He used to go to sex parlors and swapping clubs...

[anon123]

I'll go ahead and be the odd one out and say it would make me really uncomfortable. I'd definitely be feeling some kind of way about it. It's the kind of thing that may intrigue me in principle but I wouldn't want to be with anyone doing it. But we're married now and if he's really not into that lifestyle anymore, I guess I'd learn to live with it.

 

[QueenNefi]

I don't see it as condemning him for his past but rather questioning how he has portrayed himself in the relationship. If he"s not honest about who he was, is he being honest about himself presently. It's not about his sexuality but his integrity and being forthcoming when you enter a union that should be built on honesty and trust. She is married to someone but does she know who he really is?

 

[Bene]

Okay... I have some questions.

WHY would he keep the receipts for something like that??? I mean, I doubt he could claim a handjob as a tax write-off, and unless he has some kinky sort of job, I doubt an employer would reimburse him for that.


Why would he leave that sort of thing lying around at his mom's place? When I moved out, my mom was all up in the junk I left behind. I'd be mortified if my mom found some "happy ending" receipts while rummaging through my crap.




Oh, as for asking him details... He just might be ashamed about the whole thing. It was his pre-marriage life, after all. I'd give him a pass if he were a little reticent about full disclosure.