He wants us go to counseling......

[Innocent_Kiss]

My bf wants us to go to counseling. A friend of mine gave me the number to a Christian counselor who she said saved her relationship (she's now married with a little boy) ...but I'm not sure how to move forward. Should I call? Should I let him call? Should we call together? I swear you ladies are the only people I share my business with I guess I just wanted some one's feed back. Have any of you ever successfully completed counseling services with a significant other? How did it go?

 

[JustKiya]

If he wants y'all to go to counseling, then he should do all of the legwork to make it possible. I'd just give him that number and tell him that it was a counselor suggested to you by a friend, and let him do the work.

Good luck!

 

[Transformer]

If he wants y'all to go to counseling, then he should do all of the legwork to make it possible. I'd just give him that number and tell him that it was a counselor suggested to you by a friend, and let him do the work.

Good luck!

Yep, it would show his commitment to counseling. I don't know too any non-married personnel that has gone to counseling to save their "relationship."

This is seperate from "pre-marital counseling" right?

 

[Innocent_Kiss]

See, that's why I love yall! Thanks ladies.

Yeah, this is seperate from pre-marital counseling I guess? We're not engaged but we want to get married eventually. He'd like to NOW, but I feel like marriage won't fix our problems. I want him to show the effort into fixing things now because I feel like he's using marriage as a solution. Am I wrong for feeling this way?

 

[Transformer]

No--you're not wrong. Make sure he also pays!

 

[Supervixen]

ETA: Edited as an oversharing moment.

 

[Innocent_Kiss]

No--you're not wrong. Make sure he also pays!

Girl, you know it!

...he's already called and set things up. We go tomorrow at 1:30p...dang...maybe he is serious? I just gave him the number like 10 mins ago. I'll let you ladies know how things go and thanks so much for your feed back!

 

[Ediese]

Good luck! It's nice to see that he suggested it, and is actually putting in the work to make it happen.

I suggested it to my ex, but he refused. lol He felt like his was the voice of reason, and that he was the only couselor we needed. lmbo

 

[FlowerHair]

He seems serious about your relationship and willing to work on it with a professional. That's a really good sign IMO.

Good luck!