Do 3ways Destroy Relationships?

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

I just finished Carl Weber's Something on the Side, which is a good read.

Anyway, one of the characters had a three-way with her husband and best friend. She wanted the three-way for her husband so bad, she paid the chick $5k and took her shopping. She insisted that her husband go through with it... and in the end became upset and jealous because she thought the husband enjoyed the best friend more than he did her.

She ends up cheating on him after he lets her sleep with his best friend and employee, a Brazilian guy named Raoul.

Anyway, are threesomes a recipe for a disaster in any relationship?

 

[Whimsy]

I think if you have a serious and committed relationship there is no room for another person in your bed. It cannot end well.

 

[hopeful]

I think so, definitely a disaster 99.99% of the time.

 

[Ganjababy]

For me it would be a disaster. However, I have seen documentaries on people who do it and it worked for them. So I guess that it can work for some but not for all. I also think that you have to have a certain mind-set for it to work for you.

 

[MissMeWithThatIsh]

I think if you have a serious and committed relationship there is no room for another person in your bed. It cannot end well.

That's my general belief as well. . .

The husband said it was only in his mind and he didn't want to make it a live reality. She pressed so hard, it was ridiculous!

Even to have an "open relationship," it takes a very unique mentality most people don't have... and it's rare these people can be that committed in the end...

 

[Princess4real]

I already know the posters who are going to come in here and say no, they don't destroy relationships and that it probably will make the relationship stronger, but I say he!! yes!!! It is a recipe for disaster!!! Anybody who engages in this nastiness has issues. Your relationship will never ever be the same if a person gets involved in a nasty spreading different juices threesome! I don't care if the man wears 15 condoms, it's nastay. When your partner comes at you with this BS, you might as well start to packing, it's over and it's only a matter of time before he or she starts cheating if they haven't already.

ETA: Why isn't one *enis and one bagina good enough? Is it really necessary to be in a room switching partners? Have some self control! To me it's all in a person head for why they have to have several men or women at once because the end result is an orgasm isn't it? Why does someone need a buffet of *enises or bagina's for stimulation?

 

[Whimsy]

After the incident there's SO MUCH that can go wrong.

I don't see the point.

If one party seriously wants to be with someone else sexually, that person doesn't need to be in the relationship.

If it's an "open" relationship, IMO that's not a relationship, and 3ways can abound...because there's no true bond, there's no unity, no loyalty, no.... relationship.

 

[jdvzmommy]

I love Carl Weber and that was a good book. I think a relationship can be successful after a threesome as long as the rules are clear and it's what both people in the relationship want. All I know for a fact is that I am stingy and I don't like to share, so it wouldn't work out.

 

[Lylddlebit]

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[Princess4real]

It destroys monagomy...people have really low standards for how they define relationships.

I agree, they define it by seeing if their partner is down for this type of BS, IMO.

 

[FlowerHair]

I have a co-worker, I think she has an open relationship. At least I think it's open for her boyfriend

I don't see it working in the long run, but there are probably more people that do it than we know.

 

[TCatt86]

I think 3ways are best in a hookup/cut buddy situation. Not in a serious relationship. I can't share my man.

 

[anon123]

I know a couple that has been married for at least 10 years and they frequently invite a 3rd in. It can work. But I suspect more people think they can handle it than actually can.

 

[ladysaraii]

I think it can work. It really depends on the mentality of the people involved and the understanding between them.

But I wouldn't be having a 3some w/ my SO and best friend. We'd have to find a 3rd party that wasn't involved in our everyday lives that we only saw for that purpose

 

[kismettt]

i read somewhere that if you want to go there, it should not be with anyone you have a close relationship with (SO, best friend).

 

[TayMac]

I agree with TCatt.

Most couples cannot be emotionally involved and have another person all up in their sexual relationship. If you have even a small shred of insecurity, a 3some will bring them out.