lexi84
Well-Known Member
At what point do you say, "Enough!" and realize it isnt working?
For you, does it depend on the reason behind the breakups or simply the number of times you've broken up?
I'm asking because my current SO and I have been together for a little over a year and have broken up a total of 3 times. The first time I dumped him because his ex kept calling him late at night and he wouldn’t tell her to stop. Now although she lives in NY and we live in Chicago/Indiana, I still found it disrespectful. To me, it was time to cut all that "before lexi84" communication. I'm here so, she needs to respect that you have a new girlfriend. I was also upset that when she came in town for HIS family reuinion, he let her drive his car!
Well needless to say that once I put my foot down, he was right back at my door with apologies and ready to get back together, which we did.
The second time we broke up was around Christmas. He didn’t have any money to buy me a Christmas gift and although he said he would, he was taking too long. By December 29th, I was heated. Where the hell is my gift? Everyone told me I was being petty but I didn’t care. I got him a gift, where the hell is mine (never mind that he didn’t have any money….lol….I didn’t care) Well on the 30th he brought a brand new i-pod to my house and told me it was over. He said I was too petty and spoiled. Very true. But we got back together 4 days later because I told him I was sorry and would change.
The last time we broke up (which we are still broken up right now) was for a deeper reason. He said he didn’t want to be with me anymore because I'm not honest with him and I don’t tell him the whole truth on things that I'm feeling. He said that he's an open book and says what he feels inside, and since I am so closed off and dont trust him with my deep emotions that we werent compatible. He also said that since he's the man in my life, that I should feel comforable with opening up to him. He's right. I have trust issues, my mom even tells me that I need to be more open and honest. So I'm currently trying to open up to him. I'm not about to let my issues chase away a good man, so we have since reconciled and are working on getting back together.
Are these indications that we may not last? I guess what I'm trying to ask is is it possible for people to breakup like this and have a successful marriage?
For you, does it depend on the reason behind the breakups or simply the number of times you've broken up?
I'm asking because my current SO and I have been together for a little over a year and have broken up a total of 3 times. The first time I dumped him because his ex kept calling him late at night and he wouldn’t tell her to stop. Now although she lives in NY and we live in Chicago/Indiana, I still found it disrespectful. To me, it was time to cut all that "before lexi84" communication. I'm here so, she needs to respect that you have a new girlfriend. I was also upset that when she came in town for HIS family reuinion, he let her drive his car!
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The second time we broke up was around Christmas. He didn’t have any money to buy me a Christmas gift and although he said he would, he was taking too long. By December 29th, I was heated. Where the hell is my gift? Everyone told me I was being petty but I didn’t care. I got him a gift, where the hell is mine (never mind that he didn’t have any money….lol….I didn’t care) Well on the 30th he brought a brand new i-pod to my house and told me it was over. He said I was too petty and spoiled. Very true. But we got back together 4 days later because I told him I was sorry and would change.
The last time we broke up (which we are still broken up right now) was for a deeper reason. He said he didn’t want to be with me anymore because I'm not honest with him and I don’t tell him the whole truth on things that I'm feeling. He said that he's an open book and says what he feels inside, and since I am so closed off and dont trust him with my deep emotions that we werent compatible. He also said that since he's the man in my life, that I should feel comforable with opening up to him. He's right. I have trust issues, my mom even tells me that I need to be more open and honest. So I'm currently trying to open up to him. I'm not about to let my issues chase away a good man, so we have since reconciled and are working on getting back together.
Are these indications that we may not last? I guess what I'm trying to ask is is it possible for people to breakup like this and have a successful marriage?
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