Commitment Phobia....anyone Else?

[Saludable84]

Thanks for your honest replies ladies. I think my big issue is that I’m just not ready and I’m OK with that.

Also I got really annoyed while I was preparing dinner. I had to ask him if he liked mushrooms, peppers, onions in his spaghetti sauce. Tomatoes in the salad...if he liked Italian dressing....luckily he liked everything but I would have gotten extremely aggravated if he said no

You is kind. If you don’t have a deathly allergy, I’m not asking or caring

 

[awhyley]

Hallmark really needs a "Chill out Bro, I don't know if I want to sit on your face" card collection.

Gat dudes like:

Curvin' em like:

 

[Evolving78]

BINGO! That too. I’ve known him for 7-8 years and all of a sudden these magical romantic feelings just came out of no where from his end. In his defense I was in Texas for almost 4 years so if I were him I wouldn’t have shooted my shot either but now that I’m back maybe he thought this could be it. I’ve seen love stories where long time companions have ended up married and all that jazz but idk if that works for me....like all of a sudden having sex? How? It’s an odd feeling.

It’s cuffing season. You are a nice looking lady, you have your own money, and you have a nice warm place to stay, with no kids...

 

[kblc06]

Are we the same person? I'm really an introvert, and I'm in a place in my life now where I really want to make some major career moves. I've always been ambivalent about having kids and marriage. I'm seriously preparing for med school ( God help me!) and I've ghosted some really decent prospects recently because I may move to get a job that will help me prepare for my "final career". What's the point in stringing them along when I know I don't want to be in one place long. I'm going to freeze my eggs while still young and drift where the breeze takes me. I would love to meet someone who would be ok with me not being so..."present". I think when you've lived independently and WELL for so long, it's hard to see the value in relationships. You'd have to be an extraordinary individual to make me want to dial back on my goals.

I always said the guy I ended up with would never be home...like a pilot or something or just always busy and never home. I would totally date a surgeon since they are always on call but I can’t stand the personalities of most of the male docs I work with.

 

[gimbap]

My "commitment issues" are flaring up....I met a seemingly good guy that checks off all the boxes and I'm already thinking "I should block his number" for no real reason other than I can't be bothered and he's coming on too strong He seems to want kids asap....I want kids too, but I also like being able to up and travel when I feel like it, spend my money on myself, I just lost weight can I enjoy my new waist for 2+ years? Can I live?

 

[BillsBackerz67]

Are we the same person? I'm really an introvert, and I'm in a place in my life now where I really want to make some major career moves. I've always been ambivalent about having kids and marriage. I'm seriously preparing for med school ( God help me!) and I've ghosted some really decent prospects recently because I may move to get a job that will help me prepare for my "final career". What's the point in stringing them along when I know I don't want to be in one place long. I'm going to freeze my eggs while still young and drift where the breeze takes me. I would love to meet someone who would be ok with me not being so..."present". I think when you've lived independently and WELL for so long, it's hard to see the value in relationships. You'd have to be an extraordinary individual to make me want to dial back on my goals.

You sound like me to the T except I don’t want to go to medical schoool I want to attend CRNA. And most of my life I’ve been independent that’s what’s really making this hard.

 

[BillsBackerz67]

My "commitment issues" are flaring up....I met a seemingly good guy that checks off all the boxes and I'm already thinking "I should block his number" for no real reason other than I can't be bothered and he's coming on too strong He seems to want kids asap....I want kids too, but I also like being able to up and travel when I feel like it, spend my money on myself, I just lost weight can I enjoy my new waist for 2+ years? Can I live?

Yes it’s the rush that I don’t like and it’s makes me extremely uncomfortable. I want everything to be on my timeline.