Gemini350z
Well-Known Member
Hi all-
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He is 22 (23 in April) and I am 25 (26 in May). We have a really good relationship, we know that we love each other and want to spend our lives together. I am ready now, but he has his reservations when it comes to taking that next step. He just graduated in December and feels that it is important for him to have a career first, plus the fact that he is "too young". I understand that, truly I do, but I feel as though it is unnecessary. I understand that in order to get married we should be financially stable, but in the year or two that it takes for us to get to that level why cant we be engaged? Is that out of the ordinary? And in regards to him being too young is that a cop out or the truth? Yes- he might be too young, but I feel like I am ready! The age difference was not a big deal when we met, so why would him being "too young" be a problem now.
It has come to the point in our relationship where everyone is asking "when are you guys getting married?" Even his mom is asking, saving jewelry magazines, or even saying "I have my first ring upstairs, so whenever your ready." lol
Now I am dealing with a Taurus and he is very analytical, traditional type of guy, it was the way that he was raised. He always over thinks, while I am the type that goes with my emotions or my feelings. I guess opposites attract, eh? So I understand that he has this old school mentality in his head that he needs to be financially ready to be the "provider" but this is the 21st century. To me it should be a partnership. We both should provide for each other. Am I wrong?
I am not looking for us to get engaged and married in a year. I just feel like the next step would be to get engaged for 2-3 years, and get married when we are financially ready.
What would you ladies do in my position?
I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. He is 22 (23 in April) and I am 25 (26 in May). We have a really good relationship, we know that we love each other and want to spend our lives together. I am ready now, but he has his reservations when it comes to taking that next step. He just graduated in December and feels that it is important for him to have a career first, plus the fact that he is "too young". I understand that, truly I do, but I feel as though it is unnecessary. I understand that in order to get married we should be financially stable, but in the year or two that it takes for us to get to that level why cant we be engaged? Is that out of the ordinary? And in regards to him being too young is that a cop out or the truth? Yes- he might be too young, but I feel like I am ready! The age difference was not a big deal when we met, so why would him being "too young" be a problem now.
It has come to the point in our relationship where everyone is asking "when are you guys getting married?" Even his mom is asking, saving jewelry magazines, or even saying "I have my first ring upstairs, so whenever your ready." lol
Now I am dealing with a Taurus and he is very analytical, traditional type of guy, it was the way that he was raised. He always over thinks, while I am the type that goes with my emotions or my feelings. I guess opposites attract, eh? So I understand that he has this old school mentality in his head that he needs to be financially ready to be the "provider" but this is the 21st century. To me it should be a partnership. We both should provide for each other. Am I wrong?
I am not looking for us to get engaged and married in a year. I just feel like the next step would be to get engaged for 2-3 years, and get married when we are financially ready.
What would you ladies do in my position?