It's funny because I was just talking to my mom recently about this very thing. For me, my father has never been in my life, he was around for a little while when I was younger, last saw him when I was 11. I wasnt raised by my mom, instead by my god-mother's family, and ironically my half brother (my father's son) lived across the hall from me with his mom! Yeah looooooooooooong story on that one, lol. Anyways. I think my experiences with him have REALLY skewed my view of most black men. In my 28 years, I've only dated 3 and only one was a semi serious relationship, and I have a real problem dating or allowing myself to get into a relationship with black men. To me I see them as irresponsible and not completely respectful of women, not willing to open themselves to things culturally artistic and beyond the scope of their own environments, walking around with pants hanging off their ankles which I think is repulsive, not speaking "proper" english which to me shows ignorance -- and I KNOW these are such retarded and prejudiced thoughts because I don't see the men in my family whom I do admire as being as such, they are almost to me like the exception but I can never find a man that I would want to get involved with whom I wouldnt first judge. My best friend hates that I mostly date white men, hell they are f*ckin jerks too at times, but my experiences have me in this crazy thought pattern that if faced with the choice between a white and a black man I'd choose the former instead of the latter. I'm really trying to work to change this because I realize that it's really f-ed up and that no matter what the race of the man I marry my son will always be a black male and I would never want anyone to judge him in that way... Additionally my favorite guy (my 12 yr old nephew) is my heart, and if any women were to say the crap that I say about him, I'd snatch a patch out of her head! lol
What's even more ironic... My father really has a disdain for black women, and my mother was the only one he could stand to date. He only dated white women. He wanted to be with her to settle down, but because of his ways, she refused.... When I say his ways I'm partly talking about he fact that I have ANOTHER brother through him that is MY AGE (both my brothers are bi-racial).