NYLegalNewbie
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You know the situation...
You're frustrated, sad and/or disappointed because another dating situation didn't work out. Maybe it's a guy who didn't call after the first date. Maybe it's a guy who's disappeared after a few weeks, even though things seemed great to you. Maybe you just broke off something long term.
You tell your friends, and what's the first thing that comes out of their mouths?
"Oh, don't worry about it. It will be alright. It will happen for you someday!"
UGHHHHHHHH
I'm not saying that such positive words are a bad thing. Not by a long shot. We all need encouragement when times get rough. But I think there's an appropriate time to give that encouragement.
Personally, in the immediate aftermath of a dating disappointment, I don't want a pep talk. I want SYMPATHY. I want an ear. I want someone who will listen to my frustration and disappointment. I want my feelings to be acknowledged and respected...not ignored. I firmly believe that you always have to work through your emotions no matter what they are, as long as you don't let them overwhelm you.
Does anyone else ever feel like this?
You're frustrated, sad and/or disappointed because another dating situation didn't work out. Maybe it's a guy who didn't call after the first date. Maybe it's a guy who's disappeared after a few weeks, even though things seemed great to you. Maybe you just broke off something long term.
You tell your friends, and what's the first thing that comes out of their mouths?
"Oh, don't worry about it. It will be alright. It will happen for you someday!"
UGHHHHHHHH
I'm not saying that such positive words are a bad thing. Not by a long shot. We all need encouragement when times get rough. But I think there's an appropriate time to give that encouragement.
Personally, in the immediate aftermath of a dating disappointment, I don't want a pep talk. I want SYMPATHY. I want an ear. I want someone who will listen to my frustration and disappointment. I want my feelings to be acknowledged and respected...not ignored. I firmly believe that you always have to work through your emotions no matter what they are, as long as you don't let them overwhelm you.
Does anyone else ever feel like this?