Such as shame too many think beauty and sexiness is only valid when you are less than 40.
We are Just Hitting Our Stride at 40 and Looking/Feeling Our Best. 
I Think It Just Boils Down to: A Matter Of Personal Choice.
Knowledge is Power. If You know how to properly deal with relaxed hair, I see no reason, you can't make the choice to Stay Relaxed (if that is your preference).
It Certainly has Nothing to Do with One Letting Themselves Go.
I Shall Remain A True Diva.
perplexed)...well, it just isn't that serious. There are deeper reasons present leading them to lie unnecessarily, imo. There just isn't some angry mob of naturals who get pissed off when they hear some relaxed head is relaxed and loving it. Ultimately, what one chooses to do with their hair doesn't affect me so I'm just not that invested and I'd think on this kind of board many more naturals feel the same way I do. However, from time to time I do like to engage in conversations about the choices people make. I feel it's an interesting topic and many times you find some people make "choices" due to reasons that go deeper than the surface, especially in the black community. Whatever your reasons for doing XYZ, I don't think that can be denied.
I've been natural most of my life too. I was relaxed only about 4 yrs out of my life.
I was referencing a specific phrase people say that I've heard people say since I was little I've had people (several) tell me they'll only go natural when they get old and no longer are concerned with looking cute. So I was referencing a specific coded language people use when talking about being natural its not like i said "all relaxed people are this" I'm speaking on something people have been saying forever int he Black community. Its just like the good hair thing, one could feasibly argue that all the person is saying is that your hair looks nice, but when you were born and raised around something you understand that certain words and certian terms have a much deeper meaning then whats on the surface.
lmao!
nah I went natural because I my hair was thinning out and breaking off with the relaxer and because I knew being natural fit my personality and values best........the crossover appeal was just a pleasant surprise, a cherry on the sundae
I never did a big chop a mini chop or any kinda chop.....there IS such a thing as a long term transition....
Thats great and thats why I ended the post saying *the way ljbee meant it would be the exception of course*, the way you meant it would fall under that category
The money? Who says you have to pay someone to maintain your natural hair?
I don't think its ever a good idea to rely on "stylists" to handle all your haircare. The only thing I go to the salon for is a trim. If you want to grow long thick natural hair, you have to become versed in being a do it yourselfer, if you're gonna wait untill you have the huge sums of $$ to shell out to pay someone who probably doesn't even know what they're talking about in the first place, then you'll probably never go natural.
Then why don't you keep your $$ in your pockets and do your hair yourself? Who says we have to be chained to our stylist?
I rock fly professional looking styles all the time and I do em all myself......all the styles on my siggy and all the styles on my blog I did at home with cheap natural or commercial products with an average price of 2-6 dollars. Do your styling yourself and your wallet and hair will thank you for it.
Who says you have to cut your hair at all?
!!! I think WE all know that BC'ing is not mandatory. 
erplexed
I am not skilled at braids, but even if I am a strait haired natural, my hair is more thick and healthier since my transition. At last, I have come to realize that my opinion of my hair is what matters. I never thought I would look good with natural hair. A friend of mine helped me to see that I didn't NEED a relaxer to look good. I am confident in other things, but my hair just seemed to be the last piece of the puzzle.
Then why bold the portion that read "oh god do i really have to cut all my hair off" and say you wanted to thank her twiceYou may want to re-read BostonMaria's post....She did not say that you have to BC
I'm well versed on sisterlocks I was extensively researching them on an almost daily basis and convinced I was getting sisterlocks for about a year in the beginning of my transition as well to the point that I would stop anyone I saw with them and talk to them, one lady taught me how to retighten sisterlocks in one afternoon and how she does this on her own every month and never having to go to the salon, natural hair doesn't have to involve regular salon visits.
Then why bold the portion that read "oh god do i really have to cut all my hair off" and say you wanted to thank her twice
okay charmtreese.... fair enough lolI didn't bold it. BostonMaria had it in bold in the original post. I just quoted it because I agreed with the entire post (which I read fully). I wanted to thank her twice for the ENTIRE post, because I agreed with the ENTIRE post! Obviously you did not re-read it!
Theres nothing wrong with it, I just took exception to the statement that being natural is inherently expensive. It's only expensive if you make it so.
all I said was SOME people have coded language when they say certain things about going natural and people are misconstruing it as if I said some kind of blanket statement about all those that relax.
