Kinkyhairlady
Well-Known Member
I know this is a silly question but given my track record I think I have been doing everything wrong. I started off the new year kind of sad but I am better now and I want to get out there and start dating again. All of 2010 I did not date and it was a pretty lonely year. I refuse for the same thing to happen this year. I have a couple of friends who want to introduce me to people but I am nervous because I do not want to screw anything up.
I noticed because I live alone men always suggest coming over which I hate, usually I say
no or lie and say I have relatives staying with me (then they think I am odd because of that). Second I realize I always have to make the plans to go out somewhere like choose a restaurant etc. I don’t want that role anymore, I want someone who will wine and dine me and can think on his own. When do I agree to go on a date, after a couple of days of talking or a couple of weeks, I tend to like to talk for at least 1 to 2 weeks before going out.
I know what I want but I don’t want it to come off as to picky. Also I need to find out if the person is serious or not without sounding like I want to marry him asap. I have to do things different this year to see how it plays out. Years prior I was too in a rush and all over the place. did not know what I was doing but I am more focused but don't know how to play this dating game. Also I don't need every man I date knowing where I live either, how do you do that without offending them?
I noticed because I live alone men always suggest coming over which I hate, usually I say
no or lie and say I have relatives staying with me (then they think I am odd because of that). Second I realize I always have to make the plans to go out somewhere like choose a restaurant etc. I don’t want that role anymore, I want someone who will wine and dine me and can think on his own. When do I agree to go on a date, after a couple of days of talking or a couple of weeks, I tend to like to talk for at least 1 to 2 weeks before going out.
I know what I want but I don’t want it to come off as to picky. Also I need to find out if the person is serious or not without sounding like I want to marry him asap. I have to do things different this year to see how it plays out. Years prior I was too in a rush and all over the place. did not know what I was doing but I am more focused but don't know how to play this dating game. Also I don't need every man I date knowing where I live either, how do you do that without offending them?