Did You Have Sex With Your Husband Before Marriage?

[MyAngelEyez~C~U]

Sexual compatibility is just as important as emotional and mental compatibility IMO. I hope those of you who have or are waiting till marriage at least sneak a peak or cop a feel, cuz it it would suck to marry the perfect guy just to discover he's got a thumb for a member.....but I guess in the case of virgins, it wouldn't matter much if he did. Ya'll wouldn't know the difference.

 

[1Aleeesha]

Virgins aren't dumb...

Some women just didn't get dipped and dabbed into by every Tom - Dick & Harry before the real man came in and put it down... It's called Religious Morale and still exists amongst some people in 2009. I know everyone doesn't have it so I don't judge.

That's a whole other thread...

 

[prettyFine]

no we didn't but that wasn't our problem. having it in real life was. that was the hard part.

 

[1Aleeesha]

By the way... A Real woman going to always know when to say, hit it from the back when she feels it's necessary or slow it down...Speed it up, whatever she feeling at that particular moment prior to achieving orgasm.

I'm sure others can agree to that first dick or not.

 

[MyAngelEyez~C~U]

Virgins aren't dumb...

Some women just didn't get dipped and dabbed into by every Tom - Dick & Harry before the real man came in and put it down... It's called Religious Morale and still exists amongst some people in 2009. I know everyone doesn't have it so I don't judge.

That's a whole other thread...

Sensitive, are we?

Never said virgins were dumb. But if you've never had anything in your vagina, you're gonna feel like what you DO get is a monster when the time comes, regardless of if it's actually a monster or a mini-dick.

BTW, are you insinuating that those who don't/didn't wait for marriage are screwing every Tom, Dick, and Harry???? Almost sounds like you are calling them whores...

WOW. gosh, I'm glad you don't judge....

 

[michelle81]

By the way... A Real woman going to always know when to say, hit it from the back when she feels it's necessary or slow it down...Speed it up, whatever she feeling at that particular moment prior to achieving orgasm.

I'm sure others can agree to that first dick or not.

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[michelle81]

Virgins aren't dumb...

Some women just didn't get dipped and dabbed into by every Tom - Dick & Harry before the real man came in and put it down... It's called Religious Morale and still exists amongst some people in 2009. I know everyone doesn't have it so I don't judge.

That's a whole other thread...

I hope this part wasn't addressed to me or all women who choose to have sex before marriage. If so, that's a pretty broad generalization and it is a judgment as well (which you said you don't do).

ETA: Trying to not say more and keep it on topic for the OP.

 

[1Aleeesha]

I hope this part wasn't addressed to me or all women who choose to have sex before marriage. If so, that's a pretty broad generalization and it is a judgment as well (which you said you don't do).

ETA: Trying to not say more and keep it on topic for the OP.

First 3 sexual experiences, different men... We can give them aliases such as ... Tom, Dick & Harry.

Sensitive, are we?

Never said virgins were dumb. But if you've never had anything in your vagina, you're gonna feel like what you DO get is a monster when the time comes, regardless of if it's actually a monster or a mini-dick.

BTW, are you insinuating that those who don't/didn't wait for marriage are screwing every Tom, Dick, and Harry???? Almost sounds like you are calling them whores...

WOW. gosh, I'm glad you don't judge....

Refer to the above on Tom, Dick and Harry ... And no I don't judge that isn't my place. I don't think that it matters if it's a monster or a mini as long as that big O is achieved.
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[1Aleeesha]

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There's no other way for me to elaborate on that one...

 

[MyAngelEyez~C~U]

First 3 sexual experiences, different men... We can give them aliases such as ... Tom, Dick & Harry.

Refer to the above on Tom, Dick and Harry ... And no I don't judge that isn't my place. I don't think that it matters if it's a monster or a mini as long as that big O is achieved.
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Good save!

 

[NinasLongAmbition]

Good thread OP! Im not married yet, dont even have a boyfriend but Im definitely waiting until marriage. Dont need any confusion, complications, heartache, stds, unplanned pregnancies.

 

[Radianthealth]

We did it before marraige and only stopped because we were long distance.

We were engaged for a little under a year and neither of us felt the need to take a break before getting married. We have been married for almost three years and we are still going strong

 

[happycakes]

Riddle me this.....One of my girlfriends is engaged to a 38 year old virgin and she doesn't think that they will ever have sex. Even after 3 years she's says he just doesn't seem very physical at all. At first, he tried to have sex with hre, however, she turned him down twice because she wanted to wait to get married. However, now she has some concern that they will never have sex. She's try to get him stimulated but to no avail, his privates just doesn't get hard.

Should she still marry him? She's afraid that if she marries him they may still not have sex.

I told her what's the point of getting married then. Need to have sex to have children, otherwise what's the point.

I think she stays with him because he takes care of her and she's afraid to start dating again.

Am I wrong for telling her to not to marry this guy?

 

[prettyFine]

we played around heavily. but i did not want sex before. thats why we didn't prolong the engagement lol. pinkopulence is that man gay? what dude doesn't get hard and he's never had sex in 38 yrs? something is seriously wrong with that dude.

 

[Lourdes]

That's totally understandable - you're Muslim, right? If I recall correctly, it is a lot harder to get to the point of marriage if you aren't a virgin (esp. as a woman) and want to marry a Muslim man.

For the rest of us, it doesn't apply, as much.

Um I don't think so. Muslim girls just take it in the back door to retain their virginal virginity...

 

[Rastafarai]

Riddle me this.....One of my girlfriends is engaged to a 38 year old virgin and she doesn't think that they will ever have sex. Even after 3 years she's says he just doesn't seem very physical at all. At first, he tried to have sex with hre, however, she turned him down twice because she wanted to wait to get married. However, now she has some concern that they will never have sex. She's try to get him stimulated but to no avail, his privates just doesn't get hard.

Should she still marry him? She's afraid that if she marries him they may still not have sex.

I told her what's the point of getting married then. Need to have sex to have children, otherwise what's the point.

I think she stays with him because he takes care of her and she's afraid to start dating again.

Am I wrong for telling her to not to marry this guy?

Another reason why I test drive my car before buying.

It sounds like its psychological. Maybe he has been taught all his life that sex was wrong ? Or maybe its just out of nerves.

It could also depend on what she is doing to stimulate him.

 

[darlingdiva]

Riddle me this.....One of my girlfriends is engaged to a 38 year old virgin and she doesn't think that they will ever have sex. Even after 3 years she's says he just doesn't seem very physical at all. At first, he tried to have sex with hre, however, she turned him down twice because she wanted to wait to get married. However, now she has some concern that they will never have sex. She's try to get him stimulated but to no avail, his privates just doesn't get hard.

Should she still marry him? She's afraid that if she marries him they may still not have sex.

I told her what's the point of getting married then. Need to have sex to have children, otherwise what's the point.

I think she stays with him because he takes care of her and she's afraid to start dating again.

Am I wrong for telling her to not to marry this guy?[/quote]

Absolutely not! Physical intimacy is a very important part of a relationship.

In regards to the poll, we had sex before we got married & we're still going strong!

 

[Almaz]

NO not at all. Still going strong.

 

[treybaby2005]

Yes we did.I mean we even have proof!When we got engaged we decided to wait until the honeymoon.I have a little less than 3wks now.I can't wait!It has made us closer I must say!

 

[SouthernBeauty]

Me too! I wouldn't say from first date, though but not too much long after lol.

We dated for 1 year, lived together for 1 then we were engaged for 6 months and married 4 years this OCtober.

We tried the no sex thing before getting married (just as a challenge for us) and it proved futile.

But yes we are STILL going strong- baby# 2 coming soon!

My husband and I did the damn thang on the first night and have been going strong ever since! Although we just got married we have been together for almost 6 years and I dont see us slowing down any time soon! He is lucky he is at work right now! LOL!

 

[Ladyhenri]

Heck yeah.
We have been together 5 years now (just did half the marriage in Dec) and we are going very strong..........................................

 

[Ladyhenri]

Virgins aren't dumb...

Some women just didn't get dipped and dabbed into by every Tom - Dick & Harry before the real man came in and put it down... It's called Religious Morale and still exists amongst some people in 2009. I know everyone doesn't have it so I don't judge.

That's a whole other thread...

Every Tom- Dick and Harry???


Aww helllz Naw!!erplexed

 

[Ladyhenri]

By the way... A Real woman going to always know when to say, hit it from the back when she feels it's necessary or slow it down...Speed it up, whatever she feeling at that particular moment prior to achieving orgasm.

I'm sure others can agree to that first dick or not.

I don't know of any virgin that speaks that way on first d***. You sure are a special virgin, aint cha?

 

[BrittanyH26]

This sure is an interesting thread. I am not in a relationship right now, but I do wonder how sex effects it. Particularly when you have sex early.

 

[GirlTalk]

Yes, my husband & I had sex prior to marriage. What I have noticed is we find new ways to keep it fresh & creative. Shout out to all those that have waited or will wait...but my hubby & I both wanted to know if we would be compatible in that area. We do things different almost every time.

 

[Tinkerbell19]

hmmm flashbacks lol YUP

 

[Opulence]

we were both virgins when we got married. That is the way God intended it to be and I think it's the best way.

 

[ChelzBoo]

we were both virgins when we got married. That is the way God intended it to be and I think it's the best way.

waiting is something i plan on doing also.

 

[Blessed_Angel]

My fiance and I have had sex before but recently decided to stop and wait until the wedding night (in June!). It has actually brought us a lot closer and I think I will appreciate my honeymoon a lot more now!

That's very nice. I wish I could have done that.

DH and I wasn't playing around...we were making up for our single days. We're still going strong. I hope he goes strong tonight!

 

[Bachelorette]

Um I don't think so. Muslim girls just take it in the back door to retain their virginal virginity...

Not Muslim but I find this offensive. So not necessary, wonder if saying such about women who claim Christianity yet indulge in pre martial sex/fornication would be ok