Getting Discouraged ALREADY about going Natural!!!

[DigitalRain]

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TigerLily said:
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saga_30311 said:
<thinking, I may be one of the albums she's referring to, but that's ok>

One of the first things a long-term natural shared with me that helped me look at my hair differently was that natural hair has an incredibly different texture than straight hair. In her words "it's like comparing suede & leather. Leather's surface is smooth, and reflects light, so it appears shiny. Suede has a nap, and absorbs light - therefore it appears matte. Natural hair is to straight hair as Suede is to Leather." Man, I wish I could remember who I'm quoting, but I digress...

What appears to be dry, unhealthy and (therefore) 'unattractive' may just be tighly coiled hair that is well-oiled, healthy, well-taken care of - and just nappy & absorbing light. Part of my nappy journey was transitioning my mind, and learning about my natural hair. Your questions/concerns are valid, and this something you should definitely explore. One disclaimer though - it's probably best in the early stages of your journey, to try to get past the "I want hair like _____ (insert lovely Natural sista's name here)" phase. Every nappy head is COMPLETELY different, and you don't want to end up disappointed later.

I can't even front - I'd love for EVERYONE to go natural.

Reality is, not everyone is ready for it.

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I agree with this statement. Most hair in its' natural state has a sheen, but doesn't shine unless it's pressed. My hair is like that. It has sheen, but it doesn't shine unless it is straightened.

I had shoulder length hair until I did the big chop at the beginning of this month. My hair now comes below my earlobe and it's the healthiest that it's ever been! With perms, my hair always grew to my shoulders, then began to break and thin out. No matter what perm or product I used the result was the same. I was going to wait until my natural hair was shoulder length, as well, but I grew tired of dealing with the two textures and decided to wack the relaxed hair off. The other posters are right; it is a mental process and you have to be mentally ready. I would've loved for my hair to have loose coils, but I had to learn to be comfortable and proud of my own natural texture before I could wear it.

I really don't have any support either. Only a couple of people I know like my hair. My mother hates my afro and can't wait 'till I go back looking like her daughter! What matters is that I LOVE IT because I'm the one that has to wear it and go out in the world with it.

You really have to focus your mind on liking your natural hair no matter who doesn't like and no matter what texture it may be. When I go out with my afro, I get some stares (mainly from white women; you would think that they never saw one before and I know that they have because they have T.V.!) and I stare right back. However, I also get some complements, too.

Sorry for rambling!

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My dad has what looks like 4a/b hair. It never shines but is has a nice sheen to it and its very black. I touched it yesterday its also very, very soft and cottony. Hmm I need to ask him what's his regimen.

He'll probably tell me ivory soap and vaseline,

 

[rai]

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Falon said:
In your mind what do you want your hair to look like?

If you want your hair to be straight then the relaxer is probably the best way to go.




I agree to that. Don't compare your "future" hair to what you see other people have. It's going to be a learning process for you on how to take care of your hair, but I see your little signature all over these boards

so I know that you are actively seeking out the advice that you need to take care of your hair. Natural hair is like any other hair. If you take care of it, keep it moisturized and love it then it WILL grow. In regards to the dryness, I think that depends on what products you use (or not use) in your hair. I know that I am still trying to learn that having shiny oily hair doesn't neccessarily mean that it is moisturized, what's most important is how your hair FEELS. And if it feels soft, then it's okay.

But Pooh bear, I wish you luck and strength in this journey. It takes a lot of strength and courage to do something new, but think about it this way. You were with that hair, so it can't be bad.

Check out www.napturality.com

If you get a texturizer and you want it straight you will have to blow dry it...which will = breakage from heat abuse eventually.

If you want a curly kinky look than a texturizer may be right for you.

Or you can go natural and press sometimes. But if you are going to press all the time then you might as well not do it! The benefits of going natural will be negated by having to press all of the time. Also, there is the hassle of your hair reverting when it rains or you sweat.

But you have to remember that a texturizer is still a relaxer it is just milder in form to retain some of your natural curl pattern. It is still a chemical process. People with texturizers are no more natural than us with relaxers.

I think that you have to have realistic expectations of what you want your hair to look like and how you are going to acheive that look.

You know your hair type. There is nothing that can be done to change that so you have to work within that framework.

And remember that just because relaxing is part of your life and gives you the look you want for now doesn't mean you will have to do it for the rest of your life. You are young yet, and who knows what kind of technology is going to be available in 20 or 30 years!

Good luck

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[rai]

Okay, okay.I don't know how to use the quote feature.

I agree to that. Don't compare your "future" hair to what you see other people have. It's going to be a learning process for you on how to take care of your hair, but I see your little signature all over these boards so I know that you are actively seeking out the advice that you need to take care of your hair. Natural hair is like any other hair. If you take care of it, keep it moisturized and love it then it WILL grow. In regards to the dryness, I think that depends on what products you use (or not use) in your hair. I know that I am still trying to learn that having shiny oily hair doesn't neccessarily mean that it is moisturized, what's most important is how your hair FEELS. And if it feels soft, then it's okay.

But Pooh bear, I wish you luck and strength in this journey. It takes a lot of strength and courage to do something new, but think about it this way. You were with that hair, so it can't be bad.

Check out www.napturality.com

If you get a texturizer and you want it straight you will have to blow dry it...which will = breakage from heat abuse eventually.

 

[Poohbear]

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Boadicea said:
Thanks!

I don't like short hair on myself either (relaxed or natural, it won't look good on me) so I'd rather cut off the relaxed parts when my natural hair is longer, too.

I like your avatar picture best. That's the style I tried to wear but it never came out right.

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Boadicea, I love your avatar pic too! That bun looks really classy with those two hair sticks!

In my avatar pic, that was back when I used curling irons. I used a big barrel curling iron and flipped up different sections of my hair so it would achieve that look! And that was it!

 

[Karonica]

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ayeshia said:

Instead I get "Damn girl why you cut your hair?" And to be truthful it hurts a bit because I was always associated as Ayeshia The girl with long hair. And i believed that I would only look good with long hair, if i didnt then I was ugly

But now Im glad that I did it

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This was my worry to the fullest when I tried transitioning last year. But now that I've had my hair chopped to my neck, it took some getting used to, but it really wasn't that bad. You just have to style the hair in a way so that it fits the face, rather than the face fits all over it.

I could never do a TWA though, but if I ever decide to transition again, I won't worry about doing mini-chops, since I now feel more comfortable with shorter hair.

 

[Poohbear]

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To those who keep posting NAPPTURALITY.COM, I've already checked it out!!!

 

[kitchen_tician]

My dad has what looks like 4a/b hair. It never shines but is has a nice sheen to it and its very black. I touched it yesterday its also very, very soft and cottony. Hmm I need to ask him what's his regimen.

He'll probably tell me ivory soap and vaseline,

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That's funny! Ivory soap and Vaseline.

He may even surprise you and say a dab of Baby Oil.

 

[Poohbear]

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Tai said:
Poohbear, do not be discouraged about going natural. It's a wonderful choice, especially since you mentioned that your hair is thinner than you'd like with the relaxer in it. I was natural for awhile and I decided to get a texturizer to thin my hair out (it was WAY too thick for my liking natural).
I must say that I didn't have to go through any mental adjustments when going natural. I didn't do the big chop. I would periodically get "big trims" (1-2 inches). Honestly, my natural texture isn't different from the way it is now or when it was relaxed because I never got bone straight relaxers. My natural hair is just thicker, a whole lot thicker, the texture is the same. Depending on your hair now, it may not be that much of a transition.
You will find all of the support you need at LHCF.

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Tai, I dont think I will have to go through much mental adjustment either. Im a pretty strong woman and plus, my last relaxer was just April 27 so it hasnt been that long.

And to everyone else...
Im NOT down in the pits or depressed or stressing big time...I just got a lil discouraged and thought I would just vent my rambling thoughts. I hope that clears some things up.

 

[Poohbear]

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micarae said:
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Bublnbrnsuga said:

Hey! We're near by each other! I live in Louisville, KY! I will be in Cincy on July 22-23 for an Ernst & Young Leadership Program! I will be staying at the Cincinnati Marriot North! We're gonna have to meet one day!

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Poohbear,I would love to meet you,too! I am in Memphis and I plan on coming up there in August. I want to go to Kentucky Kingdom.

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I KNOW ya'll ain't trying to go to Kentucky Kingdom without me?!?

LOL!

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MICARAE,
Are you from Memphis TN too???

 

[Bublnbrnsuga]

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saga_30311 said:
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Bublnbrnsuga said:
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saga_30311 said:
<thinking, I may be one of the albums she's referring to, but that's ok>

One of the first things a long-term natural shared with me that helped me look at my hair differently was that natural hair has an incredibly different texture than straight hair. In her words "it's like comparing suede & leather. Leather's surface is smooth, and reflects light, so it appears shiny. Suede has a nap, and absorbs light - therefore it appears matte. Natural hair is to straight hair as Suede is to Leather." Man, I wish I could remember who I'm quoting, but I digress...

What appears to be dry, unhealthy and (therefore) 'unattractive' may just be tighly coiled hair that is well-oiled, healthy, well-taken care of - and just nappy & absorbing light. Part of my nappy journey was transitioning my mind, and learning about my natural hair. Your questions/concerns are valid, and this something you should definitely explore. One disclaimer though - it's probably best in the early stages of your journey, to try to get past the "I want hair like _____ (insert lovely Natural sista's name here)" phase. Every nappy head is COMPLETELY different, and you don't want to end up disappointed later.

I can't even front - I'd love for EVERYONE to go natural.

Reality is, not everyone is ready for it.

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Saga,you got some hur on your head! It is very beautiful. Now you know you're wrong ,right? How come we can't click on the picture to enlarge it to enjoy viewing all of that beautiful,healthy hair? BTW,has anyone ever told you that you resemble Vanessa Bell Armstrong (a gospel singer)?

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That one I hadn't heard before - but thanks for the compliments

I actually had the pictures out a while ago, but then someone was stealing pics from some of the albums on Nappturality, and posting it in a Yahoo group for people with hair fetishes, and I decided to just post the thumbnails. I may open the album up fully so you can better see the pics sometime this week.

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When did this happen

 

[Bublnbrnsuga]

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micarae said:
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Bublnbrnsuga said:

Hey! We're near by each other! I live in Louisville, KY! I will be in Cincy on July 22-23 for an Ernst & Young Leadership Program! I will be staying at the Cincinnati Marriot North! We're gonna have to meet one day!

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Poohbear,I would love to meet you,too! I am in Memphis and I plan on coming up there in August. I want to go to Kentucky Kingdom.

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I KNOW ya'll ain't trying to go to Kentucky Kingdom without me?!?

LOL!

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You wanna go,too????

 

[DigitalRain]

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kitchen_tician said:


My dad has what looks like 4a/b hair. It never shines but is has a nice sheen to it and its very black. I touched it yesterday its also very, very soft and cottony. Hmm I need to ask him what's his regimen.

He'll probably tell me ivory soap and vaseline,

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That's funny! Ivory soap and Vaseline.

He may even surprise you and say a dab of Baby Oil.

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Okay!! I bet he never uses a conditioner. Here I am with a buttload of products and all he probably uses is body soap and some grease. I will find out exactly what he does this evening.

 

[saga_30311]

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When did this happen

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hm...it's been at least 6 months, but maybe less than a year? It made me a lil paranoid, because you never really know who's looking at stuff, yanno?

I can say that there is a workaround for my no-right-click script - it only works in Internet Explorer, so if you use another browser, you can get around it. I'll probably try to open up my album tonight.

 

[BronzeBrown]

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bree said:
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alliyah4eva203 said:
check out these pics. her hair is beautiful
http://f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/coffyisis/album?.dir=/CURLY+hair

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MAN, i love her hair. isn't it tenxturized though?? btw where do naturals get those headbands that will make there natural hair stay slicked back like that when they were it in a puff??

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Actually most of Isis's pictures, the early ones, are of her natural hair. The ones further down, where she started labelling the pics as "silkener" are where she has a texturizer. I remember her from when she used to post on nc

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[ccd]

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bree said:
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alliyah4eva203 said:
check out these pics. her hair is beautiful
http://f1.pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/coffyisis/album?.dir=/CURLY+hair

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MAN, i love her hair. isn't it tenxturized though?? btw where do naturals get those headbands that will make there natural hair stay slicked back like that when they were it in a puff??

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Actually most of Isis's pictures, the early ones, are of her natural hair. The ones further down, where she started labelling the pics as "silkener" are where she has a texturizer. I remember her from when she used to post on nc

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YES her hair is really pretty!!!....What hairType is she?

 

[keni5]

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So Poohbear...

What kind of nappy hair looks so bad to you that if you woke up like that tomorrow, you would get a perm stat.
Please clarify or give us an example of the type pic you was looking at that was so discouraging. Then maybe we can tell you if its realistic to try and avoid it. Becuz, maybe the pics you saw was a head of well moisturized, styled head of nappy 4b frizzy hair. We are all assuming the pics are of unkempt dry hair. Not being ugly but please list qualities of nappy hair you do not like, would not wear versus what you do like about nappy hair. Maybe then we will know if its the texture you like, or the style, or just the health or what. Good luck on your journey whatever you decide

 

[gabrielle2]

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keni5 said:
So Poohbear...

What kind of nappy hair looks so bad to you that if you woke up like that tomorrow, you would get a perm stat.
Please clarify or give us an example of the type pic you was looking at that was so discouraging. Then maybe we can tell you if its realistic to try and avoid it. Becuz, maybe the pics you saw was a head of well moisturized, styled head of nappy 4b frizzy hair. We are all assuming the pics are of unkempt dry hair. Not being ugly but please list qualities of nappy hair you do not like, would not wear versus what you do like about nappy hair. Maybe then we will know if its the texture you like, or the style, or just the health or what. Good luck on your journey whatever you decide

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very well said because i have been wondering the exact same thing.

 

[Poohbear]

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keni5 said:
So Poohbear...

What kind of nappy hair looks so bad to you that if you woke up like that tomorrow, you would get a perm stat.
Please clarify or give us an example of the type pic you was looking at that was so discouraging. Then maybe we can tell you if its realistic to try and avoid it. Becuz, maybe the pics you saw was a head of well moisturized, styled head of nappy 4b frizzy hair. We are all assuming the pics are of unkempt dry hair. Not being ugly but please list qualities of nappy hair you do not like, would not wear versus what you do like about nappy hair. Maybe then we will know if its the texture you like, or the style, or just the health or what. Good luck on your journey whatever you decide

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Well your assumption was right. The pics I saw were of dry short and unstyled hair of mainly those who do the big chop. I remember one album had nothing but those type pictures. Not only would I be discouraged but I would mostly wonder things like: "what is this girl thinking?" "why don't she style it?" or "is she trying to achieve length at all?" Even though Im not planning on doing the big chop, I was discouraged by her length of hair growth over a several months period. I know shrinkages plays a factor but this was not the case. I hope that helps gives u a picture of what Im talking about. Feel free to ask me anymore questions.

 

[gabrielle2]

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everyone does not want long hair. everyone does not deem the BC as something horrible. natural hair styles come in many shapes and forms. some love the chunky fros..some want it defined. just as locs..some like theirs cultivated while others choose to freeform or grow organic locs.

what she considers a style may not be a style to you or anyone else..just as she may consider that "straight" hair with a flip or a few curls is not a style.

most importantly..not everyone that goes natural is looking for length (as i said earlier) nor or they rushing into a style to show length. (banding, pressing, etc)

most natural hair grows out and not down. so where as it may seem as though she hasnt gained any length..her hair may have gotten bigger.. (thats my goal..BIG HAIR

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[Poohbear]

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gabrielle2 said:
everyone does not want long hair. everyone does not deem the BC as something horrible. natural hair styles come in many shapes and forms. some love the chunky fros..some want it defined. just as locs..some like theirs cultivated while others choose to freeform or grow organic locs.

what she considers a style may not be a style to you or anyone else..just as she may consider that "straight" hair with a flip or a few curls is not a style.

most importantly..not everyone that goes natural is looking for length (as i said earlier) nor or they rushing into a style to show length. (banding, pressing, etc)

most natural hair grows out and not down. so where as it may seem as though she hasnt gained any length..her hair may have gotten bigger.. (thats my goal..BIG HAIR

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I never said EVERYONE wants long hair or that they deem the big chop as a horrible decision. I know that but I was just giving u a description of what discouraged ME as someone who wants long natural hair without the big chop. Im not talking about everyone else...just me. Those questions I asked myself were thoughts that went thru my head based on MY goals for natural hair.

To help u guys out, here is an example of what "I" thought was NICE natural hair of a girl who did the big chop; she is not on LHCF:

http://www.angelfire.com/journal2/dreamypisces/

 

[skn]

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maybe I should stop looking at the albums and do what works best for me...

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I'm sure that has been oft quoted already, and if not, it should have been. You should ALWAYS do what is best for you. In the meantime, you probably shouldn't go denigrating (not my fave word) what other albums look like to you. In my experience, you tell other ppl what you LIKE about albums, not what you dislike. when you get into the dislike pattern you've gone down a road you probably don't want to go down. Just sayin'.

 

[gabrielle2]

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i am aware that you did not say "everyone" I was saying everyone. however, judging from your tone in this thread and many of responses i have read coming from you..it appears that you feel that bcing is just short of insane. even yesterday..when a person said they were chopping in jan..you chimed in with an OH NO..not the big chop..and that finger wagging smiley. u have come out with a lot of negatives and what has been positive are those styles resembling looser curl patterns with lots of shine.

also for the link that you provided..yes her hair is nice. but its also the texture of her hair that she was born with. in going natural its ok to look at pictures and think certain ones are nice etc..but be prepared..yours may not look the same. and u really cant tell what you will have until you finish cutting off the relaxed ends. the weight of that hair pulls the virgin hair. sometimes the texture remains (curly/wavy) other times..not. just be careful not to set yourself up for dissappointment.

 

[Poohbear]

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maybe I should stop looking at the albums and do what works best for me...

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I'm sure that has been oft quoted already, and if not, it should have been. You should ALWAYS do what is best for you. In the meantime, you probably shouldn't go denigrating (not my fave word) what other albums look like to you. In my experience, you tell other ppl what you LIKE about albums, not what you dislike. when you get into the dislike pattern you've gone down a road you probably don't want to go down. Just sayin'.

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Well I was just venting. There's nothing wrong with disagreeing or not liking things you see. It would be wrong for me to post actual names of albums I saw that I didnt like. So there's a difference there...

 

[Poohbear]

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i am aware that you did not say "everyone" I was saying everyone. however, judging from your tone in this thread and many of responses i have read coming from you..it appears that you feel that bcing is just short of insane. even yesterday..when a person said they were chopping in jan..you chimed in with an OH NO..not the big chop..and that finger wagging smiley. u have come out with a lot of negatives and what has been positive are those styles resembling looser curl patterns with lots of shine.

also for the link that you provided..yes her hair is nice. but its also the texture of her hair that she was born with. in going natural its ok to look at pictures and think certain ones are nice etc..but be prepared..yours may not look the same. and u really cant tell what you will have until you finish cutting off the relaxed ends. the weight of that hair pulls the virgin hair. sometimes the texture remains (curly/wavy) other times..not. just be careful not to set yourself up for dissappointment.

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There's nothing is wrong with saying "OH NO..not the big chop!" It was MY opinion. I said this because Sherrylove has long beautiful relaxed hair and that is something I wouldnt do. So thats why it sounds negative to u. She's free to do whatever she wants. Okay?
Please dont get offended by something I have said or LITTLE THINGS I say in other threads so don't attack me with things I say. I wasn't saying the big chop is a bad thing because I see it hasnt been a bad thing for some naturals who are glad they did the big chop.

Also, before I ever went relaxed, my texture was very nice as well. I saw several pics of my natural hair when I went home and it was very wavy. Yes it probably wasnt as nice as the girl in that album I posted... And I DO NOT expect my hair to look like anyone elses. Clear?

 

[gabrielle2]

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if u say so "dear"

everyone that had wavy hair as a child wont always have it later..truth. not offended with anything you have typed..this is a messageboard..life goes on when i log off.

oh yeah...and there isnt a thing for me to be clear on. and where did you get the "attacking" notion from? nah..neva mind..i "remember" now

let it gooooooooooooooooooo..

anyway..off to work i go! EVERYONE...HAVE A HAPPY HAIR GROWING DAY! ...CLEAR?!

 

[Poohbear]

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if u say so "dear"

everyone that had wavy hair as a child wont always have it later..truth. not offended with anything you have typed..this is a messageboard..life goes on when i log off.

oh yeah...and there isnt a thing for me to be clear on. and where did you get the "attacking" notion from? nah..neva mind..i "remember" now

let it gooooooooooooooooooo..

anyway..off to work i go! EVERYONE...HAVE A HAPPY HAIR GROWING DAY! ...CLEAR?!

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Whats so funny? I got the attacking notion from u...u kept using what I say against me and saying most of the things I post are negative. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH VENTING ON A FORUM! QUIT BEING PICKY ABOUT MY POSTS!!!

And dont u think I heard that a thousand times about hair texture being different when getting older? i do not care! Are u trying to say my texture will be worse when I get older? I will still take good care of my hair no matter what.
I thought naturals were suppose to be helpful to those transitioning...I should stay relaxed just because of u...
I guess what most people have said negative about naturals in that one thread are true!

 

[gabrielle2]

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my goodness..why are you so bent? getting all red!..high blood pressure is not a good thing. i didnt say anything about hair being WORSE as one ages. sometimes textures change. in the context of the sentence u just stated..what would worse be? no longer wavy? nappy? kinky? worse hair to me is Unhealthy hair...why would i think hair that was no longer wavy/curly as worse? i am NAPPY and PROUD!

naturals are helpful during transitioning if the person requesting help wants them to be. sometimes we see things you (or anyone else transitioning) may not see..and IT could be the same the other way around if i (or another) wanted to start back relaxing. u opened up the floor to any questions..etc..and ur vent. so others respond..including myself. going by the answers u gave..i made an observation..DIDNT say it was correct...but thank you so much for setting me straight

and if what they said in that wonderful thread is true..i am STILL PROUD..no love lost here because it says more about you (or anyone else) that choose to believe that a blanket statement is true of ALL people in a group. if it applies with that..it applies with everything. or no..just when you (or anyone else) needs it to?

and please..dont read into what i did NOT type..lol..i only responded to what you have typed..again..

GOOD DAY!

 

[Bobbie]

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Not all naturals are negative, same like not all relaxed are negative. We can't generalize from this one particular experience.

I have run into positive and negative comments about transitioning, I know how that feels, but we shouldn't let situations like these erupt into arguments.

I can see where you're coming from, Poohbear -- I also see where others are coming from. Some may have felt offended by the first post about some albums having unattractive hair --- alot of naturals sport that same hair.
I also gather from all of your posts that you are looking for length and have posted several natural long hair inspirations that you admire (aside from Aaliyah). Stick to those, and there are other naturals on here that I'm sure you've already noticed like --- SVT, Maestradiva, Irresistible, Nay, Babyblue, and a bunch of others. Some of these naturals have even transitioned for years.

I hope this information helps.

(....this thread might be locked soon...)

 

[Poohbear]

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Well what would u or anybody else think if someone said this to u?:

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everyone that had wavy hair as a child wont always have it later..truth.

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that's negative....along with everything else u said in that particular quote/post...not very helpful at all for a transitioner...

Im not doing the BIG CHOP so try to be a lil more supporting since I have thought about going natural.

...and I thought u had to go to work?

 

[alliyah4eva203]

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gabrielle2 and poohbear

and make up