VelvetRain
Well-Known Member
So ladies what's your stance on this? The past week I have been listening to the Dedan Tolberts show online where he provides advice about relationships and dating that is targeted to black women. He is flat out saying that it's the number one reason there is a very high proportion of single black women because there is a situation in our lives that is preventing us from finding not just a good or average man but disqualifying us from getting an elite man. In terms of elite he has his own definition of what an elite man.
So according to him and the brothers he has on his panel you are emotionally unavailable if you still have connections to your ex and still are sleeping with him. You are emotionally unavailable if your someones jumpoff or out dating a bunch of men instead of investing in one person. He also says there are 3 reasons why we are single and not choosing to be. They are: poor personalities, no respectability, and emotional unavailability. Apparently 90% of black women don't have all three.
I swear if you can check out this show it's some of the realest talk I have heard among the brothers. We speculate on the forum about what black men really think about us in regards to dating and relationships but never get definitive answers because this is an environment full of women. He mildly bashes Steve Harvey because he feels he sugarcoats stuff and tells you exactly what you want to hear which is why his books have sold millions. How can one think like a man when your not one? I just find all this interesting and mildly entertaining.
So according to him and the brothers he has on his panel you are emotionally unavailable if you still have connections to your ex and still are sleeping with him. You are emotionally unavailable if your someones jumpoff or out dating a bunch of men instead of investing in one person. He also says there are 3 reasons why we are single and not choosing to be. They are: poor personalities, no respectability, and emotional unavailability. Apparently 90% of black women don't have all three.
I swear if you can check out this show it's some of the realest talk I have heard among the brothers. We speculate on the forum about what black men really think about us in regards to dating and relationships but never get definitive answers because this is an environment full of women. He mildly bashes Steve Harvey because he feels he sugarcoats stuff and tells you exactly what you want to hear which is why his books have sold millions. How can one think like a man when your not one? I just find all this interesting and mildly entertaining.