Dating Your Ex's Friends: Is this off limits for you?
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FlowerHair
Reclaiming my time
Î wouldn't date any of my ex's close friends 
Maybe a random aquaintance, but that's it.
Maybe a random aquaintance, but that's it.
WorkInProgress88
Well-Known Member
'no bueno'
.i learned from my mistake but in my defense it was a friend of a guy i use to 'talk' to, not actually dated
.i learned from my mistake but in my defense it was a friend of a guy i use to 'talk' to, not actually dated
Well my personal motto is keep all men around, you just never know
I dated a guy, we broke up. I knew his friend loosely but not very well. Well.... I met up with the friend a few years later, we started dating
And then, I married him:wink2:
*shrugs* Different strokes for different folks. It worked for me though
I dated a guy, we broke up. I knew his friend loosely but not very well. Well.... I met up with the friend a few years later, we started dating
And then, I married him:wink2:
*shrugs* Different strokes for different folks. It worked for me though
Dominican09
New Member
I voted yes...b/c if I wanted any of his friends I would've got with them in the first place.
JustKiya
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I would, and have, and it caused no issues that I was aware of. We were all in college, I dated M first, then broke up with him and started dating his best friend, J, and then broke up with him and started dating M again.
After we broke up (the second time), J & I were fbuddies for a while. The whole time, J & M were good friends - I think they lived together for a while, and erryting. I'm still friends with both of them and invited both of them to my wedding.
Neither of them made it, though. 
Now, their female friends hated me while we were in college. *shrug* I think for me at least, the difference is that I was friends with both of them before I started dating M - so, it wasn't uncomfortable to be spending time in both of their presence while I was dating one or the other.
southerncitygirl
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nope and double nope, no recycled men!!
Î wouldn't date any of my ex's close friends
Maybe a random aquaintance, but that's it.
Yea, that's a big no-no for me. It's exactly the same as one of my close friends dating an ex of mine.
But a random acquaintance, possibly... might disturb me that they know each other though.
I see a lot of people voted no, but my bestfriend and I just had this conversation. It really depends. Did I date this person for a 2 weeks, 2 months, or is he my college sweetheart? I personally refuse to cut out a large circle of men simply because I dated one person. For example, in college I dated this one guy for about a month. We just had no chemistry, but we knew that and remained cool. About 6-7 years later (post college), I run into his Fraternity brother. We talked for a few weeks and eventually he expressed a strong interest in me and we began dating. I dated him for about a year. Now, had I had this "I won't date his friends or anyone in his circle" mentality I automatically would have eliminated about 40 good guys right there. It wasn't awkward when I was around all of them because the first guy was now married with a life of his own and like I said before, we did not click at all.
I would, and have, and it caused no issues that I was aware of. We were all in college, I dated M first, then broke up with him and started dating his best friend, J, and then broke up with him and started dating M again.
I'm still friends with both of them and invited both of them to my wedding.
Now, their female friends hated me while we were in college. *shrug* I think for me at least, the difference is that I was friends with both of them before I started dating M - so, it wasn't uncomfortable to be spending time in both of their presence while I was dating one or the other.
No disrespect at all, but if you were fbuddies at one point, was sex in the dating equation with both?.... that didn't make you feel kind of used or not right?
JustKiya
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If anyone was getting used, it was them - so, no, it didn't make me feel not right, at all. Why would it? *thinks*
It might have been different if they were the ones breaking up with me, I suppose.
Why would it? *thinks*
It might have been different if they were the ones breaking up with me, I suppose.
Oooo!!! That's a good way to take it
IDK, maybe because of societal stigmas, I, at first, was like but they're friends so it's gotta be like tag team on her, no fair , buuuuuuut flip that right on around, and yep, it was like you tagging them. And it does make sense, so I like. Nevermind me lol, all I needed was a new perspective 
ChocalateDiva
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Its not for me and my friends are not for him.
PaleoChick
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Most of his friends are thankfully unavailable bc there are so weird looking and acting ones in that bunch. No thank you.
