Livingmylifetothefullest
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I know that you ladies aren't men but I've often wondered this: are men able to tell that you don't have confidence?
I think anyone can tell. Its in your walk, your tone of voice, your eye contact, the things you do, the way you laugh, all of it. Unless you're a great actress, people can usually tell.
Yes i believe they can tell. Some of them can sniff out the weak like bloodhounds and then prey on you.
Okay this is scary!
I've always heard that "men can sense...." blah blah blah and I don't doubt that it's true, but what I want to know is WHAT qualities are these women exhibiting that tell men that they are "weak, unconfident, easy-prey,etc. " or what have you? I want to KNOW!!!
Absolutely. Why wouldn't they be able to see it?
As ASW said - it's often reflected in how you allow him to treat you.
Let's say, the first time you meet, he strolls up on you and isn't as respectful as he should be, but you laugh it off, and give him your number all the same. *ding* She doesn't demand respect from strange men.
Then, he calls and arranges a date, and expects you to pick him up. *ding* She's already willing to be at my beck and call.
Then, when you get there, he's chilling with his boys, not even ready, and you sit down to be 'polite' and chat with them. *ding* She's willing - already - to be my second/third/fourth priority.
It's in what you do, and how you carry yourself, and most importantly, in how you DEMAND to be treated by a man.
I'll give an example, I often don't make eye contact with people but I've had numerous people tell me that it means I have no confidence. The problem is that isn't true, I just prefer not to make it. So, it's quite upsetting that people think I have no confidence all because I won't stare at them in the face.
Why don't you like to look someone in the face.
Or kind of icy on the outside but as soon as a person talks to you they discover how sweet you really are.
You know I really don't know, I just never have. I remember my mother saying that even as a baby I wouldn't look at people and nothing has really changed in 26 years. I can do eye contact briefly when someone is speaking to me (I'm a great listener) but overall, I just can't do the eye contact thing.
Men now say my eyes call them. Then when I look them straight in the eyes it does something to them.
As ASW said - it's often reflected in how you allow him to treat you.
Let's say, the first time you meet, he strolls up on you and isn't as respectful as he should be, but you laugh it off, and give him your number all the same. *ding* She doesn't demand respect from strange men.
Then, he calls and arranges a date, and expects you to pick him up. *ding* She's already willing to be at my beck and call.
Then, when you get there, he's chilling with his boys, not even ready, and you sit down to be 'polite' and chat with them. *ding* She's willing - already - to be my second/third/fourth priority.
It's in what you do, and how you carry yourself, and most importantly, in how you DEMAND to be treated by a man.
I know that you ladies aren't men but I've often wondered this: are men able to tell that you don't have confidence?
couldn't have said it better!I think anyone can tell. Its in your walk, your tone of voice, your eye contact, the things you do, the way you laugh, all of it. Unless you're a great actress, people can usually tell.
So, do ya'll think unapproachable might = confidence? Ok, I guess I should be more specific. What I mean is, some women are deemed unapproachable by men because they (men) can tell they (women) aren't the ones to just be a doormat therefore, they can see that the unapproachable chick has confidence.