I am currently in the process of getting to know my ex's friends...
I could give an *** about how he feels about it, he was physically abusive towards me, and thus our relationship ended,,,,fast forward 3 years later, I ran into a friend of his while out and about and struck up a convo.....we exchanged info...
I don't believe the "birds of a feather flock together" mantra....there are a lot of men who abuse women, but that doesn't mean that all of their friends do the same....
That's like saying because my friend chooses to go home with a guy she met at the club, means I subscribe to the same behavior...me thinks not.
I happen to mesh with someone and get along with someone and yes they happen to know or be friends with my ex but I have ZERO respect for him...he put his hands on me...so *** him.
I don't make it a habit to go after any of my exes friends...I have respect for my other exes so I would not talk to any of their friends...but in THIS case I don't respect my Ex or his feelings...