While I definitely agree with how society is today regarding self involvement and grandiosity. I strongly believe that Narcissism as a pathology is not rare at all. I think it's quite common but diagnosing it is very difficult because these people rarely seek help as they feel they dont need any. ALSO, I think many people really dont understand what a pathological narcissist really is. Most think it's grandiosity, overself involvment, conceit, high confidence, etc. When they actually see a PN, without knowing what it is, they would think this person was the most selfish, non empathetic, non compassionate, arugmentative, crazy maker, gaslighter, just damn miserable....narcissism would not come to the average mind.
(I didnt click the links but I'm guessing they explain it.)
As I stated many months ago in another thread, I suspected that my dh had strong narcisisstic traits and it was driving me insane dealing with it. I did so much studying and reading up on it only to come to find out that I knew quite a few folks in my past circle where the same way.
While I have come to grips with my personal situation learning how to deal with him and him with me, it has in NO way been easy but it gets better thank God because he knows the issues and works on them.
If you go to message board like Lisa Scott's for example, you will see just how many people suffer from being in relationships with pathologica narcs.
I tell you my mind was blown.