Menina Preta
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I was having this discussion with a friend of mine. She said her boyfriend (who has never had a girlfriend before her) stated that he thought that having a girlfriend meant that she would "tidy" up his place and cook more often. Mind you, this guy is very messy (clothes everywhere, dirty dinner plates on the floor, mail everywhere, empty juice cartons on the counter, etc.) AND he has close to no food in his refrigerator (eggs, old tomatoes, and random marinades).
My thing is...how can he expect her to do this when the place looks like a hurricane and they're not even engaged or going down this road at the moment? Where do you even start "tidying" up a place that needs a massive cleaning? I asked her if she told him that if she's doing all that, that he needs to be providing...She said yes, and he countered with "Well, I pay when we go out to eat and for cabs." Mind you...they go out about 2-3x month and usually mid-level to cheap places. To me, if I'm cooking and cleaning, I need to hear "Hey babe, here's 40 bucks...go treat yourself to a mani and pedi"...but perhaps I'm in the wrong.
This is the same guy who has told her that he knows b/c he's in his mid-20s that the relationship won't last blah blah, b/c he's nowhere near ready to get married. How can he expect these perks when he "knows" things inevitably will end?
These men, I tell ya...Just wondered what your opinion and your experience has been...
My thing is...how can he expect her to do this when the place looks like a hurricane and they're not even engaged or going down this road at the moment? Where do you even start "tidying" up a place that needs a massive cleaning? I asked her if she told him that if she's doing all that, that he needs to be providing...She said yes, and he countered with "Well, I pay when we go out to eat and for cabs." Mind you...they go out about 2-3x month and usually mid-level to cheap places. To me, if I'm cooking and cleaning, I need to hear "Hey babe, here's 40 bucks...go treat yourself to a mani and pedi"...but perhaps I'm in the wrong.
This is the same guy who has told her that he knows b/c he's in his mid-20s that the relationship won't last blah blah, b/c he's nowhere near ready to get married. How can he expect these perks when he "knows" things inevitably will end?
These men, I tell ya...Just wondered what your opinion and your experience has been...