The quick stats I looked up says less than 1/3 of Americans are a healthy weight. 35% of women are obese and another 1/3 are merely overweight but not obese.
I grew up there and all my life I was told by guys I would be cuter if I gained some weight.
Oh yes, she would be boo'd up with a quickness in Alabama
I know that there are posters in here that have the belief that a woman's weight determines whether or not they will find "the one" or whether or not a man will consider them as attractive. I believe that there are SOME men that feel this way, but to give someone the idea that most or all men feel this way is a bit extreme.
I believe that there are some men that are so wrapped up in the physical beauty of a woman that they feel certain women are too overweight or too fat to be considered attractive. But there are some men out there that love bigger women. Just like there are some women out there that love bigger men. Some women can look at a man the size of Rick Ross and start drooling.
I think there are more parts to the package that attract a man. If a woman is overweight or fat with confidence, carries herself well, etc., she will be seen more than a woman that is carrying herself sloppily with low self esteem. I know plenty of women that are darn near pimps and are considered to be overweight or fat. And men fall weak to them. Then there are others that got their SO while being that size/weight...so I think it is too much of a generalization to imply that no woman can get a man if they are overweight are fat.
Glib, just keep doing you girl. Obviously they don't see you for who you are and that just means that they are not deserving of you. You have too much to offer to be overlooked by men that are only into someone's physical beauty. And when you least expect it, the right man will come along!!
And I do want to reiterate that I am sensing people feel this way, I might be wrong. It's just my humble opinion. That is all.
huh? I missed the memo, men like different things and I've never met a man who didnt like my glasses. I'M the one usually trying to ditch them somewhere. Your weight? Some men like traditional build (been watching the no1 ladies' detective agency lol) and some dont. Glib, some of this mess will have you scraping the bottom of the barrel for a dollop of self esteem because women are telling you what they dont like. Just be yourself lady. You got it. There are things about you that many women only wish they could possess and will never be able to grasp so just chill.
I hope you didn't overlook it. 
PLEASE read it and take it to heart! I'm TELLING you, don't believe the hype!! You can get whatever type of man you want at the weight you are now. There is no prototype that all men like/don't like. I think people are implying that you may prefer white men? Correct me if I'm wrong. But my sister is overweight. Not sure how you guys compare since I've never seen you, but I have seen enough of your posts to know that you think you are overweight. Anyway, my sister has had NO issues with attracting QUALITY white men. NONE!!!! 
DON'T BELIEVE THE HYPE!!! Please hear me, Glib!! 
Unless you are a homosexual female you are not going to get the best advice to attract who you want here. Just keeping it real.
So yeah, I'm not one of those people who say they're big, but aren't THAT big. Nope. I'm a full-fledged, card-carrying BIG GIRL I'll be alright, though.Um, I'm big. Like, I wear size 22.
Thanks for all of the comments, feedback and advice. Really and truly, I was just blowing off steam. Eventually I will get my head right and get back in the game. Just was feeling really aggravated.
Yes, I am in DC. So yeah. It's a land full of SHARKS out here. Dudes think they are Barack Obama just because they're a staff assistant to Junior Congressman from Podunk-Backwater, USA
I'm pressing on . . . thanks ladies.
Wow, the nerve of men
on all this.Um, I'm big. Like, I wear size 22.
Thanks for all of the comments, feedback and advice. Really and truly, I was just blowing off steam. Eventually I will get my head right and get back in the game. Just was feeling really aggravated.
Yes, I am in DC. So yeah. It's a land full of SHARKS out here. Dudes think they are Barack Obama just because they're a staff assistant to Junior Congressman from Podunk-Backwater, USA
I'm pressing on . . . thanks ladies.
We're talking UPPER ECHELON here.
What some of you consider "professional" isnt what some of us consider "professional" as made evident by many threads around here. Jus saying'
erplexed
Can someone break down this upper echelon stuff.....I see it a lot, but I am confused
Does the OP want to date a man with a lot of money or something?
Whatever size you are OP, I think you need to be more confident. Confidence is sexy to any man. It only takes ONE man to fall in love with you.
How to dare summarize upper echelon...I wouldn't even know where to begin.
sure as hell isnt garbage collector/blue collar
sure as hell isnt garbage collector/blue collar
Oh no, as long as he made over 100k it would
That's the crux of the discussion right there, isn't it?
ok. I see we need a spinoff
Oh no, as long as he made over 100k it would
That's the crux of the discussion right there, isn't it?
I will say that all the men like black women of all shapes and sizes and are generally down to earth, so maybe middle echelon is where its at.