Yes, my neighbor (and good friend) decided to stop relaxing too. She has simply beautiful natural 3b/3c hair--but she is afraid to wear it out right now, b/c she is only APL (she wants it longer, so she still wears wigs). She also adopted my regimen of wig-wearing with cornrows underneath as a PS and to help her transition.
Due to a bad sew-in she had to chop off her hair late last yr, so she is completely natural now, and I BC'd in Jan. My sister (who always said she
couldn't go w/o a relaxer--as if her life depended on it) is now all of a sudden saying her "stylist told her she has a good grade of hair, doesn't need a relaxer, and can just get it blow-dried and curled for a straight look."
I don't doubt the stylist said that, but I think if she sticks with this relaxer stretching, she may go natural after seeing my hair nxt month! Imma rock my curls with pride, cuz there are some other folks I need to transition since them having any hair left in 10 yrs depends on it (ahem, my mother)...but I know she won't ever go natural--she will probably still be relaxing at 70 yrs old. #BRAINWASHED.
Don't you know she had the nerve to say that in her opinion, "natural hair doesn't go well with a nice outfit--it makes the outfit look unkempt." <<I guess she meant curly, kinky, coily, textured, wavy hair in it's natural state, not heat-trained. I guess the only way black women can wear their hair and have her approve is straightened (pressed, relaxed, etc) or braided.
[SIGH] Some people are so stuck in their ways they will NEVER change, and
it's sad.
However, I'm thankful to the Almighty that I saw the light and stopped listening to her YEARS AGO.
There is no earthly reason why I should have EVER had a relaxer...my hair is soft and not hard to manage, as she said the opposite about it.
But, leaving it up to her I had a relaxer for a good 17 yrs, and b/c of her asinine views on natural hair, I actually thought I
NEEDED one.