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My SO has told two of my friends while I wasn't around that he is ready for a baby but has NEVER mentioned that to me. We talk about the future, getting married, buying a home and what roles will play often. But he has never confessed to me that he wants a kid. The 1st time was in May when we were in Cali visiting my sister. I left him in the car w/one of my friends to go and get my friend out of the house. I was gon' all of 3 min. and they managed to have a conversation about him being ready to be a father and that he wants a child by next year ![Blush :blush: :blush:](/smilies/blush3.gif)
I let that one go, although I felt a lil' awkward about it, b/c I was like man I step out the car and at the time the convo was no where near that, so how did they develop that convo in such a short time. So I blew that one off like whatever.
Well last night, I'm talking to bff and we were talking about having children one day and she asked me if I were to get pregnant now if I would keep the baby. I said, "sure and besides I think SO would kill me". She said, "oh yeah he did tell me the other day that he really wants a baby". So now I'm like WTF? Why do he keep telling my friends that he want a baby and not me? I was so embarrassed when she said that b/c I had to probe for more information to why he said that to her. So after that conversation I was mad, I wanted to call and wake him up but we're doing so well I didn't want to be confrontational.
So I'm lying in the bed just thinking about diff. things and I recall 2 convos when I told him I was excited about getting married, having a kid one day and that being a mom is my biggest dream. <<<<---that was an opportunity to tell me then, if for some reason he isn't comfortable telling me, which I can't see why he wouldn't tell me, he tells me everything else.
For Thanksgiving his mom said she had a dream that we had 8 kids and he was all like noooo, that's way too many and I was saying, "pop em' out, pop em' out". Out of pure jest, but I know I always make the idea of having children welcomed.
Well I have come to the conclusion that maybe he wants a baby, but not w/me....![Sad :sad: :sad:](/smilies/sad.gif)
How would you feel about this? Am I overreacating
![Blush :blush: :blush:](/smilies/blush3.gif)
I let that one go, although I felt a lil' awkward about it, b/c I was like man I step out the car and at the time the convo was no where near that, so how did they develop that convo in such a short time. So I blew that one off like whatever.
Well last night, I'm talking to bff and we were talking about having children one day and she asked me if I were to get pregnant now if I would keep the baby. I said, "sure and besides I think SO would kill me". She said, "oh yeah he did tell me the other day that he really wants a baby". So now I'm like WTF? Why do he keep telling my friends that he want a baby and not me? I was so embarrassed when she said that b/c I had to probe for more information to why he said that to her. So after that conversation I was mad, I wanted to call and wake him up but we're doing so well I didn't want to be confrontational.
So I'm lying in the bed just thinking about diff. things and I recall 2 convos when I told him I was excited about getting married, having a kid one day and that being a mom is my biggest dream. <<<<---that was an opportunity to tell me then, if for some reason he isn't comfortable telling me, which I can't see why he wouldn't tell me, he tells me everything else.
For Thanksgiving his mom said she had a dream that we had 8 kids and he was all like noooo, that's way too many and I was saying, "pop em' out, pop em' out". Out of pure jest, but I know I always make the idea of having children welcomed.
Well I have come to the conclusion that maybe he wants a baby, but not w/me....
![Sad :sad: :sad:](/smilies/sad.gif)
How would you feel about this? Am I overreacating