It seems like we've all been there. Meet men whom we love, whom we care about, who we think have soooooo much potential, if only they'd hurry up and get "there" (wherever there is). They're attractive but a commitment-phobes. They look great on paper (education, career etc) but seem to think that pursuing a career and pursuing a relationship are mutually exclusive (career first mantra). They've met our families but we haven't met theirs. Their primary form of communication when dealing with serious issues is text message. They throw bait out there to keep us around but keep us at arm's distance.
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So first - in order to "get down" you've got to admit that you've settled. No "holier than thous" allowed.
Second - acknowledge the moment you realized you were settling.
Third, list at least one thing you're not going to do when it comes to relationships in the new year.
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I, MsNadi have settled by falling in love with and trying to nurture who I thought he COULD be rather than who he WAS.
I realized I was settling when I found myself treating him how I wanted to be treated, only to later realize that he came to take these "treatments" for granted (they were no longer treats, but became expectations) without returning the favor.
For the New Year (and ever): I'm treating ME how I want to be treated. Learn, take notes...and
(DivineInspiration!)
Contribute to what I'm already doing for myself, or kick rocks.
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So first - in order to "get down" you've got to admit that you've settled. No "holier than thous" allowed.
Second - acknowledge the moment you realized you were settling.
Third, list at least one thing you're not going to do when it comes to relationships in the new year.
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I, MsNadi have settled by falling in love with and trying to nurture who I thought he COULD be rather than who he WAS.
I realized I was settling when I found myself treating him how I wanted to be treated, only to later realize that he came to take these "treatments" for granted (they were no longer treats, but became expectations) without returning the favor.
For the New Year (and ever): I'm treating ME how I want to be treated. Learn, take notes...and
(DivineInspiration!)
Contribute to what I'm already doing for myself, or kick rocks.
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