BlackHairDiva
Well-Known Member
Hello and Happy New Year!!!
In my local area, there was a dating seminar called Dating 101 For Women. The seminar was given by a dating coach. There is a separate session for men also by the same name. I wanted to share what I discovered.
Ladies, remember these so call articles, TV segments about how black women are not getting married, not dating well as a whole, etc etc
Tonight, I was surrounded by the following:
- Women complaining that there are no good men
- Where the men are at, women who have not dated in 8 years
-Women who do not know what the heck to do.
-Women who have a hard time finding a man because they are too successful and men are scared of a strong educated woman.
Here's the kicker....NONE OF THE WOMEN ABOVE WHERE BLACK!!
SO ITS NOT A BLACK WOMEN ISSUE ITS A EVERYBODY ISSUE.
The majority of the participants at the seminar were either Asian women or white women.
The dating coach asked us to answer some questions and just like in America’s funniest video, we had a remote to key in our answer anonymously.
The first question that came up was when was the last time you went on a date? The result 38% had not been on a date for 4 years and their ages where between the ages of 29 to 38.
One woman, she is 38 and yes white, had not had been in a relationship for 6 years. She is never married, never had kids.
Another one was 33, a surgeon and had issues find a man due to her financial status and education…men tend to run off.
I was most baffled was 34 year old lady who, never married with no kids, had slept with 340 men!!! She claimed herself to be the gift to sex. She had a very holistic/ Mother Teresa way about it.
Hearing many of the women at the session reminded me of the LHCF relationship forum except for the story of sleeping with the 340 men. No one in here claimed something like that. Not that I know of!
Anyway the bottom line that I got from it was that what was in the Margaret Kent book and in the ring formula book is dead on!
The dating coach claims that the participants in the men seminar, the main are complaining that women are not feminine anymore, you can’t approach them, they are not appreciative, and some are really cold. She claims that many of the men nowadays are scared of approaching women. They just do initiate or do anything. This is why we see a lot of staring and smiling but no approaching.
In summary here is what is going on and the solution:
Men are attracted to women in the following order:
- They get attracted physically so looks is what they notice first. Then, they get emotionally attracted to women. And then mentally and spiritually.
Nowadays, there are more opportunities for us to meet men and the problem is we are unable to connect.
The solution/ Strategy
1- Be authentic: Be yourself and go to place where you know there are men. This place should be a place where you are doing something that you enjoy and that makes you shine through meaning you are felling good and giving out a great vibe.
2- Be passionate about life!! Have a life!!!
3- Express feminity
4- Also don’t get intimate too quickly… aka dong give up the cookie at warp speed.
5- Have bounderies .
6- When you see red flags when dating the man. Don’t stick around giving him second chances… Move on to someone else who does not that red flag.
In my local area, there was a dating seminar called Dating 101 For Women. The seminar was given by a dating coach. There is a separate session for men also by the same name. I wanted to share what I discovered.
Ladies, remember these so call articles, TV segments about how black women are not getting married, not dating well as a whole, etc etc
Tonight, I was surrounded by the following:
- Women complaining that there are no good men
- Where the men are at, women who have not dated in 8 years
-Women who do not know what the heck to do.
-Women who have a hard time finding a man because they are too successful and men are scared of a strong educated woman.
Here's the kicker....NONE OF THE WOMEN ABOVE WHERE BLACK!!
SO ITS NOT A BLACK WOMEN ISSUE ITS A EVERYBODY ISSUE.
The majority of the participants at the seminar were either Asian women or white women.
The dating coach asked us to answer some questions and just like in America’s funniest video, we had a remote to key in our answer anonymously.
The first question that came up was when was the last time you went on a date? The result 38% had not been on a date for 4 years and their ages where between the ages of 29 to 38.
One woman, she is 38 and yes white, had not had been in a relationship for 6 years. She is never married, never had kids.
Another one was 33, a surgeon and had issues find a man due to her financial status and education…men tend to run off.
I was most baffled was 34 year old lady who, never married with no kids, had slept with 340 men!!! She claimed herself to be the gift to sex. She had a very holistic/ Mother Teresa way about it.
Hearing many of the women at the session reminded me of the LHCF relationship forum except for the story of sleeping with the 340 men. No one in here claimed something like that. Not that I know of!
Anyway the bottom line that I got from it was that what was in the Margaret Kent book and in the ring formula book is dead on!
The dating coach claims that the participants in the men seminar, the main are complaining that women are not feminine anymore, you can’t approach them, they are not appreciative, and some are really cold. She claims that many of the men nowadays are scared of approaching women. They just do initiate or do anything. This is why we see a lot of staring and smiling but no approaching.
In summary here is what is going on and the solution:
Men are attracted to women in the following order:
- They get attracted physically so looks is what they notice first. Then, they get emotionally attracted to women. And then mentally and spiritually.
Nowadays, there are more opportunities for us to meet men and the problem is we are unable to connect.
The solution/ Strategy
1- Be authentic: Be yourself and go to place where you know there are men. This place should be a place where you are doing something that you enjoy and that makes you shine through meaning you are felling good and giving out a great vibe.
2- Be passionate about life!! Have a life!!!
3- Express feminity
4- Also don’t get intimate too quickly… aka dong give up the cookie at warp speed.
5- Have bounderies .
6- When you see red flags when dating the man. Don’t stick around giving him second chances… Move on to someone else who does not that red flag.
