ellegantelle
Well-Known Member
Ladies, I need some advice...(this is semi-long)!
I'm usually a lurker in the relationships forum, but I could use the advice of outsiders rather than people in my friendship circle.
I have been in a relationship for eight months with a man I have known for about 3 years. Everything was wonderful and loving, but I guess once the honey moon period ended we butt heads a couple of times. He's not an argumentative person, but I can be a little bit of a hot head (It's easier to admit this now...). So out of the blue, two weeks ago, he broke up with me. We talked about it for over an hour. He said it's not another woman, he's not being lured into the single life by his single family members/friends, etc. etc.. The next day we talked face-to-face, and he said the reason why he broke up with me is because he doesn't like the arguing and bickering and some other minor problems.
Cool, to me that's fixable. He said he'd like to consider possibly us "re-dating" or something else. But he wasn't sure. I told him I'd give him some time to himself, he insisted that we still talk. I kind of put it in my head that I could fix it by just giving him more of myself, but the peaceful, non-argumentative side.
The closer I got to him, the more distant he became. So I told him this weekend that I would like to end everything. He agreed that that would be fine.
Here's the kicker: He said he still loves me. I told him not to contact me (of course trying to play tough girl). He said he'd still like to talk to me and go out with me...but I wasn't trying to hear that!
Now, my head has been swirling all weekend. I haven't talked to him since Saturday because friends have been telling me not to contact him, wait for him to come around. I feel like what we had *or at least what I thought we had* was genuine love. How does something disappear in two weeks?
erplexed
So the question is: Do you fight for the person you love? Or...???
I'm usually a lurker in the relationships forum, but I could use the advice of outsiders rather than people in my friendship circle.
I have been in a relationship for eight months with a man I have known for about 3 years. Everything was wonderful and loving, but I guess once the honey moon period ended we butt heads a couple of times. He's not an argumentative person, but I can be a little bit of a hot head (It's easier to admit this now...). So out of the blue, two weeks ago, he broke up with me. We talked about it for over an hour. He said it's not another woman, he's not being lured into the single life by his single family members/friends, etc. etc.. The next day we talked face-to-face, and he said the reason why he broke up with me is because he doesn't like the arguing and bickering and some other minor problems.
Cool, to me that's fixable. He said he'd like to consider possibly us "re-dating" or something else. But he wasn't sure. I told him I'd give him some time to himself, he insisted that we still talk. I kind of put it in my head that I could fix it by just giving him more of myself, but the peaceful, non-argumentative side.
The closer I got to him, the more distant he became. So I told him this weekend that I would like to end everything. He agreed that that would be fine.
Here's the kicker: He said he still loves me. I told him not to contact me (of course trying to play tough girl). He said he'd still like to talk to me and go out with me...but I wasn't trying to hear that!
Now, my head has been swirling all weekend. I haven't talked to him since Saturday because friends have been telling me not to contact him, wait for him to come around. I feel like what we had *or at least what I thought we had* was genuine love. How does something disappear in two weeks?
erplexed So the question is: Do you fight for the person you love? Or...???
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) who is girlfriend material. It may seem easier said than done, but you should seriously consider moving on to a man who will truly be able to appreciate you.
