I had a get together at my home with food and fun. We got in a discussion about marriage/relationships and friends. There was two guys who said that women are being unrealistic when they think they have to know their husband's friends. The whole she should be my friend as well, is being unreasonable. One guy had friends that he just met in the last year and was causing a problem with his wife. The wife found out about her from answering his phone. The female told her they were friends and she used to work with him etc. They had been communicating for about 6 months off and on. So when asked by the women in the room, why he couldn't share that with his wife his response was that it was pointless. He believed it to be innocent and not like it was a relationship.
So I said why the need for so many female friends if you have a wife. He said men need a woman's perspective. He said his wife doesn't need to know his female friends and if he is even communicating with her. He said women misconstrue things all the time. Expecting a man NOT to have female friends is setting yourself up for a let down.The other men were nodding, so of course the women called BS! The women in the room was trying to convey that it's the hiding it that is the issue, not her being his friend.
I know being married doesn't mean you are dead, but how many friends of the opposite sex does one really need to communicate with. I know people get different perspectives from others BUT why does the friendship have to be hidden. Women are not as unreasonable as men make us out to be. My hubby told him he was digging a grave for himself with the women! LOL!
So I said why the need for so many female friends if you have a wife. He said men need a woman's perspective. He said his wife doesn't need to know his female friends and if he is even communicating with her. He said women misconstrue things all the time. Expecting a man NOT to have female friends is setting yourself up for a let down.The other men were nodding, so of course the women called BS! The women in the room was trying to convey that it's the hiding it that is the issue, not her being his friend.
I know being married doesn't mean you are dead, but how many friends of the opposite sex does one really need to communicate with. I know people get different perspectives from others BUT why does the friendship have to be hidden. Women are not as unreasonable as men make us out to be. My hubby told him he was digging a grave for himself with the women! LOL!
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