An aquaintance doesn't count if we just knew each other well enough to speak then oh well.I wouldn't do that to a best friend personally. That's just too weird IMO. Even if she were fine with it.
But what about if the girl wasn't your best friend? What if she were simply an acquaintance? And her ex pursued YOU...not the other way around? I'm trying to figure out what the boundaries are, because if it's the case that all guys are off-limits if they used to date ANY woman that you know, then that would rule out a LOT of potential guys!
I wouldn't do that to a best friend personally. That's just too weird IMO. Even if she were fine with it.
But what about if the girl wasn't your best friend? What if she were simply an acquaintance? And her ex pursued YOU...not the other way around? I'm trying to figure out what the boundaries are, because if it's the case that all guys are off-limits if they used to date ANY woman that you know, then that would rule out a LOT of potential guys!
I'm dating my best friend's ex, shes coming to terms with it & I've nver been happier.They went out years ago (back in the day like 9th grade; we're almost juniors in college btw) and she never really told any of us about the relationship (for reasons unknown). Him & I on the other hand have been friends for almost 4 years now and we've always had this silly joke that if we were both 23 or so and single, we'd just marry each other. Who knew it would really come true?
When it first started, I was just sick to my stomach over the whole thing. How could this happen? Is this worth it? Should I tell her I like him? It started getting so deep that we just ended up telling her we were interested in each other. She was taken aback, but she knew that I would never make a decision like that without putting some serious thought into it. Now, shes okay with it. I mean, they were 14 years old, you know? I love her and she will always be my sister but I don't think I've ever been so comfortable and happy with anyone else. He truly gets me, LHCF obsessed & all and I'm greatful that it all worked out.
I think that some people are meant to be together and sometimes you have to struggle a bit to get what you want. If you have a best friend who is willing to see you happy and put his/her insecurities aside for you, then thats a great thing.
There are TOO MANY FLIPPING men in the world, for you to need to date your best friend's ex . If he was the last man in the world then maybe.
I don't think any man is worth any drama. If dating him means DRAMA in any form or fashion then he is NOT my soulmate.
I wish my best friend would try that mess
If you even had to ask then yall aren't best friends.
I'm dating my best friend's ex, shes coming to terms with it & I've nver been happier.They went out years ago (back in the day like 9th grade; we're almost juniors in college btw) and she never really told any of us about the relationship (for reasons unknown). Him & I on the other hand have been friends for almost 4 years now and we've always had this silly joke that if we were both 23 or so and single, we'd just marry each other. Who knew it would really come true?
When it first started, I was just sick to my stomach over the whole thing. How could this happen? Is this worth it? Should I tell her I like him? It started getting so deep that we just ended up telling her we were interested in each other. She was taken aback, but she knew that I would never make a decision like that without putting some serious thought into it. Now, shes okay with it. I mean, they were 14 years old, you know? I love her and she will always be my sister but I don't think I've ever been so comfortable and happy with anyone else. He truly gets me, LHCF obsessed & all and I'm greatful that it all worked out.
I think that some people are meant to be together and sometimes you have to struggle a bit to get what you want. If you have a best friend who is willing to see you happy and put his/her insecurities aside for you, then thats a great thing.
I have never been in this situation but I wonder are people denying themselves of happiness because of this "rule"?
I am not saying your friend is dating a guy and you are there all throughout the relationship and if they break up you two get together, I agree that is grimey. However if it was years ago and everyone has moved on, how can anyone make rules about someone in their past, never really understood that part. erplexed
THERE IT IS!There are TOO MANY FLIPPING men in the world, for you to need to date your best friend's ex . If he was the last man in the world then maybe.
I don't think any man is worth any drama. If dating him means DRAMA in any form or fashion then he is NOT my soulmate.
I wish my best friend would try that mess