Are you automatically put into the Groupie category if....

PretteePlease

PretteePlease

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He is famous? I met someone at a BBQ and he has a name for himself. He approached and me being me I asked if he was trying to take me out on a date. We set a lil something up. In the back of my mind I'm considering all of these factors that really shouldn't matter.

Will I be seen as a groupie if we begin to date?
Will I suddenly be blog material?
Will they start digging for dirt?
Will it matter that I know other people in his profession?


Why isn't dating more simple? I should just be happy to go out and get to know him.

PS. I'm not telling his name. I won't say his team. He is a big name on a big team and is single never married and seems to be hinting that he is tired of the single life.

Would you even give a "known guy" a chance?
 
I would and not give a **** about what everyone else thought. Just be prepared to be under the microscope. This sounds exciting!
 
Yes and no. I say no because I'm a private person and if he's as famous as you say he is, I wouldn't want my personal life all over the internet.

Have fun while it last and make sure to keep us updated. :grin:
 
I wouldn't consider you a groupie but you know you would probably be labeled that.

I say do you, enjoy and just be aware that your life may not be private any longer if this gets serious.
 
Actually dating a well-known person out in public does not a groupie make.
Sleeping with any and every athlete, not being publicly courted, sleeping with multiple men on the same team, allowing a man to treat you as a sex object instead of a human being = groupie IMO.
Nothing about you is groupie-ish. Allow him to pursue you, maintain the same standards you'd have with any other person, and have fun.
 
i'm racking my brains tryna figure out who dude is!
Just go for it! People will label you anyway, c'est la vie.
Could we see you on Basketball Wives in the near future??:lachen:
 
Girl forget what people think and have fun.

Just make sure your body, fashion, and hair game is tight because you know how they do in that one forum :look:
 
Who cares he came up and approached YOU> It was not like you were running around waving your panties in the air saying HERE I AM HERE I AM pick me pick me. And if you DO start dating this guy please stay away from the other ballers wives and girlfriends they seem Dirty
 
I would be happy and enjoy myself. **** everyone else. Life is short, live a little! Besides he asked you on a date, that hardly makes you a groupie.
 
No, you will be ok.

I think people throw the phrases like Groupie, Golddigger, Hater and >gasp< Hoodrat around entirely too much and freely.

But who am I, since I am quick to call someone a Whore, but usually they are. :spank:
 
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I'm no fool I'm going out but there is just so much outside ickyness to be considered. That being said if he is an arse this will be his first and final.

I would never do one of them wives shows-----specially if I couldn't claw a right out of a 9-12yr relationship (um Imani, um Evelyn)
 
Professional athletes aren't my thing but i've had enough experience with them on these types of issues because of my friends.

That said, yes, you are likely to be seen as a groupie if you start seeing this guy. For the most part, you will be seen as a groupie until you become either: a) a wife or b)baby mamma. This is just my experience being around my friends SO's (one DH). Other players wives only respect and warm up to those two categories IME. At the end of the day, who cares. Don't worry about it because people will always unfairly judge the spouses and significant others of public figures....... eh, it comes with the territory....
 
PretteePlease said:
Will I be seen as a groupie if we begin to date?
Will I suddenly be blog material?
Will they start digging for dirt?
Will it matter that I know other people in his profession?
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to answer your questions: yes, they will talk about you on talk-sports, LSA and a couple other baller boards. People are just so damn nosey! fact of life. lol I hope homebody doesnt have twitter because yes, everyone will try to be in your business... And you show your face on here too!!!! :nono: Maybe you should take a hiatus off of here for a while if things start to get serious......

ETA: If you have facebook or twitter I advise you to put those on lockdown or have them highly restricted....
 
Ehren said:
Yeah, I should clarify my comments upthread that my experience was not with a pro athlete, so that may account for different experiences. Out of curiosity, @barbiesocialite , how would a longterm fiance be judged (As seen on the BW shows)? Is she taken seriously?
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other than my homegirl's bff who is married to her college sweetheart, I only personally know women who were/are longterm girlfriends. The only longterm fiancee's I've ever encountered were baby mammas so their status was a little different. But considering how longterm girlfriends tend to be treated like outcasts and/or golddiggers/groupies by the other women until they pop out a baby or get married, I highly doubt longterm fiancees get a warm reception because people would still view them as replaceable too. IDK. Again, my experience is limited to observation at games/events, and experiences with my own friends so someone who actually dates in this world would be better suited to answer than I am.
 
I wouldn't date him for that reason. Be that woman who turned him down, then made him chase you. Let him wear you down for that date :yep: THEN you have no chance at falling into that groupie trap, and who knows? Maybe we WILL be reading about you in the ET forum. And about your wedding :yep:
 
MissMasala5 said:
I wouldn't date him for that reason. Be that woman who turned him down, then made him chase you. Let him wear you down for that date :yep: THEN you have no chance at falling into that groupie trap, and who knows? Maybe we WILL be reading about you in the ET forum. And about your wedding :yep:
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THIS! :yep:

Men like that are used to hearing "yes" all the time, it never hurt a woman in this situation to play hard to get. :yep:
 
A lot of athletes are married and you never hear anything about their wives.
Unless you put yourself out there, i wouldn't worry too much about it.
If y'all get serious, I would cancel my subscription to LHCF though.

Good luck and have fun!
 
MissMasala5 said:
I wouldn't date him for that reason. Be that woman who turned him down, then made him chase you. Let him wear you down for that date :yep: THEN you have no chance at falling into that groupie trap, and who knows? Maybe we WILL be reading about you in the ET forum. And about your wedding :yep:
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Agreed! I don't know if you subscribe to The Rules, but in the updated version there is a section on dating celebrities that touches on the above.

Have fun and good luck!
 
I just wanna know what you're wearing and how you'll style your hair? Oh, and I dunno about turning him down just to make him chase you. I'll bet it's been tried before. Instead I think it best to be yourself. No games. If he's cool then see him again. If not...leave it alone. Treat him like a regular guy.

Ugh. I hope he isn't one of those crazy dressing athletes. I can't stand gators or grown men who dress like teenagers.
 
barbiesocialite said:
THIS! :yep:

Men like that are used to hearing "yes" all the time, it never hurt a woman in this situation to play hard to get. :yep:
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I see people been watching too much Just Wright lol. As for messing with athletes or famous people don't have a prob with it but that's how most women are wired as far as successful guys. I know that women do/go for stuff that they wouldn't with regular guys and that's my only beef with it. Like somebody said earlier just be yourself and you should be okay.
 
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