Do you Kiss goodnight on the first date?

[CarefreeinChicago]

I have been know to do the fake air cheek. On friday I went out with an police officer and I did a lame barely touching hug but I liked him. He is the cousin of one of my friends from college so its not like he is some random dude off the street.

 

[kandake]

I don't have any hard and fast rules. It depends on the guy, how I feel about him and how I feel at that moment.

 

[sylver2]

if im feeling him then heck yeh!

 

[CarefreeinChicago]

I was and I wanted to but the whole what if i touch his weapon made me keep my distance.

 

[NaturallyBlonde]

If I'm liking him, yes. If not, heck no, probably a "hollywood" hug.

 

[kandake]

I was and I wanted to but the whole what if i touch his weapon made me keep my distance.

which weapon

 

[CarefreeinChicago]

which weapon

lol the one issued by the department

 

[TayMac]

If it was a good date and I'm feeling him like that, I certainly would. A small kiss, not a nasty 10 second long swapping saliva kind though.

 

[Mai Tai]

On the cheek yes. Lips? I need to get to know him a little more for that. I'm a little germ-phobic , and I can't just go and kiss a man until I have had at lease one conversation about his STD history...

ETA: I didn't kiss my current SO until I saw the results of his latest HIV test, and assessed him for a history of cold sores, fever blisters, and other things of the sorts. I guess it's the nurse in me. He looked at me like I was crazy, but I told him, "I just don't go kissing people. Never had mono, a cold sore, or fever blister in my life, and I don't plan on starting." He laughed, called me a nerd, and kept it moving. If he'd had problem with my line if questioning, then I would have scratched him off my list.

 

[LBoogie]

My first date with DH ended with a church hug after he walked me to my door (I initiated the hug). Our first date was 8 hours, and we didn't even go see a movie. After I closed my door, I said "he's ghey!" I mean, how could he not at least try something after spending 8 hours basking in my gloriousness?! LOL.

Our first kiss actually didn't happen until our third date.

 

[-Volare]

I will if I feel it, if not then he gets sent home with the check and no lovey dovey.

 

[MizAvalon]

Never. I just give a hug and a thank you.

 

[Tee]

Not on the first day. A nice hug and a kiss on the check. Gotta keep them wondering a lil.

 

[kandake]

My first date with DH ended with a church hug after he walked me to my door (I initiated the hug). Our first date was 8 hours, and we didn't even go see a movie. After I closed my door, I said "he's ghey!" I mean, how could he not at least try something after spending 8 hours basking in my gloriousness?! LOL.

Our first kiss actually didn't happen until our third date.

I'm glad you shared this story.

I've been on three dates with this guy that I'm feeling. We enjoy each others company but he hasn't kissed me yet. I'm like three dates and "basking in my gloriousness" you haven't felt compelled to kiss me yet? He'll hold/caress my hand. He'll rub my back. He'll give me a long embrace upon parting. But NO kiss. And oh yeah, my breaf is just fine.

I swear I've been lightweight questioning his sexuality.

ETA: oh yeah, one day I had on a tube top maxi dress. He gave me his typical embrace and he kissed me on my shoulder. Thats the only kiss I've gotten.

 

[ladysaraii]

I'm usually a hug type of person

ETA: maybe

 

[BrooklynSouth]

Brush on the cheek if I like him.; gives me the chance to get a good whiff of him..no lips!

 

[LBoogie]

I'm glad you shared this story.

I've been on three dates with this guy that I'm feeling. We enjoy each others company but he hasn't kissed me yet. I'm like three dates and "basking in my gloriousness" you haven't felt compelled to kiss me yet? He'll hold/caress my hand. He'll rub my back. He'll give me a long embrace upon parting. But NO kiss. And oh yeah, my breaf is just fine.

I swear I've been lightweight questioning his sexuality.

ETA: oh yeah, one day I had on a tube top maxi dress. He gave me his typical embrace and he kissed me on my shoulder. Thats the only kiss I've gotten.

I'd chock it up to he respects you...you could always ask him about homosexuality or talk about it and TRY to get something out of his response. LOL.

The funny thing is, any guy that TRIED to kiss me on the first date, I never saw again because I felt "Ugh, THE NERVE!" Then when he came along and had respect for me and what he was trying to establish with me, I thought "GHEY!" But, I'm a woman....you know we don't make sense half the time.

 

[Bachelorette]

ETA: oh yeah, one day I had on a tube top maxi dress. He gave me his typical embrace and he kissed me on my shoulder. Thats the only kiss I've gotten.

Ooo that's hott.

Why are you wondering about his sexuality

This reminds me of SATC when Aiden(*swoon*) had to remind carrie of "Romance"

 

[LBoogie]

Ooo that's hott.

Why are you wondering about his sexuality

This reminds me of SATC when Aiden(*swoon*) had to remind carrie of "Romance"

Probably because alot of women (including my former self) are not used to men being gentlemen and not trying to jump our bones on the first date. Classical conditioning (thank Pavlov).

Any man that can be in our wonderful presence for more than an hour and not try to kiss, fondle or spew tons of sexual innenuendo's is GHEY!

"How could you be around and look at all of this wondeful mind, spirit and BODY and NOT try to jump my bones!?"

With some of us, it takes a real man to show us what real men are about. *shrugs*

I credit it to a Chris Rock skit "women been getting offered d*** since they were 12 years old...here let me get the door for you, want some d**?" When you meet a man that isn't trying to give you the meat from the beginning, it makes you wonder (first about him....then about yourself and what you SHOULD be used to).

 

[kandake]

I'd chock it up to he respects you...you could always ask him about homosexuality or talk about it and TRY to get something out of his response. LOL.

The funny thing is, any guy that TRIED to kiss me on the first date, I never saw again because I felt "Ugh, THE NERVE!" Then when he came along and had respect for me and what he was trying to establish with me, I thought "GHEY!" But, I'm a woman....you know we don't make sense half the time.

Ooo that's hott.

Why are you wondering about his sexuality

This reminds me of SATC when Aiden(*swoon*) had to remind carrie of "Romance"

I'll go with respect, Lboogie. Its just so weird.

Bachelorette, I was just kidding. The thought did cross my mind but not to the point that I seriously questioned his sexuality. I don't think he's gay. I just don't understand his approach. I keep thinking is there some sort of catch.

I do feel a strong romantic chemistry with him.

Probably because alot of women (including my former self) are not used to men being gentlemen and not trying to jump our bones on the first date. Classical conditioning (thank Pavlov).

Any man that can be in our wonderful presence for more than an hour and not try to kiss, fondle or spew tons of sexual innenuendo's is GHEY!

"How could you be around and look at all of this wondeful mind, spirit and BODY and NOT try to jump my bones!?"

With some of us, it takes a real man to show us what real men are about. *shrugs*

I credit it to a Chris Rock skit "women been getting offered d*** since they were 12 years old...here let me get the door for you, want some d**?" When you meet an man that isn't trying to give you the meat from the beginning, it makes you wonder (first about him....then about yourself and what you SHOULD be used to).

Lboogie, I totally agree with you. Its sad when you really think about it/ I mean, I've had gentlemen in my life but not to this extent. This is uncharted territory for me. Your last statement is exactly what I've been going through.

I guess you're right, it takes a real man to show what a real man is like.

I remember that Chris Rock skit.

 

[CarefreeinChicago]

You guys gave some great answers we went on a second date with a hug and a small kiss on the check and this time I did not do the fake thing

 

[chelleyrock]

Probably because alot of women (including my former self) are not used to men being gentlemen and not trying to jump our bones on the first date. Classical conditioning (thank Pavlov).

Any man that can be in our wonderful presence for more than an hour and not try to kiss, fondle or spew tons of sexual innenuendo's is GHEY!

"How could you be around and look at all of this wondeful mind, spirit and BODY and NOT try to jump my bones!?"

With some of us, it takes a real man to show us what real men are about. *shrugs*

I credit it to a Chris Rock skit "women been getting offered d*** since they were 12 years old...here let me get the door for you, want some d**?" When you meet an man that isn't trying to give you the meat from the beginning, it makes you wonder (first about him....then about yourself and what you SHOULD be used to).

This is soooo true. I can't stop laughing. I can't breath

I remember the ice cream man trying to hit on me at 12 years old... talking about "I seen you've grown". I say to myself now, he could've at least given me a free cone.