Amazhaan
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I'm just curious to know what the LHCF choir has to say on this.
Please hear me out though, I'm not trying to put anyone down, I'm just wondering how truly common this is...
So my friends and I were discussing this last night--they're all married, so we're not bitter black women or anything like that-- the topic came up because a former teammate of ours was on FB all the time about how wonderful her hubby is, me and hubby do this, we're going here... they have 2 kids and I commented on the fact that they have a perfect marriage on my eyes.
Well my BFF proceed to tell me that my former teammate calls her for advice etc, because her hubby has cheated on her twice, and they even seperated for 7 months before she got preggo with their 2nd kid... so the FB thing is just keeping up with appearances... me ----> *shocked face*
Another example is my ex-boyfriend... from 2 boyfriends ago... is still shacking up with the chic I broke up with him with. Did he cheat on me? No. He had lost his job and wasn't really in a rush to get another one... at the time he told me, that he had a lot of savings to help while he was unemployed... come to find out (after getting into his email account---this was years ago...don't judge me) she was paying all of his bills, car note, rent, insurance, cell bill... every month... but the kicker is... this chic was in another city... she knew about me... and still proceeded to help him out... when I broke up with him, because I can't be with or respect any many that would do that, plus he'd sit on his *** everyday and she would be at her job, updating his resume and applying to jobs for him--- *blank stare*... he went home to mama.... and later I found out that the chic had moved to Maryland and moved him there with her( she paid for plane tickets, train tickets, shipped his car, everything) in a 2-bedroom apt, where they each have a bedroom...
I found the latter part out because he and I still talk here and there ...and I can't even feel sorry for her anymore... he likes to basically call and brag that he loves his life... he can do whatever she wants, because she will continue to pay and won't go anywhere...
But of course on her FB page... she paints an entirely diff picture to her family and friends... smh
So basically my girls, were telling me that its more common then I'd like to believe. So I was curious to know your thoughts on this LHCF?
Do you know any women in a situation like this, where they put up with things for the sake of having a man or keeping up with appearances?!?
Have you ever been in that situation?!?
Why would anyone feel the need to do that?!?
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Please hear me out though, I'm not trying to put anyone down, I'm just wondering how truly common this is...
So my friends and I were discussing this last night--they're all married, so we're not bitter black women or anything like that-- the topic came up because a former teammate of ours was on FB all the time about how wonderful her hubby is, me and hubby do this, we're going here... they have 2 kids and I commented on the fact that they have a perfect marriage on my eyes.
Well my BFF proceed to tell me that my former teammate calls her for advice etc, because her hubby has cheated on her twice, and they even seperated for 7 months before she got preggo with their 2nd kid... so the FB thing is just keeping up with appearances... me ----> *shocked face*
Another example is my ex-boyfriend... from 2 boyfriends ago... is still shacking up with the chic I broke up with him with. Did he cheat on me? No. He had lost his job and wasn't really in a rush to get another one... at the time he told me, that he had a lot of savings to help while he was unemployed... come to find out (after getting into his email account---this was years ago...don't judge me) she was paying all of his bills, car note, rent, insurance, cell bill... every month... but the kicker is... this chic was in another city... she knew about me... and still proceeded to help him out... when I broke up with him, because I can't be with or respect any many that would do that, plus he'd sit on his *** everyday and she would be at her job, updating his resume and applying to jobs for him--- *blank stare*... he went home to mama.... and later I found out that the chic had moved to Maryland and moved him there with her( she paid for plane tickets, train tickets, shipped his car, everything) in a 2-bedroom apt, where they each have a bedroom...
I found the latter part out because he and I still talk here and there ...and I can't even feel sorry for her anymore... he likes to basically call and brag that he loves his life... he can do whatever she wants, because she will continue to pay and won't go anywhere...
But of course on her FB page... she paints an entirely diff picture to her family and friends... smh
So basically my girls, were telling me that its more common then I'd like to believe. So I was curious to know your thoughts on this LHCF?
Do you know any women in a situation like this, where they put up with things for the sake of having a man or keeping up with appearances?!?
Have you ever been in that situation?!?
Why would anyone feel the need to do that?!?
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