Are you ok with your SOs side piece?

I don't like the idea of it. Mainly because of me being the 'side piece'. And old ex and I had an off the chart sexual chemistry. After we broke up we still messed around. But we both came to the agreement that we could never be in the presence of each other if we were in a relationship with someone because we knew we would mess around.
 
A little word of advice, I didn't know X was his previous knock-boots once-in-a-while...and when I did find out, he had had an affair during our marriage with her. Um, former side-pieces can be dangerous, imho. Be aware.
 
No, OP. I defnitely would not be ok with having a bf who slept with 50% of his female friend list. That is just way too much to deal with! More power to you, though.
 
I most be insecure because I certainly would not go for it. The only exceptions is it is someone he hasn't seen in actually 10 years or so but he has always kept in touch with them by email or call once in a while. But more than that I'm not too sure that I would tolerate it. I wouldn't be comfortable with him being all buddy buddy with someone he has had sexual intercourse with.
 
2 actual friends...

So he has 4 female friends in total? If they talk a lot maybe you could ask him to cut the contact down now that you're in a relationship and see if that makes a difference to how you feel.
My SO had two, but fell out with one a few years ago and the other he hasn't seen since last March, but she's on facebook friends.
 
So he has 4 female friends in total? If they talk a lot maybe you could ask him to cut the contact down now that you're in a relationship and see if that makes a difference to how you feel.
My SO had two, but fell out with one a few years ago and the other he hasn't seen since last March, but she's on facebook friends.

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Wait a minute he slept with the babysitter/housekeeper that took care of his children??!

Oh no, it takes a very SPECIAL man to do that. And why do I get the feeling that him "clarifying" the percentage of women he slept with is just him BACK PEDALLING on the amount, just because you confronted him about it.
Thats just somthing most men do whenever they feel cornered, and just dont want to explain themselves or cause further drama.
 
OP, he has a harem mentality and you are just one other conquest. What if he shelves you like he did the others, but with sexual strings attached? Is this a guy you are wanting to marry?
 
just another post saying I wouldn't be okay with it. I don't bother with being immature or not, what matters is that I feel uncomfortable about it, intensely so and don't want to deal with a man who can't appreciate that.
I have no desire whatsoever to keep up with my ex-BF so really don't see why he should remain friends. Occasional contact is fine but being friends doesn't fly with me. I don't mind my man's past but would rather it remained past, and not have a place in my life or his in present life. only exception for me is if there's a child in the picture.
 
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