CaraWalker
Well-Known Member
this is a spinoff of the successful marriage thread. made me think about what i want in my marriage: from the dynamics to quirks to activities to routines. what would you like in yours?
True freedom. I want a man who is truly confident and like who he is a person. That way he'll be truly able to love me for who I am. He won't try to control me or criticize me or judge me or belittle me. He will love me because of the way I am right now. We won't try to change each other. We will be each other's biggest supporters! We have to be best friends, able to tell each other anything. No secrets between us. We stay playful like kids. We are each other's safe haven. Oh and I want a bomb sex life too!! Super important to me.
All the stuff listed above and add in good coloring. Someone whose rhythm matches my own. And isn't trying to put stuff in places I don't want it to go.
Security, loyalty and validation.
Loyalty and reliability are everything to me. I need to feel safe and protected.
True freedom. I want a man who is truly confident and like who he is a person. That way he'll be truly able to love me for who I am. He won't try to control me or criticize me or judge me or belittle me. He will love me because of the way I am right now. We won't try to change each other. We will be each other's biggest supporters! We have to be best friends, able to tell each other anything. No secrets between us. We stay playful like kids. We are each other's safe haven. Oh and I want a bomb sex life too!! Super important to me.
Amen sister!You described it perfectly for me. I also want to add , someone who also is my protector and loyal to me. He knows how to put his wife before family and friends. Also who is able to check others who try to disrespect me..
They needed to be shouted hon. They are that important!EMOTIONAL STABILITY!!! No narcissistic men, no insecure men, no men with depression or anxiety disorders! !!!
FINANCIAL STABILITY!!! ON HIS PART!
To feel valued and appreciated (ie, not taken for granted)
To be able to have peace and to rest (ie not have to work like a dog)
Yes I shouted those first two. Sorry.
EMOTIONAL STABILITY!!! No narcissistic men, no insecure men, no men with depression or anxiety disorders! !!!
FINANCIAL STABILITY!!! ON HIS PART!
To feel valued and appreciated (ie, not taken for granted)
To be able to have peace and to rest (ie not have to work like a dog)
Yes I shouted those first two. Sorry.
I can! I got anxiety. i need a rock, not a moody man. We both cant be freaking out! As someone who was married to a man with these disorders plus personality disorder that were paralyzing to him (and by proxy ME) I can easily say NEVER AGAIN.I don't feel like I can asked for a spouse with no anxiety and depression disorder since I have them myself..lol
Yeah I have anxiety-depression and both my parents struggle with depression. One the one hand, they don't have to explain anything to each other but it can definitely get paralyzing. They've been married 30+ years but it's exhausting to watch sometimes, and I'm an outsider. Not. For. Me.I can! I got anxiety. i need a rock, not a moody man. We both cant be freaking out! As someone who was married to a man with these disorders plus personality disorder that were paralyzing to him (and by proxy ME) I can easily say NEVER AGAIN.
N. E. V. E. R!
Thank you.Yeah I have anxiety-depression and both my parents struggle with depression. One the one hand, they don't have to explain anything to each other but it can definitely get paralyzing. They've been married 30+ years but it's exhausting to watch sometimes, and I'm an outsider. Not. For. Me.