Do you believe that once a Cheater, always a Cheater?

[Xavier]

I was reading an earlier thread that got me thinking.Do you believe in the saying, once a cheater, always a cheater? Have you dealt with a cheating man in the past, and chose to give him a second chance? How did he regain your trust? Have you forgiven only to find that his cheating ways still continued?

I've posed several questions above but I am mainly looking for others to share their experience with a cheating DH,FH or SO.

 

[msdeevee]

No, I believe that people can make a mistake and then can be truly sorry for it and decide to change their behavior and abide by that.

 

[Livingmylifetothefullest]

Yes, the same way I believe in "he hits you once, he'll do it again" or "once an abuser, always an abuser". I prefer not to share my experience but it would take a long time for someone to change.

 

[Xavier]

Yes, the same way I believe in "he hits you once, he'll do it again" or "once an abuser, always an abuser". I prefer not to share my experience but it would take a long time for someone to change.

My father was a notorious cheater and physical abuser and I think that my trust issues stem from the way I saw him treat my mother as a child.

As far as the cheating, I honestly think after a while she[mom]just started to believe that cheating is just part of every man's nature, to make herself feel better and she just stopped caring.

 

[JustKiya]

It's more a matter of once you break my trust, it can never be fully repaired - so in my mind, once a cheater, always a trustbreaker - once an abuser, always a trustbreaker. And I can't abide trustbreakers, ya know?

 

[chicacanella]

Yes, the same way I believe in "he hits you once, he'll do it again" or "once an abuser, always an abuser". I prefer not to share my experience but it would take a long time for someone to change.

I believe that if someone tried to change on their own, it would be futile but with God's help, I believe anyone can change.

I didn't always think like this because I've been hurt by different men but as God began to work with me, he showed me that with Him change is really possible.

 

[Sosoothing]

No I do not. Nothing is impossible and some people can change.

 

[SUPER SWEET]

People do change according to lifestages. I have a friend from college he was such a cheater in his 20's. Now in his late 30's he looks at life and relationships so much differently. Also, when he lost the love of his life to a one-night stand it made him see love doesn't come easy as he thought!

 

[tiara76]

no not at all

 

[Vintageglam]

Yep this is a fact unless they were cheating when they were very young and stoopid and then grew up. Otherwise once a dawg always a dawg. Sexual addiction is real.

ETA: By cheating I mean on more than just one occasion and continuously. People clearly can make mistakes but if there is a persistent pattern then stay the hell away from that person.

Hat a very bad cheating ex whom till this day is 40 years old and still doing the same stoopid things.

 

[Xavier]

Bumping...............