I had to get your attention somehow!!!
....Female friends whom he's slept with in the past? I asked for opinions on this before but no bite. I'm having a hard time accepting and being comfortable with my SOs female friends in this category. He's slept with half of them at some point in the past!
Appropriate relationships or not so much?
Honestly, I have one friend that I had something with in college so I don't want to be unfair...
My ex was like that and although I tried to be ok with it, it was a very slippery slope.
He would hang out with the friend then say they slipped and kiss but it wasnt a long kiss and it didnt mean anything.
Then he would say he hung out at her house all day laying in her bed while she got dressed in front of him. erplexed
Whether he was guilty of something or not he was playing with fire and it wasnt cool. My thing is if a man has the need to hang out with exes and females he slept with, he must have some reason for wanting to keep them around. But thats just my opinion. That same guy I broke up with now has a new gf and tries to keep me as his "friend" so now I know his game but its not happening.
Not to derail the thread...but what could possibly have been his motive for telling you this...I think he was TRYING to make you uncomfortable with this info .
One or two maybe if I saw the interaction and was cool on they truly are just friends but half his friends - naw too much for me
Have to admit the title really grabbed my attention!
Now as for the real question, that would depend on the state of the current relationship. I don't believe in forbidding adults from doing things especially choosing friends. My S/O had a life before me and I have to accept that.
However, if I observe that the relationship is more than platonic, coming from either side, him or her, best believe I will make my thoughts known and something will need to be done.
i would def not be comfortable with this. thats like asking for trouble. and i'd have to wonder about a guy who's slept with half of his female friends to begin with. not sure i'd want to date a guy like that.
Nope... And I'm pretty chill/ open-minded abt this sorta thing. I mean think abt it... Would your boyfriend be okay with you hanging out with guys that had hit that in the past? I think not.
Depends. If they are invovled in a relationships...no harm. What's the extent of friendship...is it Bsing on Twitter or hanging out? Many factors come into play. You have to meet them...so they know he's taken. Some people are capable of having a strictly platonic relationship. While others......
I'm friends with my ex's. *kanye shrug*. One is married and one has a gf. We keep in contact and talk sporadically. We don't hang out often, if at all. I don't see a problem with it because I know the type of woman I am(I'm not a cheater and I will never be the other woman). If we talk it's usually "how are you/hows the new baby/how's work". Nothing major.
Vanthie said:Yeah, I don't mind.
There's a few women that we've talked about who he still friends with although they catch up infrequently. One that he never slept with, other that he did have a short relationship a long time ago.
I pick men very carefully in terms of traits. I can trust my SOs to handle business, and situations that may arise the way I handle mine. If I couldn't then I would feel a little different.