I tell you though once your break is over and you have rethought everything relating to your hair, come back fresh and renewed and ready to grow some hair! I now you can do it as long as you Don't Speak Defeat
DigitalRain
Well-Known Member
While I don't think you should leave, I do think you were right when you said you need to focus on other things. Waiting for hair to grow is like waiting for water to boil. I find that my hair seemingly grows fastest when I am not paying much attention to it. Overanalyzing,measuring and waiting for growth can be discouraging. Just continue taking care of it and leave it at that. You'll have the length you want in no time.
armyqt.....i looked at your pics and like the other ladies says i can see that it has grown also. it's beautiful!! don't be discouraged. i know how u feel because at one point all my emphasis was on my hair. now i just keep with my regimen and dont think on it like i did then. keep going. it's paying off!
Armyqt
New Member
Okay, y'all gave me some very plausible explanantions. And you're right. Maybe it was the trims. I did have a lot of new growth. And it was really loose. So maybe I would've noticed the progress more, had I not have to do those trims. But in the meantime, I babied my ends and kept them moisturized. I can honesly say that my hair thanked me for all the extra TLC it got. I had no shedding at all. Through the entire 15 weeks it was the first time I was so pleased with my regimen and my hair was thriving so well. I'll keep doing what I was doing (which isn't much) and I'll continue to take my vitamins. I will however stop watching the growth (that's the hard part).
Thanks to every one of you beautiful ladies for all your kind words. This journey would be so much harder without you
BMoreFlyy
New Member
Yes, I think your hair is beautiful. I told someone once, who asked me how long my hair was that I didn't measure my hair because it was just like the scale when you're trying to lose weight: It can be depressing. I don't think my hair grows between relaxers, other people do. I feel weird for a few hours and then I get over it. So, I can understand the stressin'. It's going to be fine though. You'll see.
shinyblackhair
Well-Known Member
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DigitalRain said:
While I don't think you should leave, I do think you were right when you said you need to focus on other things. Waiting for hair to grow is like waiting for water to boil. I find that my hair seemingly grows fastest when I am not paying much attention to it. Overanalyzing,measuring and waiting for growth can be discouraging. Just continue taking care of it and leave it at that. You'll have the length you want in no time.
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I agree with this. I have taken to focus on other things. It was getting a little crazy there. I was literally obsessing over when my hair would reach bra strap. Definitely like watching grass grow...I have taken to focusing on other things like skin care, which I had really slacked off on for a while there...also on trying to slim down a bit.
Hang in there, your hair is beautiful and you have a length that a lot of women wish they could achieve, but don't know how. You will get there. Just keep on keppin' on.
DigitalRain said:
While I don't think you should leave, I do think you were right when you said you need to focus on other things. Waiting for hair to grow is like waiting for water to boil. I find that my hair seemingly grows fastest when I am not paying much attention to it. Overanalyzing,measuring and waiting for growth can be discouraging. Just continue taking care of it and leave it at that. You'll have the length you want in no time.
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I agree with this. I have taken to focus on other things. It was getting a little crazy there. I was literally obsessing over when my hair would reach bra strap. Definitely like watching grass grow...I have taken to focusing on other things like skin care, which I had really slacked off on for a while there...also on trying to slim down a bit.
Hang in there, your hair is beautiful and you have a length that a lot of women wish they could achieve, but don't know how. You will get there. Just keep on keppin' on.
Growingitlong
New Member
Armyqt, please donit give up. If you do what shall I do. YOu are one of my inspirations. I am still tryilng to get to your length and health of hair. You hair looks so good. So you have been doing something right. It will happen.
ccd
New Member
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Armyqt said:
Thanks to all you beautiful ladies for all the encouragement and support. Y'all are the best. I have to admit that it all makes me a feel a bit better. I guess the part I'm really struggling with is this. I made up my mind that this would be my last ditch effort to make it to bra strap. That has been my goal for so long and it seems like I'll never get there. I've been on this board forever, since it's infancy, and I still haven't achieved goal one. That is very disheartening. I didn't start out with shoulder length hair. My hair was 2-3inches beneath my shoulders. And after 2 years I still have not made it to my first goal. I admit, the first 1.5 yrs I was learning, tweaking and suffering setbacks. Plus my hair is fine textured and a lot more prone to breakage. But this time around I finally did all the right things. Absolutely no heat. Simple regimen. Took all my vitamins religiously. And this.
Okay, y'all gave me some very plausible explanantions. And you're right. Maybe it was the trims. I did have a lot of new growth. And it was really loose. So maybe I would've noticed the progress more, had I not have to do those trims. But in the meantime, I babied my ends and kept them moisturized. I can honesly say that my hair thanked me for all the extra TLC it got. I had no shedding at all. Through the entire 15 weeks it was the first time I was so pleased with my regimen and my hair was thriving so well. I'll keep doing what I was doing (which isn't much) and I'll continue to take my vitamins. I will however stop watching the growth (that's the hard part).
Thanks to every one of you beautiful ladies for all your kind words. This journey would be so much harder without you
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Army you know I have to say....trims were definitely good for me because I prefer my ends to be even but honestly my "growth" wansn't as noticeable to me either until my stylist didn't trim my ends for I'd say 6 months...my ends where fine ( I was a little past shoulder len. and I keep my hair up ( loosely) for a while) then I" noticed " the growth...my hair had been growing but I was trimming as often as every 7-8 weeks ( every touchup) and that was really not necessary and my growth seemed slow to me but other people noticed.......try and remember the positive things you are doing for you and your hair.....it is working!!!!
Armyqt said:
Okay, y'all gave me some very plausible explanantions. And you're right. Maybe it was the trims. I did have a lot of new growth. And it was really loose. So maybe I would've noticed the progress more, had I not have to do those trims. But in the meantime, I babied my ends and kept them moisturized. I can honesly say that my hair thanked me for all the extra TLC it got. I had no shedding at all. Through the entire 15 weeks it was the first time I was so pleased with my regimen and my hair was thriving so well. I'll keep doing what I was doing (which isn't much) and I'll continue to take my vitamins. I will however stop watching the growth (that's the hard part).
Thanks to every one of you beautiful ladies for all your kind words. This journey would be so much harder without you
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Army you know I have to say....trims were definitely good for me because I prefer my ends to be even but honestly my "growth" wansn't as noticeable to me either until my stylist didn't trim my ends for I'd say 6 months...my ends where fine ( I was a little past shoulder len. and I keep my hair up ( loosely) for a while) then I" noticed " the growth...my hair had been growing but I was trimming as often as every 7-8 weeks ( every touchup) and that was really not necessary and my growth seemed slow to me but other people noticed.......try and remember the positive things you are doing for you and your hair.....it is working!!!!
ccd
New Member
WAIT A MINUTE!!!!!! I just peeped the album.....GURLLLLLLL!!!!
you are too funny! I expecting a totally different head of hair! what I want to know is.........I wanna know how ya get those waves?,....how ya get that shine!!!! how ya get that thickness!!!!? etc,etc,etc
YOUR HAIR IS GORGEOUS!!!! Just stop it now! just stop!......( ok you have the right to be anxious to see "growth" but only for today tomorrow NO WAY!!! You and your hair are B-U_ tiful!!!!!!
you are too funny! I expecting a totally different head of hair! what I want to know is.........I wanna know how ya get those waves?,....how ya get that shine!!!! how ya get that thickness!!!!? etc,etc,etc
YOUR HAIR IS GORGEOUS!!!! Just stop it now! just stop!......( ok you have the right to be anxious to see "growth" but only for today tomorrow NO WAY!!! You and your hair are B-U_ tiful!!!!!!
Armyqt i sorta feel the same way as you. I have real bad dandruff and thinning hair on both side which prevents me from wearing braids i've always wanted because no one can grip the striny lil hairs and if they could they'd probably come right out my head. Its been thin for years ever since i had a perm. Now i don't even think the perm is the culprit its been almost 4 years perm free. Im not talking about a relaxer because im a guy im talking about curly perms. then i started to develop real bad dandruff that forms as soon as i get done washing my hair. I've tried so many things vitamins shampoos all that with no results so its like forget it.
Dont quit please!!!.......are u saying that ure no longer going to care for your hair....?? if u think all the vitamins and protective styles and everything are too much work and in the end dont pay off..i think u should just stick to a simple efective hair care routine and then not worry about it..i think when we stress and put too much emphasis on our hair to grow it can seem like its taking forever..like watching grass grow. Instead dont think about it as much just do a simple regimen, concentrate on other things and in no time u will notice a difference. I stopped analyzing every little inch of my hair a long time ago ..now i just let it do what it does and it surprises me everytime.
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LaNecia
Guest
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Armyqt said:
Thanks to all you beautiful ladies for all the encouragement and support. Y'all are the best. I have to admit that it all makes me a feel a bit better. I guess the part I'm really struggling with is this. I made up my mind that this would be my last ditch effort to make it to bra strap. That has been my goal for so long and it seems like I'll never get there. I've been on this board forever, since it's infancy, and I still haven't achieved goal one. That is very disheartening. I didn't start out with shoulder length hair. My hair was 2-3inches beneath my shoulders. And after 2 years I still have not made it to my first goal. I admit, the first 1.5 yrs I was learning, tweaking and suffering setbacks. Plus my hair is fine textured and a lot more prone to breakage. But this time around I finally did all the right things. Absolutely no heat. Simple regimen. Took all my vitamins religiously. And this.
Okay, y'all gave me some very plausible explanantions. And you're right. Maybe it was the trims. I did have a lot of new growth. And it was really loose. So maybe I would've noticed the progress more, had I not have to do those trims. But in the meantime, I babied my ends and kept them moisturized. I can honesly say that my hair thanked me for all the extra TLC it got. I had no shedding at all. Through the entire 15 weeks it was the first time I was so pleased with my regimen and my hair was thriving so well. I'll keep doing what I was doing (which isn't much) and I'll continue to take my vitamins. I will however stop watching the growth (that's the hard part).
Thanks to every one of you beautiful ladies for all your kind words. This journey would be so much harder without you
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Yeah!!!
Armyqt said:
Okay, y'all gave me some very plausible explanantions. And you're right. Maybe it was the trims. I did have a lot of new growth. And it was really loose. So maybe I would've noticed the progress more, had I not have to do those trims. But in the meantime, I babied my ends and kept them moisturized. I can honesly say that my hair thanked me for all the extra TLC it got. I had no shedding at all. Through the entire 15 weeks it was the first time I was so pleased with my regimen and my hair was thriving so well. I'll keep doing what I was doing (which isn't much) and I'll continue to take my vitamins. I will however stop watching the growth (that's the hard part).
Thanks to every one of you beautiful ladies for all your kind words. This journey would be so much harder without you
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Yeah!!!
A_Christian
New Member
Your hair looks longer to me !!!!! Don't give up. 
miss_brown
New Member
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Armyqt said:
Thanks to all you beautiful ladies for all the encouragement and support. Y'all are the best. I have to admit that it all makes me a feel a bit better. I guess the part I'm really struggling with is this. I made up my mind that this would be my last ditch effort to make it to bra strap. That has been my goal for so long and it seems like I'll never get there. I've been on this board forever, since it's infancy, and I still haven't achieved goal one. That is very disheartening. I didn't start out with shoulder length hair. My hair was 2-3inches beneath my shoulders. And after 2 years I still have not made it to my first goal. I admit, the first 1.5 yrs I was learning, tweaking and suffering setbacks. Plus my hair is fine textured and a lot more prone to breakage. But this time around I finally did all the right things. Absolutely no heat. Simple regimen. Took all my vitamins religiously. And this.
Okay, y'all gave me some very plausible explanantions. And you're right. Maybe it was the trims. I did have a lot of new growth. And it was really loose. So maybe I would've noticed the progress more, had I not have to do those trims. But in the meantime, I babied my ends and kept them moisturized. I can honesly say that my hair thanked me for all the extra TLC it got. I had no shedding at all. Through the entire 15 weeks it was the first time I was so pleased with my regimen and my hair was thriving so well. I'll keep doing what I was doing (which isn't much) and I'll continue to take my vitamins. I will however stop watching the growth (that's the hard part).
Thanks to every one of you beautiful ladies for all your kind words. This journey would be so much harder without you
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Yeah!!!
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Ditto
LaNecia said:
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Armyqt said:
Okay, y'all gave me some very plausible explanantions. And you're right. Maybe it was the trims. I did have a lot of new growth. And it was really loose. So maybe I would've noticed the progress more, had I not have to do those trims. But in the meantime, I babied my ends and kept them moisturized. I can honesly say that my hair thanked me for all the extra TLC it got. I had no shedding at all. Through the entire 15 weeks it was the first time I was so pleased with my regimen and my hair was thriving so well. I'll keep doing what I was doing (which isn't much) and I'll continue to take my vitamins. I will however stop watching the growth (that's the hard part).
Thanks to every one of you beautiful ladies for all your kind words. This journey would be so much harder without you
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Yeah!!!
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Armyqt
New Member
Okay, thanks to every here, I'm feeling tons better about this whole situation now. I have a newfound hope and a muh better prespective. In the midst of my meltdown, I totally ovelooked and didn't bother to report the sucess I had with my actual touch-up.
I used the affirm Fiberguard regular. I am totally happy with the results so far. My hair feels strong and helathy and it's not underprocessed. It still left my hair with some slight waves however (which I like). I used two mirrors and started in the back at the crown. I was completely finished with the application in 10 minutes and continued to use my fingers to smooth each section for another 5. I didn't want my hair to underprocess so I let it marinate for two more and then neutralized. I could've actually rinsed it at 15 and I think I would still have been good. So I am sold. I finally found a relaxer that works well with my hair. This one is actually superior to the regular Affirm.
I used the affirm Fiberguard regular. I am totally happy with the results so far. My hair feels strong and helathy and it's not underprocessed. It still left my hair with some slight waves however (which I like). I used two mirrors and started in the back at the crown. I was completely finished with the application in 10 minutes and continued to use my fingers to smooth each section for another 5. I didn't want my hair to underprocess so I let it marinate for two more and then neutralized. I could've actually rinsed it at 15 and I think I would still have been good. So I am sold. I finally found a relaxer that works well with my hair. This one is actually superior to the regular Affirm.
Islandgirl
New Member
Hi Armyqt,
don't give up. I must admit i have been waiting to see an update on your hair, I remember when you were feature of the month. Also your mom and daughter's hair too.
Anyway, I think your hair looks great. You said that you got a 4 inches cut off last August. Now if hair grows on average 6 inches a year, that would put you on just 2 inches for that year. So maybe that's why it looks the same length, but honestly I do see progress although you got a cut, it does look longer. Hang in there, just take care of your hair (hopefully with no setbacks so that you won't have to cut it again). Happy hair growing.
don't give up. I must admit i have been waiting to see an update on your hair, I remember when you were feature of the month. Also your mom and daughter's hair too.
Anyway, I think your hair looks great. You said that you got a 4 inches cut off last August. Now if hair grows on average 6 inches a year, that would put you on just 2 inches for that year. So maybe that's why it looks the same length, but honestly I do see progress although you got a cut, it does look longer. Hang in there, just take care of your hair (hopefully with no setbacks so that you won't have to cut it again). Happy hair growing.
