OK now I see why the other thread was started
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i enjoy being relaxed!
I'm relaxed now (and have been for years). My hair is the healthiest it has ever been. For a while I thought I would use a relaxer forever as long as my hair is healthy. A few months later I realized that I would eventually (maybe 2 or 3 years from now) want to transition to being natural.
Then I saw "Good Hair" a few weeks ago and the part about relaxers FREAKED.ME.OUT. Before the movie was over I realized that I couldn't responsibly get another relaxer so now I'm transitioning (only 9 or 10 weeks in though!).
We'll see how this goes...
Not Me, Not Now. What Relaxed heads say to going Natural.
I understand what makes you ask this, I've been thinking the same thing myself recently, but, as a newbie, one of the things I initially loved about this site was the camaraderie between sisters, and the fact that there wasn't a big divide between natural and relaxed. I paid my $6.50 precisely because I didn't see the expected conflict and old animosities. Unfortunately, that has changed recently, but that doesn't mean we should throw the baby out with the bathwater. Instead, we should work on addressing what's happening in our 'community'.Is it time for LHCF to split the Hair Care forum into 2, one for Naturals to share tips and one for Relaxed to share tips?
I understand what makes you ask this, I've been thinking the same thing myself recently, but, as a newbie, one of the things I initially loved about this site was the camaraderie between sisters, and the fact that there wasn't a big divide between natural and relaxed. I paid my $6.50 precisely because I didn't see the expected conflict and old animosities. Unfortunately, that has changed recently, but that doesn't mean we should throw the baby out with the bathwater. Instead, we should work on addressing what's happening in our 'community'.
my answer to the bolded is NO! I learn tips from both relaxed heads and natural heads. there is no need for separation. just the need for less sensitivity. not all are pushing one over the other.I have noticed over the last couple of year an influx of natural heads on LHCF, I took a long break from coming to the hair forum and when I come back I'm reading tips and posts and most of them have to do with natural hair care. Not all, but a vast majority it seems, at least to me. Relaxed and naturals take care of their hair differently and when you have a general post on hair care you have conflicting views on tips because there is a mixture of the two in each thread. This has me thinking, Is it time for LHCF to split the Hair Care forum into 2, one for Naturals to share tips and one for Relaxed to share tips? I think it will be helpful to the ladies set on their choice of being either or. Even if a relaxed wants to go natural she can peruse the natural forum and vice versa with naturals considering relaxing.
A lil' bit. There's definitely a 'natural is better' vibe floating through the air, but it's easily avoidable. I just don't feel like I should have to avoid it: it shouldn't be here. And I didn't pay a latte's worth of money, lol, to avoid stuff. I came here because I found the community to be a supportive one, regardless of one's styling choices. I thought the point here was healthy, and maybe, long, hair.Dang you can tell I dont be on the hair boards often. For real??
A lil' bit. There's definitely a 'natural is better' vibe floating through the air, but it's easily avoidable. I just don't feel like I should have to avoid it: it shouldn't be here. And I didn't pay a latte's worth of money, lol, to avoid stuff. I came here because I found the community to be a supportive one, regardless of one's styling choices. I thought the point here was healthy, and maybe, long, hair.
eta: I just wanted to cosign Duff and say, no, it's definitely not everybody, not at all.
I am curious to know what was in the movie that freaked you out ? Please share.
Maybe that's what I'm seeing, then.I think some posters (natural & relaxed) are just way too sensitive.
Me too.(It bores me).