/veɪn/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[veyn] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation, –adjective, -er, -est. 1.excessively proud of or concerned about one's own appearance, qualities, achievements, etc.; conceited: a vain dandy. 2.proceeding from or showing personal vanity: vain remarks. 3.ineffectual or unsuccessful; futile: a vain effort. 4.without real significance, value, or importance; baseless or worthless: vain pageantry; vain display. 5.Archaic. senseless or foolish. 
. BUT when vainity goes wrong is when it clouds your judgement and makes you feel entitled to attempt to make others feel bad in the attepts to make you feel better. That is just my opinion. No offense to anyone this may include.
and sometimes it stinks. 
So he can care about looking his very best, but we can't? He can't be the only pretty one, sowwy.
No offense to OP's buddy but it does seem like the pot calling the kettle black. As it is written, judge not lest ye be judged.
). Anyway, in my delusion that I wasn't vain, I was once challenged with this question: When handed a group photo in which you were a part, whose image do you look for first? Ahem, need I answer? So yes, even the most perfect among us has a drop of vanity, and like everything else in moderation, it's OK.
But as for your friend, an outsider looking in, he is entitled to say it. Opinions are like a$$holes, everyone's got one,
Of course, I know the definition of "vain"; but I'm gonna look it up JUST IN CASE there is some secondary meaning . . . hum Jeopardy tune, b right back . . .
vain
Okay, from looking at the above definition (dictionary.com); yes, we are vain.
Here's the thing, I think vanity has gotten a negative rap, it's origin seems to be that of shallowness, superficiality and a whole buncha other negative connotations. However, speaking for myself, and some of what I have read here (LHCF) via comments, etc. I do not feel the PRIDE we have in maintaining our hair, fine, is a negative thing thus I wear my "VANITY" with pride.
Humph, so, if we walked around like sack cloth and ashes, does that make us better women?????? Do we need a woe is me attitude, "Oooh, things are so miserable" demeanor???
A woman's hair is her glory. Not my words, but those of almighty Jehovah God. Consequently, our hair more than likely serves a purpose(s); perhaps more than we may even know. It definitely is one point that separates us from men. It is obviously one piece of womanhood that is yes, I'll say it revered, respected, beautified.
So, that we know it, love it, maybe even flaunt it . . . . seems to me we are doing what we were created to do (in this instance of the mightly, mighty locks that we don).
Can I get an amen??
Shoot, it sounds like your friend should be able to relate!
I mean really, how many people wouldn't say the same thing about a "metro" man (not that I think there's anything wrong with a man who puts effort into looking AND smelling good 
). Don't get me wrong, I don't think your friend meant any harm and I don't take offense, but his comment shows that the fine line between "caring about your appearance" and being "vain" is all about perspective. 
