While in a long-term relationship?
I have low self-esteem and it's recently extended into my sex-life. Basically, we didn't have sex for awhile and my self-esteem in that area died, and when we did finally have it all I could think about was how terrible I must be. We've already talked about that aspect, but I haven't proposed this idea to him yet.
I'm thinking about taking an intimacy break so that I can develop my self-esteem/feel good about myself in other areas, then re-tackle/practice that one with a more healthy mindset. My theory is that if I feel good about myself in general, I can look at this as simply a problem to be solved and actually solve it instead of not being to do/try anything because I keep putting myself down during the act.
Has anyone taken a break like this (for any reason), and how did it turn out? Did it affect the relationship (positively or negatively) and how long did you do it for?
I have low self-esteem and it's recently extended into my sex-life. Basically, we didn't have sex for awhile and my self-esteem in that area died, and when we did finally have it all I could think about was how terrible I must be. We've already talked about that aspect, but I haven't proposed this idea to him yet.
I'm thinking about taking an intimacy break so that I can develop my self-esteem/feel good about myself in other areas, then re-tackle/practice that one with a more healthy mindset. My theory is that if I feel good about myself in general, I can look at this as simply a problem to be solved and actually solve it instead of not being to do/try anything because I keep putting myself down during the act.
Has anyone taken a break like this (for any reason), and how did it turn out? Did it affect the relationship (positively or negatively) and how long did you do it for?