Could he have cheated??

[AmyInAtl]

Me and Dh was talking, over the phone (he's away, and has been for months) and he says to me, I'm getting better sexually. (I have never given him a poor rating).

I reply, thats great, you are really in good shape.

Anyway, days later I'm thinking, uuuhhh, it's been a few months since we been together, how does one get better, if they are not physically active.

I'm sure he doesn't touch himself and is not into porn. So I asked him, like, uh, how you getting better if you not doing nothing, how would you know. He sorta laughed it off lightly, like you know I work out. What would u think?????????????????

 

[frankie]

I'm confused. Is he saying that because he works out, he's building up his stamina and that equates to being better sexually?

I'd tell him to EXPLAIN exactly what he meant by that.

ETA: I wouldn't immediately jump to the cheating conclusion. What does your gut tell you?

 

[dlewis]

I would ask him what he meant by "I'm getting better sexually". I learned not to assume anything. You know your man, his history, and what he could and would do.

 

[AmyInAtl]

your right dlewis, and i suspect he may have been just trying to brag, to keep me . he does call me alot everyday, i can normally track him down 23 out of 24 hours. he doesn't go out........

good points, i guess he gets a pass on the comment.

 

[dlewis]

your right dlewis, and i suspect he may have been just trying to brag, to keep me . he does call me alot everyday, i can normally track him down 23 out of 24 hours. he doesn't go out........

good points, i guess he gets a pass on the comment.

Don't let those thought get planted in your mind. Stay positive.

I was going through something recently and one of my member friends gave me that advice.

 

[sunshinelady]

Maybe he was trying to initiate phone sex? I wouldn't read into it.

 

[AmyInAtl]

Maybe he was trying to initiate phone sex? I wouldn't read into it.

good point, i'm so cluelesslachen:

 

[SleekandBouncy]

Ask him.

SO and I have comically blunt relationship, if something like that did occur to me (which it would) I'd ask him straight out and let him know how it sounded. I have been known on a few occasions to let him know exactly how far up his behind my small foot can fit if the need arises

 

[Allandra]

I would just ask him.

Heck, I would have asked him as soon as those words left his mouth.

 

[SleekandBouncy]

I would just ask him.

Heck, I would have asked him as soon as those words left his mouth.

Anyone remember the scene from Wedding Crashers where the wonky red head jokes that the guy can't ever get away from him and then in a Bride of Chucky voice says "I'll find youuuuuuuu".

Honestly, I would have emailed this to him. He knows me by know

 

[MissYocairis]

Sophia! Hi! I don't think he's cheating. Men who are cheating don't mention it like that...in a nice, intimate conversation between he and his beloved like that. I agree that he might have been feeling frisky and feeling you like that and was trying to initiate a little heated conversation to ease the distance. But, I wonder do you think he really doesn't masturbate? Especially with the distance? Would it be a bad thing if he did? I thought all men pretty much did that when they are in a sort of forced celibacy kind of thing?

 

[AmyInAtl]

Sophia! Hi! I don't think he's cheating. Men who are cheating don't mention it like that...in a nice, intimate conversation between he and his beloved like that. I agree that he might have been feeling frisky and feeling you like that and was trying to initiate a little heated conversation to ease the distance. But, I wonder do you think he really doesn't masturbate? Especially with the distance? Would it be a bad thing if he did? I thought all men pretty much did that when they are in a sort of forced celibacy kind of thing?

ITA that all men touch themselves, but he just swears he doesn't touch his self (too bad, i think it's hot). But, he has me honestly thinking he doesn't. I have never seen him do it, or caught him.......I think it would be ok, I certainly wouldn't be mad at him, for playing with his own body.

 

[MissYocairis]

ITA that all men touch themselves, but he just swears he doesn't touch his self (too bad, i think it's hot). But, he has me honestly thinking he doesn't. I have never seen him do it, or caught him.......I think it would be ok, I certainly wouldn't be mad at him, for playing with his own body.

Hmm..well maybe he really doesn't? Or maybe he has started to and feels okay enough about it to say, "hey I'm improving sexually!" ? One thing's for sure, it sounds like he's really just missing his sweetie!

 

[cocoberry10]

Don't let those thought get planted in your mind. Stay positive.

I was going through something recently and one of my member friends gave me that advice.

I agree. Very good advice!

 

[mzhotniz86]

maybe he was talking about phone sex? or maybe he has a problem with a limpy and hes learning how to keep him fully awake?

 

[tarheelgurl]

Like it has already been said, stay positive and don't read too much into it. Men are stupid sometimes and say dumb stuff that makes no sense but is innocent.

 

[FlowerHair]

Some guys think they get better in bed if they are stronger aka if they work out ...men! LOL

 

[Kurlee]

Anyone remember the scene from Wedding Crashers where the wonky red head jokes that the guy can't ever get away from him and then in a Bride of Chucky voice says "I'll find youuuuuuuu".

Honestly, I would have emailed this to him. He knows me by know