eyunka
Well-Known Member
Once our 3 kids leave the house. My youngest is 13. I just can't do it! Call me selfish but I just can't do it.
For one my tubes are tied and couple years ago had a hysterectomy so he's talking about adopting a little girl. I wouldn't want to go through that process. Please correct me if i'm wrong but isn't the process of adopting grueling? (I have no issues with having an adopted child, I'm one myself)
I don't want to take care of kids all my life. Once our kids are grown and on their own, that's our time to do things we couldn't while they were there. Personally I have no business taking care of a toddler in my late 40's.
Everytime we discuss I ask why do you want another dd. He says because our dd will be grown. I ask for other reasons and I just get because i want another daughter. I've always wanted 4 kids.
You guys i understand that but 4 kids was a bit much for me. We are struggling with 3. So because that's always something he envisioned he can't let it go.
I don't see myself budging. I asked him a serious question...do I have anything to worry about in terms of you going else where because this is something you feel pretty strong on. He says no that he is going to keep trying to convince me to change my mind.
For one my tubes are tied and couple years ago had a hysterectomy so he's talking about adopting a little girl. I wouldn't want to go through that process. Please correct me if i'm wrong but isn't the process of adopting grueling? (I have no issues with having an adopted child, I'm one myself)
I don't want to take care of kids all my life. Once our kids are grown and on their own, that's our time to do things we couldn't while they were there. Personally I have no business taking care of a toddler in my late 40's.
Everytime we discuss I ask why do you want another dd. He says because our dd will be grown. I ask for other reasons and I just get because i want another daughter. I've always wanted 4 kids.
You guys i understand that but 4 kids was a bit much for me. We are struggling with 3. So because that's always something he envisioned he can't let it go.
I don't see myself budging. I asked him a serious question...do I have anything to worry about in terms of you going else where because this is something you feel pretty strong on. He says no that he is going to keep trying to convince me to change my mind.
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