Here's my current story...
I thought I did. But forgiveness is a true test. Especially when it comes to cheating. I tried to live as a happy family being that I just had my first born son by the time I found out the truth. (I suspected something while pregnant, but he denied it initially). There was no physical intimacy involved according to her and him, but he was interested enough to drive 45 minutes to another city to see her a few times. I kept thinking about it, over and over again. It came to a point that every time I looked at my husband, I wanted to throw anything I could get my hands on at his head. I just became so angry at what he did. If he loved me so much as he is currently saying, how could he be so stupid? All the while I was at home pregnant.
I never put my hands on my husband, btw. I just thought about it.
I was angry. Angry that he cheated. He did it while I was pregnant. He also lied when I initially confronted him. Then at that time, he made it seem like I was just his crazy pregnant, insecure, and delusional wife.
I spoke to her and she told me the truth. He told me she was lying.
I asked "why would she lie to me? she doesn't know me".
He responded, "she's lying to get you to leave me, because she wants me. She has four kids, why would I want her?" He thought him saying this about her would make me believe him.
I tried to work on it, but I could not get what he did (and possibly have/would have done if opportunity allowed him) out of my head. So my 6 month old son and I are living two hours away in another city. In my state, you must be separated for one year in order to get your divorce granted eventually. He's telling me he wants to work on our family and how I shouldn't break it up and blah, blah, blah. However, I can not trust him. He was too selfish. He was willing risk putting me at risk of STDs and crazy women (I think there were others, but I don't have proof). Unsuspecting wives contract STD's and are attacked all the time because of selfish husbands who lie. I have gotten tested 3 times since I found out. As of now, I'm leaving my husband.
If trust can build again, I think it's okay to forgive. Not all marriages should work out like mine. I just can't trust him anymore, and I don't want to be thinking about every single thing he is doing while I'm not with him.