So I set my sights on 2 guys at work... Huge company. It's actually very common for people to find and marry other coworkers here, so not a conflict of interest.
1 guy is riiiiiiiiiiiiiicccccccccccccccccccccccccccch. The other is financially on my level. They both share a name....
So guy #1- met him at the company Halloween party. I was there with a friend/coworker who was acting as my wing woman. She disappeared into the crowd and came back to the dance floor with him and intro'd us. *She's the best wing woman*
I invited him to go to a bar with us after. He said he didn't have his wallet, but I said it was cool he could just venmo me the money later.
The next day he IMs me asking me for my Venmo username. I replied, "It was great meeting you too! Don't worry about the funds. But I will take you up on your offer to show me where to find the good food on main campus."
To be fair... he didn't invite me to lunch. BUT we did talk about the good restaurants on campus, so I figured I'd invite him to invite me to lunch.
He caught the bait.
Long story short we get together for lunch. He immediately says he likes my natural hair. He suggested after our meal we hit up the coffee shop, so in total we spent 2 hours together. In my heart, I don't think we'd have a 2 hour lunch in the middle of a busy work day if he didn't enjoy my company.
But alas... haven't heard from him. I know work gets busy and the holiday rolled up, but I'm not in the market to chase a man.... but...
I do feel there's a window of opportunity when it comes to pursuing something romantic (a very limited window after meeting someone to make something happen). If there's one thing I learned in Psych in college is that people fall in love due to proximity, but I have no reason to be on his campus on a regular basis. So I've gotta be more strategic and not a stalker.
One last ditch effort, my friend wanted us to eat on main more often. Everyone's calendars at work are open, and we're both free Friday, so I figured my friend and I can go to lunch on main Friday, and I can extend an invitation to join. *Kanye shrug* I'll just ask him that morning so it doesn't seem as pre-meditated as it actually is. lol
Anyway........ the reason I suspect he's got some dough.... is that when I asked him what he did prior to working for our comp, he said... all nonchalantly that he owned a Software Company. Now in the land of Start Ups and Failures that could mean a lot or nothing, but in this case it seems very promising.
I like an enterprising man... those are the building blocks I can work with.
Now guy #2... he works in the same division as I. I'm more senior, but he'll never directly report to me. But the gem is he's in grad school. He wants a complete career overhaul and is working towards a new direction in a new industry. I like how hard working he is. He's on the upswing. He's super chill. We hang out often and often eat together on campus...I rewrote his resume for him. We watched the election results together. Fun times, but we've never been on a date or anything.
So really--- I have no prospects, but I've got some warm leads lol.
What's funny is after guy #1 left the bar, me and my wing woman went to the restroom, and I gushed how out of all the guys we met that night, he was by far in the lead. I go into the stall and BAM on the back of the door is an advertisement with his name. I figured it was a sign from God... and I keep seeing his name pop up.
It wasn't until a few days later I realized guy #2's last name is guy #1's first name. So as someone who believes in signs... I'm confused. Guess God is just giving me options.
*fingers crossed and Kanye Shrugs*
We shall see if any of this is worth me coming out of retirement for.
I need a prayer circle like y'all gave Cici and Rus. I'm banking on guy #1, but there's so much potential I don't see how I could go wrong with either.
SideNote: Normally I don't believe in pooping where you eat. Now if I met these individuals at the club or on an app I'd figure they aren't interested, but being coworkers adds a certain level of professionalism and decorum that needs to be maintained at all times. We've all taken enough sexual harassment trainings to know that's a line you don't want to cross, so I wonder if it's an issue or non-romantic interest or hesitation due to the circumstance. This is uncharted territory for me.
We'll see how the next month plays out for both before I make my final judgement call.
Any advice on how to give these guys the green light while still being professional about the whole thing. Oh and there's an element of interracial-ness with me and guy #1. I've definitely had convos with non-black men who have told me they are afraid to approach black women b/c they assume we only date black men and will reject me.
Ugh... I hope I don't Molly out. #HBOInsecure