Enyo
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How To Break Up w/ Single Dad? (UPDATE, P. 2)
Ok, Ladies. I have a question for you. I've had a couple "dates" with a great guy, but he's a single dad and I don't like or want kids. I'm kind of torn because it's so hard to find someone here in Hawaii for a number of reasons. We both have had bad luck since moving here. He has everything going for him, but he always takes his son whenever we go out and it's insanely awkward. I don't like having to compete for his attention, having the kid interrupt ever 30 seconds, or having to keep my topics kid friendly because his son is always there. When we go out I feel like a third wheel and I hate it.
I know I have to stop seeing him, but I'm not sure what to tell him. Should I be honest and say I'm just not a kid person? Make something up? People can get really sensitive about their kids. I can tell he really likes me but I do not see a future with anyone who has full custody. Even partial custody is a turn off. I feel guilty because I admire that he's a great dad, but that is also why I can't be with him. I've never dated a guy with kids so I'm not sure how honest I should be. Thanks.
ETA: And WHERE should I do it? Email and phone seem rude, but that's the only time I can have a private conversation with him.
Ok, Ladies. I have a question for you. I've had a couple "dates" with a great guy, but he's a single dad and I don't like or want kids. I'm kind of torn because it's so hard to find someone here in Hawaii for a number of reasons. We both have had bad luck since moving here. He has everything going for him, but he always takes his son whenever we go out and it's insanely awkward. I don't like having to compete for his attention, having the kid interrupt ever 30 seconds, or having to keep my topics kid friendly because his son is always there. When we go out I feel like a third wheel and I hate it.
I know I have to stop seeing him, but I'm not sure what to tell him. Should I be honest and say I'm just not a kid person? Make something up? People can get really sensitive about their kids. I can tell he really likes me but I do not see a future with anyone who has full custody. Even partial custody is a turn off. I feel guilty because I admire that he's a great dad, but that is also why I can't be with him. I've never dated a guy with kids so I'm not sure how honest I should be. Thanks.
ETA: And WHERE should I do it? Email and phone seem rude, but that's the only time I can have a private conversation with him.
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