How many red flags is enough!

[**SaSSy**]

He didn't give you his house number.
He didn't tell you who he lives with.
He's "tired" everytime you talk to him, or with him.

Add to this list!

 

[Lucie]

• If you even look at his phone it may result in the end of your life
• You don't need to meet his friends
• He only takes you out at night
• He can never spend a holiday with you
• If you love him you will do it "raw"
• He needs to borrow your car to go visit his mama
• He gets paid off the books
• He forgets to call you often
• He couldn't call you because he went out of state to take care of something with his boys
• He almost slapped the waitress for getting his order wrong
• He orders for you regardless of whether you like his choice or not
• He always takes you out 20+ miles from your house
• He does not EVER get your text messages or voicemail. Apparently, Verizon is horrible

 

[stinastina]

He doesn't know how many kids he has.
He doesn't have a car.

 

[Lucie]

• He forgot his phone at home, his friend's car, church, the restaurant, and that's why he has not answered your calls. It's impossible for him to check voicemail except through his phone
• He never wants to get married but does not mind dating
• He does not spend time with all of his children because his babymama is on some bullisht
• He wants to borrow some money early on in your relationship
• He does not have health insurance
• He has a $80,000 car with out-of-state plates but lives in a bad area with his mama

 

[delp]

• 
  [*]If you even look at his phone it may result in the end of your life
• You don't need you to meet his friends
• He only takes you out at night
• He can never spend a holiday with you
• If you love him you will do it "raw"
  [*]He needs to borrow your car to go visit his mama
  [*]He gets paid off the books
• He forgets to call you often
• He couldn't call you because he went out of state to take care of something with his boys
• He almost slapped the waitress for getting his order wrong
• He orders for you regardless of whether you like his choice or not
• He always takes you out 20+ miles from your house
  [*]He does not EVER get your text messages or voicemail. Apparently, Verizon is horrible

LOL... Soo TRUE........

 

[victorious]

He's done lots of errands/favors for his family and attended many family events, yet you haven't met anyone in his family...not Mom, Dad, Sis, Bro, Uncle, Aunt Tee Tee, Cousin Pookie, Man-Man, or even Rufus (the family dog).

 

[Everything Zen]

A gay friend/associate comes up to you and tells you about an encounter with your bf and he has no idea that you two are an item...

 

[Covergirl5906]

@ this post...and to think some women act like they don't see these red flags...bright at they are :crazy:

 

[MJ]

• Asks you to do his hair for him within days of meeting you!
• He works in construction but says his boss never pays him ontime, so he never has any money.
• He asks you for $1.50 to take the bus! (Grown *** man, no shame).
• He talks about how much he cares about you, but never takes you out, never shows any interest in doing so, and always wants to come over to your place.
• He makes too many excuses.
• He cusses out a cab driver because the driver told him the fare was $17 and he believe it should have been $16!
• He tells you he went to a weekend wedding in N. Carolina, but a few months later (after you've dropped him and he's trying to weasel his way back into your life) he tells you it was in Georgia.

Covergirl5906... some women act like they don't see these red flags...bright at they are

Most of the points on the list were flags that I'd ignored. Honestly, I didn't know better and was seriously confused. On the one hand I've learned and was taught that nobody's perfect and not to judge, and on the other I'm learning that I should never tolerate or ignore anything that makes me feel uneasy about a person's character. Hindsight is a beyootch .

 

[nappi]

doesn't give u his # cuz he has no fixed/permanent address
ask to use ur VISA so he can rent a car
NEVER has money w/ him
always wanting 2 spend the nite
wants 2 move in after only like a month of knowing each other
always telling you how he's gonna make u his wife........some day
gives u $4.00 for gas money
(this fool) tried to haggle over the price of a pizza
instead of going out to eat offers to cook u spaghetti
ask if u a strong back/high stamina

 

[Lucie]

doesn't give u his # cuz he has no fixed/permanent address
ask to use ur VISA so he can rent a car
NEVER has money w/ him
always wanting 2 spend the nite
wants 2 move in after only like a month of knowing each other
always telling you how he's gonna make u his wife........some day
gives u $4.00 for gas money
(this fool) tried to haggle over the price of a pizza
instead of going out to eat offers to cook u spaghetti
ask if u a strong back/high stamina

LOL If I had $1 for every guy I knew that did this, I'd be rich

 

[sunnydaze]

Talks about quitting his job to start a business.

 

[prettypuff1]

These are a few subtle ones that we forget

Anytime he tells you that he knows where all of the security cameras are in a store, and he isn't working retail.

Someone who doesnt pay bills..... To the point of repossession

 

[itismehmmkay]

• He forgot his phone at home, his friend's car, church, the restaurant, and that's why he has not answered your calls. It's impossible for him to check voicemail except through his phone
• He never wants to get married but does not mind dating
• He does not spend time with all of his children because his babymama is on some bullisht
• He wants to borrow some money early on in your relationship
• He does not have health insurance
• He has a $80,000 car with out-of-state plates but lives in a bad area with his mama

and...

Talks about quitting his job to start a business.

 

[HoneyA]

These are a few subtle ones that we forget

Anytime he tells you that he knows where all of the security cameras are in a store, and he isn't working retail.

Someone who doesnt pay bills..... To the point of repossession

 

[Spongie Bloom]

doesn't give u his # cuz he has no fixed/permanent address
ask to use ur VISA so he can rent a car
NEVER has money w/ him
always wanting 2 spend the nite
wants 2 move in after only like a month of knowing each other
always telling you how he's gonna make u his wife........some day
gives u $4.00 for gas money
(this fool) tried to haggle over the price of a pizza
instead of going out to eat offers to cook u spaghetti
ask if u a strong back/high stamina

oh hell naw

doesnt seem health conscious
doesnt want to use a condom
stops calling or doesnt call as often
always has an excuse to leave after spending time with you
doesnt want to take you out and just wants to 'cuddle'
is all nice when you are together but seems liek a different person on teh fone, on msn e.t.c
always has no money to call take you out etc
falls in 'love' way too quickly ..in 3 days

 

[DaPPeR]

bumping.....I love the responses...so damn true

I should add...

NEVER ANSWERS HIS PHONE AROUND U.

Every girl is his HOMEGIRL

A guy with too many female friends

His phone is off often.

You call him at 6pm, he doesn't return your call until 12 in the morning..

 

[comike]

- He only calls you at certain times of the day.

- He never calls you back when he says he will.

- He mysteriously disappears for a few days.

- He has two personal cell phones (cell phone numbers)

 

[stinastina]

Talks about quitting his job to start a business.

Right ? Or any variation of that theme including being any kind of "producer" on the side: movie, music, rap, etc.

 

[Cloud06]

Its seems like every man I meet does three or more of these things. Is it possible to find a man who is completely void of all these qualities, or am I doomed to suffer single-dom forever?

 

[malachi74]

• he has his boys answering his cell phone
• he calls you back from various numbers
• you've been playing phone tag for months!

 

[**SaSSy**]

LOL another one is:

You been dating him and it's his b-day, you want to be with him on that day, but his "mother" is taking him out instead. Then he calls you at like 9 to say he didn't go out with his mother but instead stayed "home".
Then he talks about who he spend his b-day with two years in a row with and how it was fun!

erplexed

 

[QUINN]

• He forgot his phone at home, his friend's car, church, the restaurant, and that's why he has not answered your calls. It's impossible for him to check voicemail except through his phone
• He never wants to get married but does not mind dating
• He does not spend time with all of his children because his babymama is on some bullisht
• He wants to borrow some money early on in your relationship
• He does not have health insurance
• He has a $80,000 car with out-of-state plates but lives in a bad area with his mama

All b.s aside, I know this Nicca! Thank God DF came along. Thank you Jesus, DF came along!

 

[Lucie]

All b.s aside, I know this Nicca! Thank God DF came along. Thank you Jesus, DF came along!

I think we all do .

 

[rdm]

Talks about quitting his job to start a business.

or a career rapping.

 

[Lucie]

or a career rapping.

You made me instantly roll my eyes

When I was younger I cannot tell you how many guys I dated that would always want to "spit lyrics" for me out of their Marble notebook erplexed.

There was never a Plan-B either. It was either rap/die!

 

[cocoaluv]

doesn't give u his # cuz he has no fixed/permanent address
ask to use ur VISA so he can rent a car
NEVER has money w/ him
always wanting 2 spend the nite
wants 2 move in after only like a month of knowing each other
always telling you how he's gonna make u his wife........some day
gives u $4.00 for gas money
(this fool) tried to haggle over the price of a pizza
instead of going out to eat offers to cook u spaghetti
ask if u a strong back/high stamina

WTF does he want a mule?

 

[BeautyPoint]

• His Cricket phone is disconnected every month like clockwork and he has NO shame about it when you tell him you tried to call him.
• He always have the po' mouth around you. Always complaining about what "he ain't got", how much money he had to kick out or how he had to borrow some money from a friend. (he's secretly hoping you will volunteer some money to his "I ain't got" fund.....uh, Not!)
• Drives a truck the size of a bus, but the gas hand is always on "E". The truck probably has never known what it feels like to be on Full. Gets offended when you suggest he downgrades.
• He is always bored but complains about money. Ok, you shouldn't be bored and broke. You need to put your *** in motion and get on your grind fool!
• He's always in the mirror and when you two hug while standing in the mirror, he ain't paying your *** no mind because he's too busy jocking his reflection. (narcissist)

 

[imstush]

You made me instantly roll my eyes

When I was younger I cannot tell you how many guys I dated that would always want to "spit lyrics" for me out of their Marble notebook erplexed.

There was never a Plan-B either. It was either rap/die!

Starts off every sentence with "Da Man"
Starts off every other sentence with "Yo Ma lemme tell u/Yo son lemme tell u"
Has numerous kids and or baby mommas
Talks about his ex gf's or bm's like dogs
"Can you pay my cable bill and I will pay you back next week"
He's a "rapper" and the only channel you have seen his "video" on is BCAT

 

[DayStar]

he doesnt invite you to his house

he doesnt call you to say he isnt coming to something you both planned and when he does he makes up an excuse like "his aunt died"

hes been to prision

he gets angry when you ask him questions

he doesnt answer the phone when you call

he never gets your messages

he blames you for his stupidity (baby, you are trippin')

...thank God for experience...