I think this can be at times a disheartening topic because of the vast amount of women who don't take care of their hair like the women on this board, and other hairboards. I think that best way to represent is to get my hair to long lengths that the truth is undeniable. I am tired of being shot down for telling people that black women can grow their hair long too(everytime, the room gets extremely quiet).
No, I don't consider it a taboo topic - it's a topic bred on misinformation. I like it when it comes up, and I am clear on the actual issues (it's not nature, it's nuture), and move on. Educate one, reach 100.
I don't think it's taboo amongst black women. At least I don't think it should be.
But I do think that it's taboo coming from white women. I really don't think their intentions are good when they make comments like that about our hair.
Why is this such a stereotype? Is this an example of a stereotype following a group or a group following a stereotype?
I think the stereotype follows the group; as caribeandiva said above, most black women don't have healthy hair, let alone long hair...so it's only natural to assume that it's not possible. Before finding this forum, I didn't think it was possible, either. The only black women I'd ever known who had truly long hair were either mixed or light-skinned. LHCF represents the first time I've ever seen 4b women like myself with long, thick, full, healthy hair.
I simply didn't know, so there's no way I would expect a white person to know. But many black folks don't know, either. I had a conversation with a black hairdresser in March, and she was urging me to get a relaxer and a sew-in, because according to her, my hair would break off no matter what I did to it, so I may as well weave it up and look pretty.
The Winner's Creed
If you think you are beaten...you are.
If you think you dare not, then you don't.
If you'd like to win, but think you can't, it's almost certain you won't.
If you think you'll lose, you're lost.
Since out in our world we find success begins with a persons' will;
It's all in your state of mind.
Life's battles don't always go to the stronger or faster hand.
But sooner or later the person who wins is the one who thinks..."I CAN"!!!!
It depends om how the topic comes up. I don't mind talking about it and correcting misconceptions, but if someone comes to me talking about,
"Why do you lie about black folks being able to grow their hair, when only mixed girls can have long hair?"
I won't waste my time.
I don't think that it is wise to generalize, because there are some people who are just ignorant. However I do agree that there are some people that are like that.
I had (emphasis on had) a friend that was like that. It seemed like anytime hair came up (and in the context we were in hair came up a lot) she was quick to announce that black people can't grow long hair. There would be times when people would ask me how long my hair was or ask out of curiosity because they hadn't seen many black women with long hair. This girl would all but break her neck to announce to the group or whomever that black people couldn't grow long hair.
It became quite annoying, and to this day I think that she did it because she felt that was one area that she had something on me in. At the time we were friends her hair was MBL to WL and my hair was like Chin Length to CBL and eventually a thin SL.
So I know black people can grow long hair, but does our hair gorw more slowly?
I'm talking for the average, not mixed black woman...