C word & the Single Girl..Holding Out Commitment for Wild,Incredible,Enchanted,Love

[kayte]

imagine making a list of every song you love...that you can remember...81 of them to be exact..and someone saying..I can get those for you...simply because they know how it would delight you and that....delights them....

One of the guys I'm dating.....made 5 cds with all my favorite songs on it..he pulled them from the internet and put different pictures of me on each cd designed the covers so that they were all personalized...separated the r&b's from the rock....rock from alternative etc... took him hours MY FAVORITE SONGS....he did that ..for me

Sunday..we went to hear some blues music,during a fabulous dinner..bought me a souvenier from the gift store..gazing at me all through the evening with
THOSE EYES and saying how beautiful etc etc.... I just wish wish wish I could let myself fall in love ..but

and then on my birthday two weeks ago...another man I've been dating told me my birthday outing was to be a surprise!...but! it would make me gasp..he actually made that..ah! ah!~.sound..lol...
well ..he picked up with a HUGE bouquet of different colored roses..took me to the East River where we boarded a private boat to a waterfront restaraunt
ohhhhhhhhhhh......dinner overlooking the water....fabulous..STARS ptiching themselves over the water...and my birthday dessert with a lit candle and...he stares at me with...THOSE EYES....I could love him so easily
but I

and the firefighter...that ended so terribly I cannot talk about it..I had feelings for him
and the Writer.... I cared for him...he turned out to very troubled and abusive...

Either of the first two guys.. there...ARE others..waiting in the wings..like them
All I would have to say is YES...they have a longer track record..see?
w/nothing weird.. and I 'm not talking about just doing cool things for me...
these men have let me cry moan rant about everything and have been there to
hold my hand..both artists... one's a filmmaker .....the other a bass guitarist and neither are poor,either...the filmmaker has already had a major success and is ambitious ..with a promising career
but

it wuz them bad boys done stole my heart..*sigh*....call me crazy..but I reckon

I'm holding out for mindblowing..take no prisoners..enchanted twin flame searing passionate cliffhanging waterfall..rock my world till it splits in two and transforms to one soul..with neon rainbows exploding from his navel and hearts and flowers misting from his aura...kind of love,

iknowiknow..... i told you.I'm CRAZY
I know it

WHO'S WITH ME ON THIS?

 

[laCriolla]

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You're not crazy. How quickly "those eyes" can flip is crazy. Enjoy this, you deserve it, but guard your heart! Love- the take-no-prisoners, enchanted kind, comes when it comes. You can't just say OK I love you now. So, enjoy the courtship and if one day you wake up in Love, then wonderful.

Until then, ride these guys out, test them, see if they are sincere or if it is infatuation.
Infatuation takes about 6 months to wear off. Until then you're talking to the guy's "representative". Mr Representative is perfect, always. Mr. Man is not. when you meet the real guy (when he stops putting his best foot forward) then you can decide if the flaws he has are tolerable or deal breakers.

I met a 90 year old haitian man who told me, "Test them Test them Test them, and when you're done, test them one more time, and then he'll marry you" LOL

 

[hopeful]

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Oh wow Kayte, I had no idea. That twin flame, extreme intensity scares me. But I hope you find and get what you are looking for.

 

[kayte]

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You're not crazy. How quickly "those eyes" can flip is crazy

I agree completely

Oh wow Kayte, I had no idea. That twin flame, extreme intensity scares me. But I hope you find and get what you are looking for.

I have to believe in that!!!! otherwise WHY get married?
To have company? I enjoy my OWN company as far as that goes
besides...lol....I've got DVDs

 

[hopeful]

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To me there is a difference between passionate/soulmate/love and the twin flames intensity you described. For me the first keeps you warm and comfortable, the other while exciting has the higher potential of burning you.

 

[tiara76]

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i feel you kayte

 

[hopeful]

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I just hope you get everything your heart desires--you deserve it Kayte.

 

[kayte]

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To me there is a difference between passionate/soulmate/love and the twin flames intensity you described. For me the first keeps you warm and comfortable, the other while exciting has the higher potential of burning you.

Are they mutually exclusive? Does there have to be a trade-off?
Isn't love..after all...a paradox?
both are what I believe in
....existing in one blessed beloved
searing soulpartnership

I do not think one needs to sacrifice one,and be resigned to not having the other
I have been THAT in love with a man who also,I was sooooooo comfortable with but also
1 million hundred watts voltage next to him.
being completely "at home" in his arms
really like ..home and at the same time w/out getting graphic
physical intimacy intensified the healing mindblowing
a revelation..joyous blissful hilarious tender energetic bond
between us was wild wild wild....along with being comfortable


We ALL deserve this...or is that not so important?
I'm curious what makes a woman decide to marry


Hopeful... your answer sounds like an interesting idea for a poll
Soon as I figure out how to posit more options... besides your
thoughtful response...

 

[MissYocairis]

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You're not crazy. How quickly "those eyes" can flip is crazy. Enjoy this, you deserve it, but guard your heart! Love- the take-no-prisoners, enchanted kind, comes when it comes. You can't just say OK I love you now. So, enjoy the courtship and if one day you wake up in Love, then wonderful.

Until then, ride these guys out, test them, see if they are sincere or if it is infatuation.
Infatuation takes about 6 months to wear off. Until then you're talking to the guy's "representative". Mr Representative is perfect, always. Mr. Man is not. when you meet the real guy (when he stops putting his best foot forward) then you can decide if the flaws he has are tolerable or deal breakers.

I met a 90 year old haitian man who told me, "Test them Test them Test them, and when you're done, test them one more time, and then he'll marry you" LOL

TELL IT! What other golden nuggets of wisdom did this 90 year old Haitian man have for you in matters of life or the heart? Do tell! Interesting!

 

[tiara76]

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Are they mutually exclusive?
Isn't love..after all...a paradox?
I actually believe both are what I believe in
....existing in one blessed beloved
searing soulpartnership

I'm not sure but I do not think one needs to sacrifice one
and be resigned to not having the other
I have been THAT in love with a man who also
I was sooooooo comfortable with but also
1 million hundred watts voltage next to him

the paradox of being completely "at home" in his arms
really like ..home and at the same time w/out getting graphic
but physical intimacy was healing mindblowing
a revelation..joyous blissful hilarious tender
wild wild wild....along with being comfortable


We ALL deserve this...or is that not so important?
I'm curious what makes a woman decide to marry


Hopeful... your answer sounds like an interesting idea for a poll
Soon as I figure out how to posit more options... besides your
thoughtful response...

again, I feel you kayte.....

I know its possible to attain...

I recently met somebody that to date has the highest intensity I have ever felt with somebody, I really thought my ex could have been the "one" but I was never "sure"....the intensity was up there but anytime i would ask for guidance on it and was he the one I always got "no" and believe me i didn't want to hear "no"....but I knew in my heart that there was no need to try to force it....as much as he would of loved to hear me just say "its you" I couldn't.....I could only be like..I can't promise what the future holds

I talked to a intuitive a few months back and asked her about my ex and she was like...wow your connection is really strong....and she was like i REAALLLy like him and you together and I really wish i could tell you he's the one...he;s not...when you meet him you will know instantly

fast forward to May and I lay eyes on HIM and its instant love/recognition....so intense I tried to run from it....everything resonates..his voice, his touch, his smile, his heart, his spirit, his body, his eyes....

he has backed away and i ask for guidance on this situation and is he the one and I get

Divine timing
Patience
Trust

as the messages.....

I would no doubt take the "risk" on him for the chance to experience something I know would be great

 

[kayte]

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fast forward to May and I lay eyes on HIM and its instant love/recognition....so intense I tried to run from it....everything resonates..his voice, his touch, his smile, his heart, his spirit, his body, his eyes....

I hear a natural organic poetry in how you describe him...
if that's just description....one can only imagine the relationship
I cannot imagine....less than this in a permanent partnership

he has backed away and i ask for guidance on this situation and is he the one and I get

Divine timing
Patience
Trust

as the messages.....

I would no doubt take the "risk" on him for the chance to experience something I know would be great

I would too...absolutely..
and I am listening to your serenity and openess....
there's more of us...who would risk

Speak up ladies!

 

[MissYocairis]

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isn't it something when you realize that there is only a certain soul type that you connect with? I can recall being young, in my early 20's and being impressed with so many. Not so much anymore. I now only respond to the soul connection and you are doing the same. I understand the facility of dating nice men to have friendships and keeping busy....but you KNOW when he is YOUR TYPE OF MAN....your soul connect. I love your story Kayte. It's nice to be treated sweet and generously. You deserve it. I know your soul match is out there....right around the corner.

 

[MissYocairis]

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To me there is a difference between passionate/soulmate/love and the twin flames intensity you described. For me the first keeps you warm and comfortable, the other while exciting has the higher potential of burning you.

Agreed. This is what I got from the article that was posted. The Twin Flame is the profound, ultimate, yet tragic love. The soul mate is the partner you can build with. Kayte, did you get something else from that article or are you only willing to settle for the Twin Flame?

 

[hopeful]

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Kayte, sending you a pm.

 

[kayte]

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You deserve it. I know your soul match is out there....right around the corner.

ahhhhhhhhhh
that is so kind of you Smuckie Slick. thank you
WE ALL DESERVE IT....

article? is there a thread on this?
I dint see it...
...my composite of soulmate had twinflame only as a spontaneous
personal idea...probably heard the term somewhere

The Twin Flame is the profound, ultimate, yet tragic love. The soul mate is the partner you can build with. Kayte, did you get something else from that article or are you only willing to settle for the Twin Flame?

I dint read it....maybe I will
but I'm foolish enough to believe a woman can have both
and marry him
with out tragedy without drama-trauma
just wild passionate love that keeps growing more intense
I watched my father...for 50 years fall more
and more in love with my mother.....

 

[hopeful]

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Here is the thread:

http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=392000

 

[MissYocairis]

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ahhhhhhhhhh
that is so kind of you Smuckie Slick. thank you
WE ALL DESERVE IT....

article? is there a thread on this?
I dint see it...
...my composite of soulmate had twinflame only as a spontaneous
personal idea...probably heard the term somewhere





I dint read it....maybe I will
but I'm foolish enough to believe a woman can have both
and marry him
with out tragedy without drama-trauma
just wild passionate love that keeps growing more intense
I watched my father...for 50 years fall more
and more in love with my mother.....

I wouldn't call that tragic at all....if you can conceive it in your heart, then you can have it.

 

[tiara76]

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How will you know you have met your twin? Here are some of the symptoms given by others who have had the experience...


* Chances are you've met through a set of unusual circumstances... totally unplanned and unexpected Very unusual, emotionally draining and so unexpected

* There is an instantaneous feeling that you have known the other before
I don't know if i had instant fantasies or recollections of me waking up next
to him and husband thoughts but they were running rampant thru my head

* You felt an immediate and deep connection for one another
It was like I saw right past every outer layer of him and right str8 thru
to his heart and instantly connected to it

* There is an electrifying feeling between the two of you that words cannot describe Everybody who witnessed the interaction were amazed, the people who knew him personally were like....thats not the person we know

* The relationship is immediate... as though no time had been lost since you were last together The first day and night we spent together already consisted of I love you and "marriage" talk.....I remember him saying to me "we are so in love" and i have been tellin him I love him from day one

* It feels as though you had never lived before the reunion occurred

* You feel a deep sense of unity that you've have never known before

* It brings on feelings you never thought possible Maan I can't describe em if I tried

* The two of you are inseparable lol i wish, but I don't feel apart from him

* When you look into each other's eyes time and space have no meaning I can stare at him all day

* There are no barriers between the two of you... the relationship is a totally open onewe have been very open with each other

* Your conversations seem to go on forever

* The two of you have a strong urge to serve humanity in a deep and meaningful way I do....and I feel the relationship I get in will be one of so

* You give to the other and never think of receiving in return

* There is a special sacredness to your relationship that transcends anything you've ever experienced before

* You still have karma with your twin (from previous lives) but the two of you resolve it all with total forgiveness and unconditional loveI feel like we just went thru a resolution....I thought it may have been over after that...its not

* Neither one of you are dependent on the other for your sense of self I'm not...I don't feel like I need him

* There is a real feeling of unlimitedness to your feelings... you have a strong sense of eternity

* Your feelings for each other are very spiritualI tell him his soul is beautiful to me

* There are no restrictions within the relationship... all is freedom without the need for ownership or control I let him be

* The two of you know without doubt that you have been brought together for a reason i do

* You do not compete with one another nor do you pretend to be other than who you are

* In spite of your sameness there is no doubt you feel a sense of completion through the other

* Trust, patience, acceptance of each other's weaknesses happen automatically

* There is a great sense of purpose and meaning to the relationship

* Your sexuality with one another is a sacred act that celebrates the unconditional love you have for one another
The first time we had sex I was releasing sacred yoni juice all over him and he was frantically rubbing it into his body, he even slept in it....he told me...."this is what its supposed to feel like...home"
* When you look into the other's eyes you see yourself I told my girl when i seen him it was like seeing myself in another person and feeling instant unconditional love at first site

* You experience a sense of completeness that is without comparison

 

[tiara76]

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This is interesting...


More than likely you and your other half have come together in previous lives and may have already touched at some point during this life time... but if one or both of you were not ready when it happened the experience will have been very intense and electrifying but short-lived.

What's the most important starting point for a twin soul reunion? How do we prepare ourselves for it? It begins with the desire to love yourself and others without any conditions attached and without judgements. Although desire is the starting point, it is not enough. One has to live it... day in and day out as best as possible. Even though our efforts to "live it" may not at the Master level, we need to be well on our way towards doing so or the relationship will suffer. In short, unconditional love is the magical ingredient for building a twin relationship and making it work (this also applies to other relationships we may have).

If two twins are to reunite and then have a meaningful partnership both have to be spiritually ready for it. At that point the Universe will create the special forces necessary to bring them together for another moment in time. However, the search for the other must always begin as a search within each of the twins themselves first before lasting reunion is possible. Each has to discover his or her own individual spiritual nature and potential... and then do their best to live it on a daily basis.

The guy I met definitely has some issues to work out with himself....I had a dream the other night that he went to see some guru type of guy and was telling him that he was ready to change and he needed to become of aware of what was going on with him and what does he need to do to get himself together....the guru dude was tellin him all this stuff about himself and then my guy asked about his "soulmate"...and the guru dude told him you have already met her and he started describing "me" to him....and i was observing the whole scene and he reached out to grab my hand in the dream while he listened to the guy's description

I asked for guidance on what the dream meant

patience was the answer I got

 

[chokolate miss]

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As I read these post "Ordinary People" by John Legend came on my ipod...sometimes it's heaven sent, then we head back up to hell again...
wow and I don't even believe in all of that stuff, but there has to be a reason for it all right?

I'm up. I can't sleep.

What you posted kayte, was sad and beautiful at the same time. You deserve that have what you believe that you deserve and if it's twin flames then that is what you should receive.

I am kinda young, so I love too easily at the moment. I love to a fault.

I have nothing to say better than what tiara has said, but I just wish you the best. But do we all have a twin flame, like the one in that article? Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find mine. (I did not know there was a name for it...soulmate maybe, but I loathe that word).

 

[kayte]

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I found the article very intense..I dont agree with all of it
some of it was way too abstract for me
but I love what Smuckie Slick
said if you can imagine it ..it can happen .....

I'm going to post tomm from a post when I first joined about
a man I loved like what I describe...

 

[kayte]

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Ordinary People" by John Legend came on my ipod...sometimes it's heaven sent, then we head back up to hell again...
wow and I don't even believe in all of that stuff, but there has to be a reason for it all right?

wow girl..I'm off to read that
that is WILD...

Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find mine

We all deserve that love..is it too much to ask for

that's not rhetorical.....
do we really believe
it is too much to ask that a man be prosperous....be gorgeous
be esoteric...be educated...spiritual... stable and centered
healthy mind body spirit

and that he
explodes the soul with something you cannot even articulate
that makes you even more of who you are..
and yet you are completely safe to be YOU
he is completely depndable trustworthy
with him.....your world is magical
and he's all yours forever..100 per cent fidelity and
love that only becomes more illuminating...
he touches you and a whole conversation has blossomed without one word

is that too much to ask?

 

[tiara76]

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As I read these post "Ordinary People" by John Legend came on my ipod...sometimes it's heaven sent, then we head back up to hell again...
wow and I don't even believe in all of that stuff, but there has to be a reason for it all right?

I'm up. I can't sleep.

What you posted kayte, was sad and beautiful at the same time. You deserve that have what you believe that you deserve and if it's twin flames then that is what you should receive.

I am kinda young, so I love too easily at the moment. I love to a fault.

I have nothing to say better than what tiara has said, but I just wish you the best. But do we all have a twin flame, like the one in that article? Sometimes I wonder if I will ever find mine. (I did not know there was a name for it...soulmate maybe, but I loathe that word).

I definitely believe in soulmates..I don't think they are always necessarily romantic however I recall two important times in my life where I recognized a soulmate....one when I was 6 or 7 years old.....we just moved to a new place and my brother made a friend from around the corner about a year older than me...he would come over everyday and I would be like...

Thats my boyfriend....he completely ignored me and him and my brother were always shooing me away..I used to watch him walk down the street with his super bow legs and just really be confused as to why he wouldn't acknowledge me as his girlfriend....fast forward 11 years later and living back in the same neighborhood I happen to have a very unusual meeting with a guy who let me tell it I had no interest in but I would let him come over everyday even though I had a boyfriend at the time....after a incident where I hurt him (this guy who I claimed to have no interest in) I kept trying to get him to talk to me and he wouldn't...i jumped over his fence into his backyard with two dogs and was tapping on his window begging him to talk to me and not be mad at me...that night I discovered he was the lil boy who was my brothers best friend who I kept sayin was my boyfriend way back then...and we were together after that

another weird unusual meeting with a guy who I met while i was living with another guy,love at first site...very unusual circumstance of being around him and i was so completely confused on how the whole situation "looked" because it didnt go along with what I was feeling....two years pass and I keep tellin my friends....I know im supposed to know that guy...I only knew his first name and the general area he lives in, they kept tellin me I was "obsessed" with him because he was fine...I was like..I know plenty fine dudes, Im not obsessed, I KNOW this guy, I swear it....one day Im going thru hundreds of emails that I barely scan the subject titles for to see if anything catches my eye and I run across an email that says

remember we went bowling

and i instantly knew it was him....before I even opened it i was like...Its about time maannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, took u long enough

sure enough he was like this is so and so i dont know if u remember me, we met briefly a couple years ago and i would like to get to know you...we tried to "date' but we weren't meshing...however we became great friends and even went on a tantric sex journey together years later...we have a great soulship and very strong connection

 

[tiara76]

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wow girl..I'm off to read that
that is WILD...


We all deserve that love..is it too much to ask for

that's not rhetorical.....
do we really believe
it is too much to ask that a man be prosperous....be gorgeous
be esoteric...be educated...spiritual... stable and centered
healthy mind body spirit

and that he
explodes the soul with something you cannot even articulate
that makes you even more of who you are..
and yet you are completely safe to be YOU
he is completely depndable trustworthy
with him.....your world is magical
and he's all yours forever..100 per cent fidelity and
love that only becomes more illuminating...
he touches you and a whole conversation has blossomed without one word

is that too much to ask?

I don't think so...people always say you can't have it all....I'm really like

why not...??

It has to be possible...I know its possible just have to be patient and trust in love

and enjoy the wonderful relationships with others that help you evolve yourself even more along the way without settling for what you know your heart isn't telling you is "it"

 

[kayte]

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I definitely believe in soulmates..I don't think they are always necessarily romantic however I recall two important times in my life where I recognized a soulmate....one when I was 6 or 7 years old.....we just moved to a new place and my brother made a friend from around the corner about a year older than me...he would come over everyday and I would be like...

Thats my boyfriend....he completely ignored me and him and my brother were always shooing me away..I used to watch him walk down the street with his super bow legs and just really be confused as to why he wouldn't acknowledge me as his girlfriend....fast forward 11 years later and living back in the same neighborhood I happen to have a very unusual meeting with a guy who let me tell it I had no interest in but I would let him come over everyday even though I had a boyfriend at the time....after a incident where I hurt him (this guy who I claimed to have no interest in) I kept trying to get him to talk to me and he wouldn't...i jumped over his fence into his backyard with two dogs and was tapping on his window begging him to talk to me and not be mad at me...that night I discovered he was the lil boy who was my brothers best friend who I kept sayin was my boyfriend way back then...and we were together after that

another weird unusual meeting with a guy who I met while i was living with another guy,love at first site...very unusual circumstance of being around him and i was so completely confused on how the whole situation "looked" because it didnt go along with what I was feeling....two years pass and I keep tellin my friends....I know im supposed to know that guy...I only knew his first name and the general area he lives in, they kept tellin me I was "obsessed" with him because he was fine...I was like..I know plenty fine dudes, Im not obsessed, I KNOW this guy, I swear it....one day Im going thru hundreds of emails that I barely scan the subject titles for to see if anything catches my eye and I run across an email that says

remember we went bowling

and i instantly knew it was him....before I even opened it i was like...Its about time maannnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn, took u long enough

sure enough he was like this is so and so i dont know if u remember me, we met briefly a couple years ago and i would like to get to know you...we tried to "date' but we weren't meshing...however we became great friends and even went on a tantric sex journey together years later...we have a great soulship and very strong connection

This is incredibly intense!!

...I'm going to look for my post about strange coincidences
with this one man
but here's my question...

What makes a woman marry......

is it the soul connnection
or something else?

 

[Jade Feria]

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again, I feel you kayte.....

I know its possible to attain...

I recently met somebody that to date has the highest intensity I have ever felt with somebody, I really thought my ex could have been the "one" but I was never "sure"....the intensity was up there but anytime i would ask for guidance on it and was he the one I always got "no" and believe me i didn't want to hear "no"....but I knew in my heart that there was no need to try to force it....as much as he would of loved to hear me just say "its you" I couldn't.....I could only be like..I can't promise what the future holds

I talked to a intuitive a few months back and asked her about my ex and she was like...wow your connection is really strong....and she was like i REAALLLy like him and you together and I really wish i could tell you he's the one...he;s not...when you meet him you will know instantly

fast forward to May and I lay eyes on HIM and its instant love/recognition....so intense I tried to run from it....everything resonates..his voice, his touch, his smile, his heart, his spirit, his body, his eyes....

he has backed away and i ask for guidance on this situation and is he the one and I get

Divine timing
Patience
Trust

as the messages.....

I would no doubt take the "risk" on him for the chance to experience something I know would be great

I feel you on all that. I too, have a similar connection as the latter. I don't know whether to call it a soulmate connection or a twin soul one, because I've experienced characteristics of both...So maybe you ladies can help me out.

When we first met, I instantly recognized him I couldn't put my finger on what it was that I recognized, but I knew it was him.

Our conversations were/are like soul food. After our first date together, he asked me how I felt when we were together, and I instantly replied, "Electric". I had never made that reference before, or even thought to make it before. This shocked me.

THERE IS THIS CRAZY MAGNETISM BETWEEN US! In all senses, and especially in the physical sense. We are always touching. Not necessarily in a sexual way. It could be a hand on a leg or arm, or arms touching, or legs touching. But almost every time we are together, it's there!

If we are in a crowded room or a location with alot of people and we are kinda far from each other and I want to get his attention, all I need to do is look at him and he instantly turns my way.

We have dreams about each other, where one serves as a guide for the other's actions within the dream.

I know there was a reference in one of the twin souls articles about living parallel lives or being close to each other before, but not knowing each other...well that's us too. We went to the same high school for 2 years but didn't know each other at all (it was a huge school, but we lived in completely opposite sides of the city and still both managed to go to this school). We also both moved from our home state to similar geographical areas to continue education.

We have had our disagreements before...even have taken a break...but I STILL KNEW he was it. I wanted to move on and forget him but something kept telling me not to. That feeling, I had never had before (I usually have no problem kicking someone to the curb!).

(ETA: And of course, there's the typical finishing of sentences, and saying what the other is thinking)

I have also asked for guidance, asking if he was the one, and the answer is always YES.


Kayte - your expression is so beautiful! You deserve those wonderful experiences!

ETA again: I just saw the other post by Tiara with the checklist..I will go respond to that.

 

[tiara76]

Re: C word & the Single Girl..Holding Out Commitment for Wild,Incredible,Enchanted,Lo


THERE IS THIS CRAZY MAGNETISM BETWEEN US! In all senses, and especially in the physical sense. We are always touching. Not necessarily in a sexual way. It could be a hand on a leg or arm, or arms touching, or legs touching. But almost every time we are together, it's there!

Always touching, holding hands, hugging....like magnets...I feel you on that

If we are in a crowded room or a location with alot of people and we are kinda far from each other and I want to get his attention, all I need to do is look at him and he instantly turns my way.

I can feel him in crowded rooms...the first weekend i met him I was feeling a lil down and everybody kept asking me what was wrong...I was looking down and i felt a smile tugging at my face, just went into cheese mode, I look up and I see standing across the room

I know there was a reference in one of the twin souls articles about living parallel lives or being close to each other before, but not knowing each other...well that's us too. We went to the same high school for 2 years but didn't know each other at all (it was a huge school). We also both moved from our home states to similar geographical areas to continue education.

This guy is well known yet I have never heard his name, never seen him on tv and he knows people I know and was even involved with somebody I know pretty well in fact the girl has mentioned him to me several times (never by name however) and I have been close to coming in contact with him on occasion, I have been in the same circles he has been in for years and did not run across him or see him not once....everybody around me knew who he was when I mentioned his name and I was like...my best friend always has these extreme crushes on people and she always mentions them, and yet she has never mentioned this guys name..however when I told her his name she was like....woowwww I have been in love with him for 10 years, its like this wow you were so close to me all these years

I have also asked for guidance, asking if he was the one, and the answer is always YES.
I feel you

 

[Jade Feria]

Re: C word & the Single Girl..Holding Out Commitment for Wild,Incredible,Enchanted,Lo

How will you know you have met your twin? Here are some of the symptoms given by others who have had the experience...


* Chances are you've met through a set of unusual circumstances... totally unplanned and unexpected
Unexpected? Absolutely. Unusual circumstances - yes, I met him in a way that I had never met anyone before.

* There is an instantaneous feeling that you have known the other before
Like I said in my other post, I instantly recognized him.

* You felt an immediate and deep connection for one another
Like Tiara76 said, I saw through the layers. And trust, they were there. And he saw through mine as well. We know and can read each other very well.

* There is an electrifying feeling between the two of you that words cannot describe
It was crazy..after our first date, he asked me how I felt and I said, "Electric." That was the only way I could describe it. As our relationship grew, as did the feelings. And I've told him plenty of times that I couldn't describe them.

* The relationship is immediate... as though no time had been lost since you were last together
During our first few months, we knew the feelings were there, but we never addressed them directly. We would say we were in "strong like". He would say things like, "I really like you alot. Maybe more than that. Maybe another L word."

* It feels as though you had never lived before the reunion occurred

* You feel a deep sense of unity that you've have never known before
So true.

* It brings on feelings you never thought possible
Yes it does....

* The two of you are inseparable
Yup, even when miles apart.

* When you look into each other's eyes time and space have no meaning
I can stare at him all day

* There are no barriers between the two of you... the relationship is a totally open one
We have been very open with each other

* Your conversations seem to go on forever
They can sometimes...but it's not so much the time as it is the content, and the flow of conversation.

* The two of you have a strong urge to serve humanity in a deep and meaningful way
We both have the same goal in this sense. We both want to help as many people as possible

* You give to the other and never think of receiving in return
Yes. He has given me so much...and he doesn't even want me to say "thank you", much less give in return! But I do anyway, and I never expect anything for it.

* There is a special sacredness to your relationship that transcends anything you've ever experienced before
Man, listen. We don't even share the same religious beliefs, but we connect so well spiritually. And we are able to speak the same spiritual "language".

* You still have karma with your twin (from previous lives) but the two of you resolve it all with total forgiveness and unconditional love
Yes and yes. We have resolved alot of our issues and focus on trust and forgiveness. We love each other unconditionally despite our past mistakes.

* Neither one of you are dependent on the other for your sense of self
Nope. And we have both grown so much since when we first met.

* There is a real feeling of unlimitedness to your feelings... you have a strong sense of eternity
And I don't want them to end either. Doesn't matter what we're going through, they are always there.

* Your feelings for each other are very spiritual
That is perhaps why I can't describe them...

* There are no restrictions within the relationship... all is freedom without the need for ownership or control
Well...this took some personal growth, but we are now at this point.

* The two of you know without doubt that you have been brought together for a reason
Definitely so.

* You do not compete with one another nor do you pretend to be other than who you are
No need for it. I've been telling him about my weaves and wigs since the beginning! And he is perfectly fine with it!

* In spite of your sameness there is no doubt you feel a sense of completion through the other

* Trust, patience, acceptance of each other's weaknesses happen automatically
Yes. And man, has he been patient with me!

* There is a great sense of purpose and meaning to the relationship
We both have common goals and are pursuing our dreams with vigor, and our potential together is outstanding. Even when we've had our disagreements, one of us always makes reference to what we could do together rather than apart.

* Your sexuality with one another is a sacred act that celebrates the unconditional love you have for one another
We have always been able to "read" each other in this way.
* When you look into the other's eyes you see yourself
Maybe that's what I recognized when I first met him....

* You experience a sense of completeness that is without comparison

 

[movado32k1]

Re: C word & the Single Girl..Holding Out Commitment for Wild,Incredible,Enchanted,Lo

wow girl..I'm off to read that
that is WILD...


We all deserve that love..is it too much to ask for

that's not rhetorical.....
do we really believe
it is too much to ask that a man be prosperous....be gorgeous
be esoteric...be educated...spiritual... stable and centered
healthy mind body spirit

and that he
explodes the soul with something you cannot even articulate
that makes you even more of who you are..
and yet you are completely safe to be YOU
he is completely depndable trustworthy
with him.....your world is magical
and he's all yours forever..100 per cent fidelity and
love that only becomes more illuminating...
he touches you and a whole conversation has blossomed without one word

is that too much to ask?

I used to believe that that was possible and then I met my ex and I knew it was....... But then I found out he was not what he seemed. So now my faith in being able to have it all..... is shaken. Right now I dont know anymore. But maybe after a while I will start to believe again.

 

[kayte]

Re: C word & the Single Girl..Holding Out Commitment for Wild,Incredible,Enchanted,Lo

I used to believe that that was possible and then I met my ex and I knew it was....... But then I found out he was not what he seemed. So now my faith in being able to have it all..... is shaken. Right now I dont know anymore. But maybe after a while I will start to believe again

I hear you....
after one has been hurt..to be in despair
and people hate hearing this
but God does have a way of making croooked things straight
if it is His will

I choose to believe!