What about this scenario?
I'm in a situation now where I really liked a guy friend from the beginning, but also so did an "acquaintance" of mine. Anytime people would ask her if she liked him however, she'd always deny it. So, I (silly me) really thought that she was telling the truth, and she didn't really like him like that. It wasn't until later on down the road did I find out that we basically both like/liked him at the same time, but didn't really tell anyone.
Well, now that it's out in the open that she likes him, and he's interested in her, they're more cool. The problem though, is that before she and him got super close on a "more than friends" level (they were always friends), what she doesn't know is that a while back I too was making my interest known to him in subtle ways, and he and I had a "thing" too. But this was all when I didn't think that she liked him!
So now days, I get the impression that although he's interested in her, he's still also somewhat interested in me. It's very confusing! They're not really dating (yet I suppose), but you can imagine the torment and torture I've had to endure!!
It's not a crime to like someone is it? I feel torn because of my feelings, but I don't feel like I should have to be tormented when it's just feelings...it's not like I'm trying to plot and plan ways to steal him away or whatever.
In fact, he's usually the one initiating things with me! Why is it that guys don't mind dating the girl friend of an ex, but women have a hard time with it?
I have slowly tried getting over him, but I still I feel like I'm hiding a big secret
, and wondering what would happen if she (or anyone else close to her) ever found out how I
REALLY felt about him. This girl isn't even a true "friend" to me, but she's someone I have to see all the time. And lately (I don't know if she suspects or something) she's been trying to be extra friendly and inviting me out places, when before she wouldn't care two cents! You know the saying: "keep your friends close, but your enemies closer"? Obviously, I wouldn't even think twice about a guy that my BEST friend or close friend were even interested in, (let alone dated!), but this girl is not a close friend, nor is she someone that I spend time with all the time these days. I just see her on a regular basis.
I feel like I'm going crazy!
I don't know what to do! I've been holding this in for about 2 years.