*rolls up sleeves and lights up a newport one hunnit*
first, i'm sorry ur heartbroken.
so lemme git da facts straight. he broke up with u first. u suggested givin him his space, some time to think, but he insisted that yall remain friends. during this time, you tried to be nice, he grew distant. you ended the relationship that weekend and he agreed (he did this to save face since he initiated the breakup..it's a male ego thing, just so u know). you told him don't call me anymore, leave me alone, etc, but he tells u that he still wants to see you, take you out, blah blah blah.
i see why ur confused so try to take your feelings out of for a minute cuz men aren't emotional like we tend to be. he was in control when he broke it off with you. when you told him that you wanted to be done for good, he was devastated, but he had to agree since he initiated the breakup. in other words, the ball was back in your court. so he had to come at you some kind of way to try to keep you around. at this point, it doesn't have to do with love or feelings, feel me? men don't show emotions or wear their feelings on their sleeve.
so now, you've been good about not calling, now he wants to call and see how you're doing, callin u babe, etc. you gave him too much time on the phone. 25 minutes is too much cuz now your thinkin things will get right but to him he's like yeah, i still got her, she aint goin no where. i call this checkin in. see they do this to keep their foot in the puddi door.
in order to get over this man, u gotta think like one and take your emotions out of it cuz love ain't got nuffin to do with it. it's a mind control type of thing and as long as u give him time, he'll win.
so do it this way. like a bad child, he needs to be chastised. men don't go by words. they go by actions. if u tell a man imma getchu locked up, he wont take u serious. but if the cops come and lock him up, totally different ball game.
here's whatchu do. stop answering his phone calls. it won't hurt that bad cuz he ain't got shyt to talk about anyway. u want action. when u stop taking his phone calls, answering his e-mails, etc., he'll start blowin you up. trust. men don't like to be ignored. they're like children..always wantin attention, hence the 25 min phone call.
wait a week. when u do decide to answer the phone, just be like hey..wassup. he'll start goin all crazy tawkin bout some i been tryna call and u ain't answering ur phone...blah blah blah...actin all concerned cuz see, u ain't sweatin him no more. cut dat shyt short n be like listen, i'd really like to talk, but i'm in the middle of something. i'll have to talk with u later. take care.
omg. take care? when he here's that, he'll go crazy cuz to him that means oh dayum..she ain't playin. i won't make this too long, but u get where i'm goin. get control back and don't be the one getting played. feel me. flip the script. cuz that's what he did to you. he flipt the emotional script. all ur doin is giving it back. don't let him string u along. u string him along.
even after when u do what i mentioned, he's gonna come at you hard. let him suffer. make him work cuz he hurt you. don't make this all about him, cuz it's not. it's all about u. and u don't have to be nasty in the process. be real nice. dat'll mess his head up cuz he won't hear hurt and bitter in your voice. when ur nice to these bamas after a breakup, that messes them up. trust me.
im a lot older than u. been there, done that, got da gotdayum t shirt n hat to match.
hope this helped. sorry if it was long. but i just hate when amateurs (men) try to play the mind game.
Ain't no way.
) who is girlfriend material. It may seem easier said than done, but you should seriously consider moving on to a man who will truly be able to appreciate you.
, I can sense your pain in your posts. I'd give him some distance.. 
