THIS
The fact I like nerds adds to my hesitancy about marriage. I don't trust the financial intent of my pseudo-SO or the other surgeon nerd I used to date that's hanging around lately. They do a little but I need them to loosen up.
Every single nerd I've dated is a cheapa$$ m*fo. Mind you these are "cool" nerds. I met them through their sister who was a friend or in a "cool" environment.
There's a theme to the women they ended up marrying too. Workaholic women that pay for everything themselves or the super plain janes that they can control and don't require much effort (financially, emotionally, etc) and most of these women dated them forever or had long drawn out engagements. After all is said and done unless most of these women work, they still don't really reap the benefits of their DH/SO's nerdy income. They have a big house and send their kids to decent schools but thats bout it. They arent living the trohpy wife life for the most part unless they make their own
For example, I want to ask my ex's wife (who I'm friends with, his sister -the DH's- is my long-term highschool friend which is how we dated initially) to take a trip but I know she's going to be hesitant bc even though she's a SAHW my nerdy ex, her DH, is going to be on some cheap a$$ bs like "where you going? why you gotta go there? why is it so expensive? we just went on vacation to visit my fam (Illinois
)..." a HAM! lol I know she's in that big ole house bored and miserable as hell and on a tight arse budget thanks to her nerdy cheap DH. She better go back to grad school on his dime
OT: I can see my nerdy ex having a mistress too that he spends all types of $$$ on.
Disclaimer: not all nerds are like this, I'm keeping hope alive for one that let's me loose like Chris Bosh is with his wife Adrienne or that plastic surgeon's wife on Real Housewives of Miami
<---he doesnt have to make that much money tho, just be a lot more flexible than the nerds I've met.