Not sure if this is the correct forum - but will post here and see.
Is there anyone else out there who might do this?
When I was at the grocery store this past week, I came across an old male co-worker that I worked with several years ago. From what I remembered of our past, he always was trying to put out that he was superior (because he had an MBA, he came from the East Coast - "where the most progressive black folks live" - his words), etc., etc., etc. Did I mention that my IT skills were 200% better than his?
In recent times, I had seen his e-mails (he was trying to get on at the company I worked at and wanted me to put in a good word for him - since he was laid off last March). As time went on, I eventually left the company. He continued to e-mail and make phone calls. But, I ignored them because I am completing a task that does not involve "begging for crumbs from massa's table".
But, seeing him at the store, I had no excuse. Short of the Long, he invited himself to my house
I accepted and told him I would meet him there later on. I get back to my house after shopping to see him waiting in my driveway as I drove up 
He then told me about some bogus (my opinion) company he was going to join because he couldn't find a job in our area. I saw him as pathetic, old, indecisive and I felt sorry for him (I really hate to write that). My opinion was to seek out employment away from a 9-to-5 be that real-estate, opening a shop or something.
He then tried to make a pass at me
even though he was married and with kids! He said he wanted to give me hugs to "get it out of his system".
My thoughts were, "I feel sorry for you but stay away from me because I don't want to be within 10 feet of the mojo you have going on." I almost had the feeling like he was a leper.
This sentiment for a woman I came across this week who was struggling with her business.
The forum I met her in was a type of meeting. Others in the group were trying to offer her good suggestions and her response to the them was to look upon them as criticisms/attacks and slap them down with a vengence.
It seemed like the only thing she wanted to do was lament her situation, the people in her life, "how hard it is", how people were not supporting her, etc. It was pizzing me off to see folks offer her ideas - good ideas - for free even and for her to put them down and instead use the meeting as an opportunity to dump her toxic waste (I hate to write that too).
Needless to say, I will not be attending anymore for the same reason that I am avoiding the other guy. But still, part of me wants to help (the lady, not the guy).
So (if you got this far into reading), if you see someone having an issue, do you take the "I will help you, I love you" approach or do you treat them as a leper and stay away.
Is there anyone else out there who might do this?
When I was at the grocery store this past week, I came across an old male co-worker that I worked with several years ago. From what I remembered of our past, he always was trying to put out that he was superior (because he had an MBA, he came from the East Coast - "where the most progressive black folks live" - his words), etc., etc., etc. Did I mention that my IT skills were 200% better than his?
In recent times, I had seen his e-mails (he was trying to get on at the company I worked at and wanted me to put in a good word for him - since he was laid off last March). As time went on, I eventually left the company. He continued to e-mail and make phone calls. But, I ignored them because I am completing a task that does not involve "begging for crumbs from massa's table".
But, seeing him at the store, I had no excuse. Short of the Long, he invited himself to my house
I accepted and told him I would meet him there later on. I get back to my house after shopping to see him waiting in my driveway as I drove up He then told me about some bogus (my opinion) company he was going to join because he couldn't find a job in our area. I saw him as pathetic, old, indecisive and I felt sorry for him (I really hate to write that). My opinion was to seek out employment away from a 9-to-5 be that real-estate, opening a shop or something.
He then tried to make a pass at me
even though he was married and with kids! He said he wanted to give me hugs to "get it out of his system". My thoughts were, "I feel sorry for you but stay away from me because I don't want to be within 10 feet of the mojo you have going on." I almost had the feeling like he was a leper.
This sentiment for a woman I came across this week who was struggling with her business.
The forum I met her in was a type of meeting. Others in the group were trying to offer her good suggestions and her response to the them was to look upon them as criticisms/attacks and slap them down with a vengence.
It seemed like the only thing she wanted to do was lament her situation, the people in her life, "how hard it is", how people were not supporting her, etc. It was pizzing me off to see folks offer her ideas - good ideas - for free even and for her to put them down and instead use the meeting as an opportunity to dump her toxic waste (I hate to write that too).
Needless to say, I will not be attending anymore for the same reason that I am avoiding the other guy. But still, part of me wants to help (the lady, not the guy).
So (if you got this far into reading), if you see someone having an issue, do you take the "I will help you, I love you" approach or do you treat them as a leper and stay away.
), but I'd provide help, if I could. 
