How soon after talking to someone online through a site do you provide them with other forms of communication?
In the past I normally go to IM, but I don't want to repeat history or make it a convenient to default back to electronic communication. I do like talking to people, and I figure if I meet someone at a bar which I did recently I gave him my number and we started talking(didn't work out), but IRL the only form of communication is the phone or in person.
You mean other as in IM/email/phone?
I like to take it off of the dating site asap. I usually will give them an email addy that I use JUST for online dating or an IM address since most people have them. That way we can talk without have to log in and out of the dating site, and in real time and not delayed. I like using Gmail cause all the conversations will stay together and I won't forget details about him because it's all there to review later. Nothing like mixing up your details!
As far as when I take it to phone, it depends on the guy. Honestly if he's real pushy about it it ain't gon' happen. I'm stubborn that way. The longer he pushes me about calling him or whatever the longer it will take me to do it. It seems like they toss out their number like I am supposed to dive for it and cherish it and that just isn't my way. And, I don't make the first call. EV.ER. If he's wanting me to call him first, it will never happen. He is not the only man on the planet and not saying that I wouldn't ever do it but I don't see the need, if he's interested. He'll ask for my number and call me. I'll handle the calling from there.
If he's a gentleman about it, we usually talk for a bit online so I can get a sense of him and get a vibe about him. If the vibe is off, I don't give out my number. Period. No weirdos need to be having my phone number. Depending on the guy, it's been anywhere between 24 hours and a few days.
I like to take it offline as soon as I am comfortable. Like if I started talking to him on a Monday or Tuesday I'd hope we'd go out by that weekend. If not, the weekend after. After that I'm not available and I start to drop off. I'm looking for men who know what they want and are ready to make the move. I'm not asking any man out, so I'm never so impatient that I just go ahead and ask him out. No No. I'm not doing your job for you. Again, there are billions of men on the planet. Go find someone who wants to be in control of you and lead you around by a ring in your nose.
Lately I've been meeting a lot of guys online who are content to sit online, never ask for my number, hint at meeting up and hem and haw when I say sure! When do you want to meet up? I'm starting to cut these dudes off. If I don't have a day/time/ place, we dont' have a date and while you're wasting time being a wimp and shy, I'm going out with men who had the cajones to ask me out. Man up!
Ok yeah i'm hard on men. My expectations are high. I don't play and my bullspit meter is in full effeck. I just don't like to be played with and there is far too much playing going on in the dating world these days.
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